u/Short-Highway-423 — reddlx

My Trans Parter Keeps Implying I should Transition

My (21 genderfluid) partner (23MTF) came out a few months ago. Since then she has had an insane personality shift overnight. Its almost as if shes now an animated movie character from barbie. Saying things like "ohhh my godd thats so adorable!" And being very fashion centered.

Anyways, recently she keeps dropping hints that I myself should transition from FTM. Like "oh my gosh you are such the man in this relationship" or "wouldnt it be great if we both transitioned :)" and various other comments that make me feel like transitioning is some game and not something that you truly and honestly need to think over.

Some background, when I was younger I was determined to be a boy. I actually wished for breast cancer so I wouldnt get boobs. (I was 9 dont judge) however, now adays everyone's so accepting that I geniuinly just do not care enough to transition. I dont need to be a set gender to be happy. I also think its too much work to transition and in all honesty im too lazy to do it especially since I dont really have gender dysphoria. I look in the mirror and I dont have any criticisms im just me.

Anyways am I over thinking this?

Coming out to me also came out of left field because in the beginning of our relationship she was concerned about how me being genderfluid would affect our sex life and relationship as she was a "cis male" and "wasnt into that stuff"

Somethings just really throwing me off about this whole thing so advice is definitely wanted.

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u/Short-Highway-423 — 12 days ago

▲ 104 r/Feral_Cats

Help! Feral 2 month old Kitten

Hello! I trapped a kitten today. I honestly didnt think id catch him so soon. Yesterday night, I went to my local icecream shop and saw this kitten who i thought was dumped but wouldnt approach. Turns out hes been traveling alone for a week and a half every night like clockwork to eat the dropped icecream. He also had no tail. Worried for his health i used a humane trap and caught him. I brought him to the vet i work at and they confirmed hes feral and that the apl with euthanize if i surrender him. I do not want him euthanized. There are no shelters that I can find that wont just release him and hes too young to be released. He doesnt eat dry food only wet food currently. Probably why he frequented the icecream shop. Hes also passed the 8 week window most shelters have for feral cats. I dont know what to do. Im willing to foster him but need to get him vaccinated and fixed first. Im so stumped. I dont want him dying from chocolate poisoning from icecream either. The red on his nose and paws are all icecream BTW.

Edit; He doesnt hiss, only hides and paws at the cage trying to escape. He did let us pet when he was in the humane trap.

u/Short-Highway-423 — 2 months ago

▲ 31 r/scottishfold

Needing Advice!!

Im a receptionist for a Emergency Vet clinic, at 10pm this beauty was dumped in our parking lot. I decided to bring her home in hopes to bring her to the shelter tomorrow. Unfortunately, shes a master manipulator and my boyfriend and I have fallen in love with her. Shes super friendly, cuddly and is in overall good shape for being a "stray" i didnt get her a full exam yet, however, we did make sure there are no fleas or ticks and theres no visible injuries etc. Weve determined that she is a Scottish fold of some kind due to her ears. Now, im new to the cat world and am wondering what type of medical needs they have, preffered food (she seems to like wet food the most), if i should consider adding her to my pet insurance policy, etc. I found a shelter that will spay for under 80 dollars which is perfect as we own a dog with his own medical needs. My job also provides vaccines occasionally. We are still considering our options as we are college students who live with our parents and already own a dog together, however my boyfriend has really bonded with her in the past 3 hours we've had her. They fell asleep together cuddling. We plan to introduce her to our dog tomorrow. (Hes 10lbs and very gentle snd loving with cats.) And if we keep her we will eventually slowly introduce her to the other 2 cats in the house and their dog. We estimate that shes a kitten but are unsure of an exact age.

u/Short-Highway-423 — 2 months ago

▲ 8 r/Animesuggest

What Animes do you Recommend Based on my Watch History?

So I know the title is weird but I was motivated by Jinshi from Apothecary Diaries.

Now I love romance animes especially ones that are slow burn and make the small moments feel like winning a marathon.

Here are the animes ive watched so far and loved

-Alya sometimes hides her feelings in Russian

-Apothecary Diaries

-My dress up darling

-Snow White with the Red Hair

-Yona of the Dawn

-My next life as a Villainess all routes lead to Doom

-Sacrificial Princess and the King of Beasts

-Konosuba

-The dark History of the Reincarnated Villainess

-im the Villainess so im taming the final boss

-Dan Da Dan

-Spy X Family

-Witch Hat Atelier

-im in love with the villainess

- ill bwcome a villainess that goes down in history

- Any Archdemons Dilemma: How to Love your Elf Bride

-Why Raeliana ended up at the dukes Mansion

-Sugar Apple Fairytale

-Ancient Magnus Bride

-Darling In The Franxx

-Toradora

-Maid Sama

-Kakuriyo: bed and breakfast for spirits

-Demon prince of Momochi House

-Kamisama Kiss

-Ouran Highschool Host Club

-Girlfriend Girlfriend

-Demon Slayer

-Wotokoi

-LovexLies

-Boarding School Juliet

-Is it wrong to pick up girls in a dungeon?

-tomochan is a girl

-vampire dormitory

-Kaguya Sama Love is War

- Dont toy with me Miss Nagatoro

-the Shiunji Family Children

-Nina the Starry Bride

-Highschool DxD

-Food Wars!

-Fruits Basket

Anime that was Decent:

-The Duke of Death and his Maid

-Raven of the Inner Palace

-Hensuki-are you willing to fall in love with a pervert as long as shes a cutie?

