u/SeedCraft76

THE IMPORTANT COMMENT IS THE FINAL PARAGRAPH

I met a friend through Reddit in October through mutual interests, and we played Minecraft and Fortnite and GeoGuessr together for a while. She is in a long distance relationship with a guy on the complete other side of the planet, which i am cool with. I only messaged her for friend purposes due to mutual interests and I respect her love for this guy. However, since January, she has been complaining about A LOT of things with him, and everything she says makes me realise how much of a walking red flag this guy is. No job security, doesnt change schedule to meet with her time difference, no job but sleeps 24/7 and gets upset when she sleeps after long hours at work, says she should stop working because she earns nothing, even though she is in the top 20% of earners in her country, he stares at other girls when they met in person for the first time, etc. He is a very lazy and unmotivated person with pretty much no future. She complains about him a lot, but seems to be stuck with him and forgives really easily. I am the complete opposite, and l am helping her get through everything and stay strong, which really, he should be doing. But no, he only cares about her leaving her job and staying up 24/7 to video call each other. I want what is best for her, and I think this guy is a big no no. We met in person for the first time as we are both locals, and since that day, she seems to be obsessed with me and asking to hang out every week, messaging me "lowkey, I miss you" and "you're so cool irl" etc. She has even said she doesnt know if she has a future with him to me. Nothing lovey dovey yet though. If i am interpreting this correctly, and she is starting to like me more as the days go by, what can I do as a friend to support her choice with whether she commits to her boyfriend, or leaves him? What would you do if you were me? For context, I do really like her as a friend, I am very grateful that we met. Girlfriend wise, I would definitely date her, but I dont want her to leave her boyfriend because of me, I want her to do what is best for her, knowing at the same time that I like her.

She has even said to me that she knows what the right decision is for her, which is me, but she is scared to leave him because he has threatened to kill himself if he has to live without her. On top of this, he is abusive towards pretty much everything and rages at inappropriate times, scaring her. Plus, he refuses to get a real job. I could keep going, but these are the most important ones, especially the suicide component.

What would you do?

The important comment is the final paragraph

I met a friend through Reddit in October through mutual interests, and we played Minecraft and Fortnite and GeoGuessr together for a while. She is in a long distance relationship with a guy on the complete other side of the planet, which i am cool with. I only messaged her for friend purposes due to mutual interests and I respect her love for this guy. However, since January, she has been complaining about A LOT of things with him, and everything she says makes me realise how much of a walking red flag this guy is. No job security, doesnt change schedule to meet with her time difference, no job but sleeps 24/7 and gets upset when she sleeps after long hours at work, says she should stop working because she earns nothing, even though she is in the top 20% of earners in her country, he stares at other girls when they met in person for the first time, etc. He is a very lazy and unmotivated person with pretty much no future. She complains about him a lot, but seems to be stuck with him and forgives really easily. I am the complete opposite, and l am helping her get through everything and stay strong, which really, he should be doing. But no, he only cares about her leaving her job and staying up 24/7 to video call each other. I want what is best for her, and I think this guy is a big no no. We met in person for the first time as we are both locals, and since that day, she seems to be obsessed with me and asking to hang out every week, messaging me "lowkey, I miss you" and "you're so cool irl" etc. She has even said she doesnt know if she has a future with him to me. Nothing lovey dovey yet though. If i am interpreting this correctly, and she is starting to like me more as the days go by, what can I do as a friend to support her choice with whether she commits to her boyfriend, or leaves him? What would you do if you were me? For context, I do really like her as a friend, I am very grateful that we met. Girlfriend wise, I would definitely date her, but I dont want her to leave her boyfriend because of me, I want her to do what is best for her, knowing at the same time that I like her.

She has even said to me that she knows what the right decision is for her, which is me, but she is scared to leave him because he has threatened to kill himself if he has to live without her. On top of this, he is abusive towards pretty much everything and rages at inappropriate times, scaring her. Plus, he refuses to get a real job. I could keep going, but these are the most important ones, especially the suicide component.

What would you do?

