u/Sgtoreoz1

So, back in 2020, my mom started a large decline. This decline started 10 years before that, but rapidly spun out of control in 2020.

She’s a hoarder, but, has always kept it clean enough for her rental inspections. She started failing inspections in 2021, she’s been in the same apartment for my entire life, so they’ve been working with her. But, it’s crazy level dirty.

She started to get very thin, and wouldn’t eat enough food when we’d visit. Like a few bites and done.

She’s always been bad with money, she’s on disability, but, in 2021 she started getting her electric and gas shut off. This was around the time I got a really good job, so, I always chalked it up to her wanting me to pay that for her. I didn’t, I haven’t lived with her since 2013.

Last, but not least, she has neglected caring for herself. She’s 100 lbs, doesn’t go to the doctor, and doesn’t address her Crohn’s disease. She’s been to the ER a few times and hasn’t taken the antibiotics for UTI they gave her.

I’ve been begging her for years to take care of herself, and she just gets mad at me.

A week ago, she almost died in the ER or Kidney injury at a hospital by us. She was admitted with her electrolytes, minerals, and vitamins all near zero, and her Crohn’s inflaming her entire digestive tracts (mouth to butt). She’s so frail she can’t walk, and needed people to clean up her apartment for her to go home to. My aunt and I agreed, and then my mom called me to ask that I remove her meth pipe and meth from the apartment before my aunt got there. I didn’t go remove and threw it in her dumpster, I didn’t want my aunt to see that. I did tell my aunt, though. The same day, an old AA friend reached out to a family member to let them know my mom had been using meth, and we found more paraphernalia in her home when cleaning.

Growing up, my mom fought Alcoholism, and was clean for a long time. She was in anonymous programs, and had friends and a therapist and did great. It’s apparent that she’s been hiding her meth use for some time, and everybody around her, including me, didn’t want to see the signs and confront her more. I had confronted her about drug use a few times, but, she ultimately made me feel bad for it.

She’s now discharged from the hospital, and is at home. She’s comitting to handling her life and Crohn’s, but, I told her that she’s not welcome in the house I own, the car I own, or into my life until she has a 6 month chip from NA or AA, and, that I will be cancelling her phone line and getting her phone to turn in if she doesn’t go to in person meetings before the weekend is up. I offered to take her and attend the meetings with her, just like when I was a kid.

She’s freaking out and telling me that she actually just took the meth from a friend who she’s trying to help get clean. I’m not buying it, but, she’s not budging and insisting that she’s not and hasn’t been using.

Should I believe her?

So, back in 2020, my mom started a large decline. This decline started 10 years before that, but rapidly spun out of control in 2020.

She’s a hoarder, but, has always kept it clean enough for her rental inspections. She started failing inspections in 2021, she’s been in the same apartment for my entire life, so they’ve been working with her. But, it’s crazy level dirty.

She started to get very thin, and wouldn’t eat enough food when we’d visit. Like a few bites and done.

She’s always been bad with money, she’s on disability, but, in 2021 she started getting her electric and gas shut off. This was around the time I got a really good job, so, I always chalked it up to her wanting me to pay that for her. I didn’t, I haven’t lived with her since 2013.

Last, but not least, she has neglected caring for herself. She’s 100 lbs, doesn’t go to the doctor, and doesn’t address her Crohn’s disease. She’s been to the ER a few times and hasn’t taken the antibiotics for UTI they gave her.

I’ve been begging her for years to take care of herself, and she just gets mad at me.

A week ago, she almost died in the ER or Kidney injury at a hospital by us. She was admitted with her electrolytes, minerals, and vitamins all near zero, and her Crohn’s inflaming her entire digestive tracts (mouth to butt). She’s so frail she can’t walk, and needed people to clean up her apartment for her to go home to. My aunt and I agreed, and then my mom called me to ask that I remove her meth pipe and meth from the apartment before my aunt got there. I didn’t go remove and threw it in her dumpster, I didn’t want my aunt to see that. I did tell my aunt, though. The same day, an old AA friend reached out to a family member to let them know my mom had been using meth, and we found more paraphernalia in her home when cleaning.

Growing up, my mom fought Alcoholism, and was clean for a long time. She was in anonymous programs, and had friends and a therapist and did great. It’s apparent that she’s been hiding her meth use for some time, and everybody around her, including me, didn’t want to see the signs and confront her more. I had confronted her about drug use a few times, but, she ultimately made me feel bad for it.

She’s now discharged from the hospital, and is at home. She’s comitting to handling her life and Crohn’s, but, I told her that she’s not welcome in the house I own, the car I own, or into my life until she has a 6 month chip from NA or AA, and, that I will be cancelling her phone line and getting her phone to turn in if she doesn’t go to in person meetings before the weekend is up. I offered to take her and attend the meetings with her, just like when I was a kid.

She’s freaking out and telling me that she actually just took the meth from a friend who she’s trying to help get clean. I’m not buying it, but, she’s not budging and insisting that she’s not and hasn’t been using.

Should I believe her?