u/Sensitive-Syrup-5405

my boyfriend (25) has been really irritated with me (26) bc of my choice of underwear. i wear lingerie almost every day no matter if it's to work or sexy time. not matching or anything. it's comfortable & cute & i get them on sale. sometimes i'll wear my nicest ones on laundry day bc those are the only ones i'll have left. my bf has been accusing me of cheating with someone at the office and says that it's weird. he offered to buy me regular underwear for his comfort but i did not like that idea as it feels like he's controlling what i wear plus he's the only one that sees it aside from me ofc. i'm not cheating on him with anyone. not my coworkers, not my boss, not my clients. the allegations are very distressing, especially since there's "no proof" i'm telling the truth according to him. his bird brained lady friend apologized to him for my lack of understanding which pissed me off even more. from a male's perspective, do y'all understand his pov? or is he just insecure?

edit: by lingerie, anything with lace or lace accents. no garters or stockings or anything like that. never matching. idk if this makes a difference

hi, my bf & i have known each other for about a year but have been with each other for 3 months. i want things to end between us as i feel neither of us are ready for a relationship. we are always fighting & have mental health issues, ESPECIALLY him. he feels like he has to keep trying in this but it's not healthy. on top of that, he doesn't have a great job, no car, no place of his own, no degree, & ptsd from past relationships. i want the best for him & want him to realize on his own that he needs to go through with a break up with me. any idea on affirmations? or experience from others?

i am 26f & my boyfriend is 25m. we have been talking for about 1 year now & have been dating for 3 months. i have never had sex before & he has a lot of sexual experiences & prides himself in being good at it. he has always had a high libido & watches porn quite often. he shares that he's very attracted to me & wants to be intimate with me. he has made this clear since month 1 of us talking & will encourage me to practice with a dildo & with him so that we can. i don't like sending nudes but will send them to him as he says it's something that he needs as it shows interest. he states that he is very sexually frustrated as he hasn't had sex in 4 months. he is always vocal about his sexual desires towards me to the point where the conversation always turns sexual. i have pointed this out and he has expressed frustration that he can't talk about it & can't act on it bc of me. i want to practice more so we can be intimate but can be burnt out from my schedule, i try when i can. he says he can go about 4-5 rounds & masturbates multiple times a day (i think he said he's trying to decrease). is it normal for him to have this high of a drive? sometimes it feels like pressure to practice & send stuff but i know his needs to met where they can until we can be intimate. i would also like to add that i'm asking this bc i myself have a low libido so i'm not sure what's normal & not. i also have fear of penetration & am working through that with him.

hi everyone! i have been dealing with some mental health issues these past couple of months & feel that i have strayed away from loass. i have been incredibly insecure, unhappy in my relationship, reactive, & feel like i've just been lacking empathy & grace for others (honestly might just be burnt out). i really want to manifest a positive shift but don't even know what affirmations to begin with. i think i get caught up in finding the right blanket affirmation for self concept, abundance, & love. i also go back and forth about what i want to change about my relationship. not sure if i want to have him do a complete 180 & be exactly who i want him to be or just break up with me so that he can better himself (he made a promise to himself not to be the one to break it off for whatever reason). as for my insecurities, i feel like they have always been there but that he has been making them worse. i just feel anxious about life in general & don't even know how to pinpoint my emotions or narrow down certain things i want to manifest which is why i want all-encompassing affirmations. i want to be someone whose validation of self always comes first, is assertive with what she wants, & can also be there emotionally for others out of the depth of my heart. i don't want anyone's negativity to dim my light. being rich without working so much would be nice too lol.

any ideas as to what affirmations i can use? also would be helpful to hear about others' experiences with methods like robotic affirming, saturating, subs, etc.

My boyfriend and I have been official for a couple months but have been talking for about a year. He has been cheated on multiple times before in the past and still carries that weight into our relationship. If I put some effort into my appearance before I go to work, he will accuse me of microcheating and state that whatever I say won't convince him otherwise. I went on vacation a couple months ago & posted a picture of me in front of a scenic view. Cleavage was out due to my bathing suit but the picture was taken from the top up. He unfollowed me because of it & said that he didn't think I was that kind of person & made comments about how all my guy friends that follow me have seen my titties. Also started saying stuff about how my boss (who I've disclosed to him has been weird with me) should follow me. He kept saying things like this was the choice he chose & even stated that the reason why he started talking to the girl before me is because she didn't post things like this. He keeps asking me why I waited to get into a relationship before posting something like this, to which I responded that that implies malicious intent. I thought it was a cute picture and was not seeking male attention as he implied. I told him that going forward I wouldn't wear a bikini if it made him uncomfortable but he says he has the ick. I understand he's upset but I'm so hurt by all the comments he's made as it makes me feel like an unrespectable, low value whore.