-My love story with Yamada Kun at Lv999

-Cherry Magic

-Ace Attourney

-Hitirojime My Hero

-ice guy and his cool female colleague

Anime that I didnt really like :

-Horimiya

-Brothers Conflict

-Given

-Maken Ki

-The villainess is adored by the prince of the neighboring Kingdom

-Rent a Girlfriend

Now this is going to be super annoying but I only watch dubbed animes. My dyslexia is bad and I get Migraines from consistently reading subtitles I am willing to read suggested Manga tho! I currently have the entire collection of Let's Play and days with my stepsister.

Id love to hear your recommendations. Points added for Villainess type themes!

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u/Short-Highway-423 — 3 months ago

▲ 20 r/AussieDoodle

Need help finding Solo Playtime Activities

So my 4 year old Toy poodle Australian Shepherd Mix suffers with having alone time / playing alone time and im running out of ideas on how to keep him occupied while I study. In the photo above I hid a Greenie in his bone and he spent one minute trying to get it out then started doing his playtime yip and giving me that look.

His normal activities in a day with me include 2-3 hours of walking split into 3 seperate walks. As well as 2 playtime sessions doing one of his three favorite activities, chasing a skateboard and biting it.. (yes he does this no clue why). Chasing a remote control car, tipping it over with his nose and nudging it back up while also barking at it, finally, playing with balloons. This dog is ADDICTED to balloons. He plays keepie upie, he could play it for hours, he also likes waterballoons. He often picks them up in his mouth too. Before anyone freaks out, he is closely monitored, spits out all balloon pieces and if any danglers are left we take them out of his mouth promptly. He has never swallowed balloon pieces before.

Now things I have tried doing include:

Sniff Matt's - little dude picks up the mat and shakes it out.

Lick matts - work for a solid 30 minutes i just dont want to feed him treats all the time to stay entertained

Raw hide bones - amazing.. only problem is he gets bored of them quickly. Ive hidden peanut butter in the creases and that extends playtime. (I know these are controversial but he has never swallowed one of the pieces and actually stops chewing them when they get small so we just throw them out. We've tried other bones for him but hes uninterested/ hacks from them)

Automatic dog ball- great idea works well only problem is that theyre extra loud and he has a tendancy to leave them outside and they get rained out. Lol.

Cat laser pointer - he loves them dont know why but he gets bored quickly.

Now he has about 60 stuffed animals / rubber balls that he adores which he will play with on his own for about q0 minutes before pawing at my arm, yipping, nudging me, throwing his toys at me with his mouth, or laying down on whatever im working on.

Now you might be wondering why I dont just get another dog. Well at my boyfeiends place he has dogs and cats that he adores but at my place he does not. Why not doggy daycare? He is afraid of people and dislikes when other dogs sniff his face for too long (nips when dogs dont get the hint that hes uncomfortable.) He also is not crater trained, as i dont like the idea of keeping him in small confined spaces, his "crate" is basically my room/ under my desk is where his hideout nest is located.

I swear hes a toddler in disguise. Any advice? Do i need to up the activities we do in a day? What toys have worked for yours?

u/Short-Highway-423 — 4 months ago

▲ 5 r/mypartneristrans

How long does it take to get use to the change?

I (21GF) have been with my partner for 5 years. For years id make jokes that they were gay, or that I was the true man in the relationship. they'd always deny it saying they were cis and straight. However, a couple of months back they began hanging out with their ex who had formerly transitioned, they began to hangout more and my partner came out as trans. Now im pansexual, i just have a decently bad fear of women due to ptsd trauma i dont wish to get into. In the beginning I got stressed, told my partner I was getting panicky when they used a feminine voice. (Trauma bells rang that something was wrong) and that i would need time to adjust. My partner immediately said they'd choose me over transitioning which made me more upset because I refuse to be the reason to stop them from being themselves.

Its been a couple of months now and ive only just been able to call them by their chosen name comfortably. Im getting use to the outfit choices but it still feels overwhelming at times.

Some of my main concerns are -

ill never get over my ptsd fear of women.
I make all the money at the moment and I can't afford HRT or to cover life expenses so that they can be on HRT.
What about the health risks?
what if its a phase? This came out of no where.

I feel like I have no reason to be this upset. After all its my partner who is transitioning not me. Despite this, I still selfishly feel hurt. Almost like im grieving the life I thought I'd have with them.

I love them so much and I know if I express my concerns they'll tell.me that they wont transition if it means im happy and I DO NOT want that. I would rather be run iver by a tractor then have someone change themselves for my benefits.

Any advice on how to cope? How to be supportive while also not going into a mental spiral??? How long did it take you to adjust?

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u/Short-Highway-423 — 4 months ago

▲ 10 r/PiercingAdvice

I dont know what to do

4 month old piercing done by a professional

Update: spoke to a RN and they are seeing me tomorrow morning. They are extremely worried especially since my tetnis shot is expired

u/Short-Highway-423 — 4 months ago

▲ 10 r/Animesuggest

Hey! Im looking for the best dubbed villainess anime currently. Ive been on a villainess obsession for like 2 months now. Mainly through reading manwha. Now I know subbed anime is amazing and all, however I have dyslexia and close captions are much harder to read then manwha which I am easily able to zoom in.

My favorite so far was ill become a villainess that goes down in history. I love how she actively works towards changing her fate while also being very headstrong. Not to mention the comedic value of her believing shes a villain while actively doing good things.

Why raeliana ended up at the dukes mansion was also amazing.

I also (despite not being a villainess) quite enjoyed the duke of death and his maid

If it helps I also love snow white with the red hair

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u/Short-Highway-423 — 5 months ago