I met a friend through Reddit in October through mutual interests, and we played Minecraft and Fortnite and GeoGuessr together for a while. She is in a long distance relationship with a guy on the complete other side of the planet, which i am cool with. I only messaged her for friend purposes due to mutual interests and I respect her love for this guy. However, since January, she has been complaining about A LOT of things with him, and everything she says makes me realise how much of a walking red flag this guy is. No job security, doesnt change schedule to meet with her time difference, no job but sleeps 24/7 and gets upset when she sleeps after long hours at work, says she should stop working because she earns nothing, even though she is in the top 20% of earners in her country, he stares at other girls when they met in person for the first time, etc. He is a very lazy and unmotivated person with pretty much no future. She complains about him a lot, but seems to be stuck with him and forgives really easily. I am the complete opposite, and l am helping her get through everything and stay strong, which really, he should be doing. But no, he only cares about her leaving her job and staying up 24/7 to video call each other. I want what is best for her, and I think this guy is a big no no. We met in person for the first time as we are both locals, and since that day, she seems to be obsessed with me and asking to hang out every week, messaging me "lowkey, I miss you" and "you're so cool irl" etc. She has even said she doesnt know if she has a future with him to me. Nothing lovey dovey yet though. If i am interpreting this correctly, and she is starting to like me more as the days go by, what can I do as a friend to support her choice with whether she commits to her boyfriend, or leaves him? What would you do if you were me? For context, I do really like her as a friend, I am very grateful that we met. Girlfriend wise, I would definitely date her, but I dont want her to leave her boyfriend because of me, I want her to do what is best for her, knowing at the same time that I like her. Plus, I am a walking green flag. Successful (very for my age), local, independent, happy, smart, dedicated, ambitious, etc. I am everything this guy is not. BUT, I am not saying this for the purpose of "why isn't she leaving for me" like a gold digger type of thing. I am saying this to show how much of a red flag this guy is. He is so lazy. What would you do?

Update just now - he applied for a visa to move to Australia. She feels stuck forever. Read below.

I met a friend through Reddit in October through mutual interests, and we played Minecraft and Fortnite and GeoGuessr together for a while. She is in a long distance relationship with a guy on the complete other side of the planet, which i am cool with. I only messaged her for friend purposes due to mutual interests and I respect her love for this guy. However, since January, she has been complaining about A LOT of things with him, and everything she says makes me realise how much of a walking red flag this guy is. No job security, doesnt change schedule to meet with her time difference, no job but sleeps 24/7 and gets upset when she sleeps after long hours at work, says she should stop working because she earns nothing, even though she is in the top 20% of earners in her country, he stares at other girls when they met in person for the first time, etc. He is a very lazy and unmotivated person with pretty much no future. She complains about him a lot, but seems to be stuck with him and forgives really easily. I am the complete opposite, and l am helping her get through everything and stay strong, which really, he should be doing. But no, he only cares about her leaving her job and staying up 24/7 to video call each other. I want what is best for her, and I think this guy is a big no no. We met in person for the first time as we are both locals, and since that day, she seems to be obsessed with me and asking to hang out every week, messaging me "lowkey, I miss you" and "you're so cool irl" etc. She has even said she doesnt know if she has a future with him to me. Nothing lovey dovey yet though. If i am interpreting this correctly, and she is starting to like me more as the days go by, what can I do as a friend to support her choice with whether she commits to her boyfriend, or leaves him? What would you do if you were me? For context, I do really like her as a friend, I am very grateful that we met. Girlfriend wise, I would definitely date her, but I dont want her to leave her boyfriend because of me, I want her to do what is best for her, knowing at the same time that I like her. Plus, I am a walking green flag. Successful (very for my age), local, independent, happy, smart, dedicated, ambitious, etc. I am everything this guy is not. BUT, I am not saying this for the purpose of "why isn't she leaving for me" like a gold digger type of thing. I am saying this to show how much of a red flag this guy is. He is so lazy. What would you do?

As many of you know, "Winner Ester" on Facebook has been stealing our posts word for word and photos, and sharing it as if it is their posts.

They have got 30,000 followers.

We need to as a community, show that this is not right.

The more of us that report this profile, the quicker we can deal with this a$$.

Go to Facebook right now, search them up, report them. Upvote this post, share it, do whatever you can. If you can find a way in reporting on Facebook where you can leave a comment, do it mentioning this whole issue.

I say this because me along with many of you are pissed off at this person.

Come on team, let's bowl a 300 through reports. 299 pins to go.