u/Sensitive-Message590

3rd year college student here.

So, I used to be friends with our acting thesis leader. Let's call them L.

Honestly, nung una pa lang, ayoko talagang maging kagrupo siya sa thesis. We've been friends for a while, and alam naman natin kung gaano ka-complicated kapag kaibigan mo yung mga kagroupo mo, especially sa thesis. Pero L insisted, so I eventually agreed.

Fast forward to when we started writing our paper. Napansin ko na L would constantly rant to me about our other groupmates. Kesyo pangit daw yung ambag nila, hindi marunong gumawa, hindi tumutulong, and so on. The thing is, may mga times na I genuinely didn't think their work was that bad naman. Pero dahil friend ko si L, nakikinig na lang ako sa rants niya. Ayoko rin naman makipag-argue over something like that.

And honestly, this isn't new behavior from L. Almost every time may group project kami, may reklamo siya sa gawa ng ibang tao. Either hindi niya gusto yung output, hindi raw tumutulong yung iba, or feeling niya siya lang yung may alam kung paano gawin nang maayos yung project.

Don't get me wrong, L is smart. Pero I also know that I'm capable, and so are some of our other groupmates. Ang problema kasi, sometimes it feels like L thinks their way is the ONLY right way to do things.

Ang ending? They would take over the work themselves, then complain na walang tumutulong sa kanila. Like, paano kami makakatulong kung ikaw mismo yung nagtatanggal ng contributions namin?

I'm a people pleaser, and I've always been one of the top achievers in class. I'm not saying this to brag, but I take my academics seriously. Kapag may group project, I make sure na may ambag ako, I do my part, and I try to help wherever I can.

So imagine my confusion when I started noticing na tinatanggal ni L yung mga parts na ginawa ko sa thesis namin.

At first, I didn't say anything. Pero habang tumatagal, napapansin ko na parang familiar na yung pattern. L would complain about one groupmate, criticize their work, and eventually take over their part. Then another groupmate. Then another.

I eventually confronted L about it, and they told me na pangit daw yung gawa ko. They even removed my access to our document.

FO na kami ngayon lol.

Now, I've seen plenty of posts here about groupmates na walang ambag, hindi maayos gumawa, or umaasa lang sa ibang members. And I get it. I've been a leader before, too, so I know how frustrating it can be when you're carrying a group project.

But this situation has me questioning myself.

Pangit ba talaga yung gawa ko? Or was I dealing with someone who couldn't trust anyone else's work unless it was done their way?

I'm not saying na perfect yung output ko. I'm very much open to criticism, and if my work really needed improvement, I would've appreciated actual feedback so I could fix it.

Pero yung basta na lang tatanggalin yung ambag ko, remove my access, and make me feel like I was the problem? I don't even know what to think anymore.

Hello! 24F, anyone here planning to go alone as well? Let's make a GC! Planning to watch on Sunday.

I need to vent because I genuinely don't know if I'm being unreasonable.

I'm a writer. Before AI became the answer to everything, my workload was pretty straightforward. I'd spend an 8-hour day editing around 10 emails, and even that was already moving at a pretty fast pace considering the amount of research and quality checking involved. Editing isn't just fixing grammar. It's checking flow, tone, brand voice, fact-checking, making sure it actually sounds like a human wrote it, and catching all the little things that make copy either work... or flop.

Now my boss uses AI to generate those same emails.

His logic?

"Well, it only takes me about 2 hours to generate 10 emails with AI, so it should only take you about 2 hours to edit them."

...What?

The AI didn't magically remove the editing process. If anything, sometimes it creates more work because I have to untangle robotic phrasing, repeated ideas, random inaccuracies, awkward transitions, and make sure none of it sounds like it came from a chatbot.

It's like someone handing you a frozen pizza and saying, "The ingredients are already there, so cooking it should take 30 seconds."

No. That's not how any of this works.

The part that's frustrating me most is this growing assumption that AI erased the need for skilled writers. People see a wall of text appear in five seconds and assume the quality is already there.

It isn't.

Good editing is invisible. When it's done well, nobody notices it happened. They only notice when it's missing.

At this point I'm tempted to match the expectations. If they only want to budget two hours, then they'll get two hours' worth of editing. No obsessing over awkward sentences. No polishing every paragraph until it actually shines. Just enough so it technically reads fine.

Obviously I'd never say that out loud, but it's hard not to think that way when you're expected to squeeze eight hours of quality into a two-hour expectation.

I honestly don't know what to tell my boss. Do I push back and explain that AI doesn't eliminate the editing process, or do I just nod, say "sure," and accept expectations that I know aren't realistic.

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