My daughter is being baptized on the weekend. Family was supposed to host the reception, people have come in from far away but my relatives hosting it have come down sick so there's a big last minute change of plans. Just looking to cover that as this was very unexpected. Can send proof. And pay back next Tuesday. There's about 15 guests.
Baby is being christened on the weekend. The reception was to be held at a relatives house but at the last minute we'll have to find a restaurant or throw together a picnic weather permitting -- any suggestions? I'm scrambling and at a loss
It's been about a month out of stopping all gambling and I'm beginning to feel bad because I have a better idea of the damage I really caused. I asked my sibling for money to load our laundry yesterday and the suspicion and accusations in her tone while talking to me really cut me like a knife.
Seeing other people enjoying the long weekend while my kids are not doing much of anything when we could have been out is painful. Theyre so small and innocent, they deserve a better mom than the one that they have. It's not even the money. While of course that's a painful part of it, the mental energy I wasted on the gambling, on catching up with bills, worrying about how I'm gonna make the next payment, and keeping everything a secret just robbed my kids of my attention and I'm so ashamed.
My psychiatrist and therapist tell me it was a coping mechanism to deal with my newborn and toddler and a part time husband and a completely dysfunctional family. It was an escape from the winter weather that kept me inside. I believe them. But it will never undo the time and love and money lost.
It was just too accessible in Ontario. I can only move forward but it's so painful to be here sometimes. I'm worth more dead than alive but my kids are worth watching grow up. I cant even post on mom groups without other mom's judging and being rude but I deserve it
I'm being treated for PPD with a health team and my family doctor.
I have a lot of anxiety and depression happening. Part of it is not having opportunity to leave the house. Dealing with aging parents, a not very empathetic husband and boredom I guess. I love my kids but the past few months have been my lowest of lows. I have a psychiatrist, therapist, taking medication. This situation has also led to irrational and embarassing coping mechanisms like gambling which I've since managed to overcome.
I would like to return to work sooner than 12 months and see if my mental health improves. But I'm also worried that would be a misstep and my PPD worsens. My daughters are 2.5yo and 8 months old. Returning to work would effectively end my EI claim though so I feel I should know with confidence what it is exactly I'm trying to achieve. I don't know how to work my way through this. I'm confused and embarassed at my actions. I love my kids more than anything but continue to make extremely financially and relationship destroying decisions. I hate myself constantly and have depleted all my social relationships and support with my embarassing actions.
Mommy to a 2.5 year old and 8 month old. Oldest child is currently in daycare and I am home with the 8 month old. I've been experiencing PPD but have recently realized it's not so much my kids but the other responsibilities I'm trying to balance along with taking care of my kids. Bringing my elderly parents to apartments, having to race back to daycare in time, waking up for the drop off to align the time with the morning appointments for my parents. My husband works literally during the hours of drop off, and he'll do pick up most days but the day just still feel like a lot for me when I include my duties as a daughter.
The last few days Ive had the kids by myself without my parents around and even without my husband, I can manage both of them way better than I thought and also better than my parents would say. They are always questioning "how will you handle both of them?" when I embark on a plan to bring my two kids out by myself and it really wore down my confidence in myself as a mom. Realizing I can probably handle both of them has been eye opening and kind of depressing. I was extremely worn out during pregnancy but obviously am much more mobile now. I need to spend less time at my parents place and let them handle themselves so I can focus solely on my kids.
That being said, I've been thinking about resigning from my work where I'm supposed to return in 4 months and taking care of my kids for the next few years. I can convert to a part time role and work only on the weekends which is still financially enough for me and my husband is okay with paying the bulk of the bills. I'll also be saving the $1000 that we'd be spending on daycare otherwise. I've also realized I can just bring them to EarlyOns for the socialization aspect and learning songs. It's only a year and a half more before my oldest starts school and 3.5 years for my youngest.
Pros:
- spend time with my kids before they each respectively start school
- kids get bonding time on weekends with grandparents, my parents will babysit on weekends
- still financially able to save and not be totally dependent on my husband
- weekend opportunity to get out of the house so I'm not burned out watching my boys
- still employed so there's not a huge gap on my resume
Cons:
- losing my benefits (husband should be getting full-time work within the next 6 months so it won't be a long gap
- I wont be contributing to my workplace pension plan anymore
If it's financially feasible, is there anything else I'm missing BabyBumpMome? I'm in the GTA.
I don't have a trust worthy 3rd party who can hold my money for me I'm in Ontario Canada - what can I do? My whole family is quite poverty stricken and terrible with money management. My significant other has a history of stock piling money and using it to control me. I do not ave any friends frust worthy to keep my money. I make an okay income but not enough to hire a financial planner or advisor or anything of the sort.i really just need a trust worthy company or person to handle my money for me because there is sadly no one in my life who can assist me in this way.
Don't make suggestions as to who I can ask, I literally have no one and I can't nail down my addiction.
Prices are crazy it won't really get me anywhere lol but it'll help
Unfortunately my little picky son only wants a very specific Filipino bread. Will payback Friday or sooner. thanks in advance for the pandesal and fillings if anyone can help out.
Going through PPD led to horrible coping mechanisms, one unfortunate coping mechanism was gambling. I'm tired of this addiction and can't stand thinking about the money I've thrown down the drain just because I was depressed and bored. My monthly expenses include set bills but I'm wondering how I should handle expenses that come up suddenly that would need liquid money. I don't trust myself with a cent to spend.
editing to add: I'm located in Ontario and have gone through OLGs list of providers and casinos and self excluded from all. I had one website that required id to join and ended up relapsing because I signed up for it late and didn't complete the self exclusion until now. Wish me luck PFC, I'm so sad that my post partum period has been clouded with this shameful part of my life.
Going through PPD led to horrible coping mechanisms, one unfortunate coping mechanism was gambling. I'm tired of this addiction and can't stand thinking about the money I've thrown down the drain just because I was depressed and bored. My monthly expenses include set bills but I'm wondering how I should handle expenses that come up suddenly that would need liquid money. I don't trust myself with a cent to spend.
editing to add: I'm located in Ontario and have gone through OLGs list of providers and casinos and self excluded from all. I had one website that required id to join and ended up relapsing because I signed up for it late and didn't complete the self exclusion until now. Wish me luck PFC, I'm so sad that my post partum period has been clouded with this shameful part of my life.
PS. hi to my mom if she happens to see this. I'm trying to do better in life, I promise.
I'm so tired of this life. Trying to figure out a system with my money.
Have a strong history here, can provide verification. Pay may 12 by e-transfer. Located Toronto Canada.