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Hi all, I’ve never made a post like this but frankly I’m lost and I don’t fully understand the scope of mania and manic episodes.

Context:

For perspective me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 months, in that time she’s had a few “periods of mania” but typically it was where she’d try and harm herself after I gave her the silent treatment. After those periods she upped her dose and she’s been perfectly fine since. While there have definitely been some hurdles and obstacles to overcome and learn, she’s been amazing other than that. She maybe gets emotional once a month, but other than that the bipolar(1) never bothered me. She’s the sweetest and she’s absolutely beautiful.

Recently, she went to China on vacation to visit family, during this time she’s been hanging with her cousins and family and we had been texting very healthy despite the time difference. But randomly she started getting very angry and bringing up old stuff, ie stuff from the first week we were talking that I had literally forgotten. It was super jarring but I thought I ought to give her space, after 2 days of space I received the craziest breakup message ever.

In the message she stated she was drunk and sleep deprived first off. She then went on to write 4 pages where she was listing every little grievance and things that didn’t even seem like grievances? She was getting mad at things she once liked? For example she said I dragged her away from her friends when they hangout(I have never once picked her up from her friends, I always ask if she wants to hangout and everytime she says yes). After reading it there were some fair points but 9/10 were almost actual lies. And then some were just plain confusing, she said I restricted and limited her, while making fun of her being bisexual(she told me once and I told her it didn’t matter if she was with me, she’s also never did anything with a girl).
Obviously I wrote her back with a message just as long trying to reassure her and addressing every point but I was blocked on iMessage.

Since then she’s blocked me on everything, won’t hear me out, is manically spam posting and posting a bunch of bisexual stuff with captions like “this is me bitch”. At the same time she’s been SPAMtexting my cousin(they never texted prior). She’s been telling her every little thing and even my cousin has called her out but for some reason but it’s almost like she’s chosen me to be the bad guy she’s freed from? Additionally she has been clinging to her bestfriend, suddenly matching profile pics with her and names in bios, to the point it’s kinda weird.

Honestly I’m very confused and it feels like I’m in limbo. I can’t really do anything in person when she’s in Asia , and I’m worried that I’ll say the wrong thing or I’ll be rejected if I try and reach out. My question is what do I take as the real her and what do I just brush aside? She’s acting like a completely different person rn and I honestly have no clue how to go about it, especially with the sudden “coming out of the closet”. I obviously want to text her since she hasn’t even heard me through all of this but I’m worried that will only trigger her more.

I’ve been trying to do my own research so I’m able to understand her better and I’ve did my own soul searching so that I can understand her better. But I’m unsure, is this actually a breakup? Will her being off meds for a month permanently damage her and the relationship? Is reaching out smart, I have so many questions and any help is very appreciate!

TLDR:Gf is in another country going through withdrawals and is manic. She broke up with me for little things she said she didn’t care about and has placed importance on the most random things, and clung onto people close to me but instead of talking things out with me. What do I do to be understanding of her situation?

I was playing overwatch with my friends before a rivals session and after tanking on overwatch I realized, there is 0 poke or long range option for tanks. Defense? Yeah let me just stare them down as they finally walk to my 20m range.
There is legit so many times I find myself on tank with the enemy backpedaling and I’m just ever so slightly out of range to hit them. Or playing a long sightline map like manhattan for example, it literally feels like I’m being peppered from every angle with shots yet my measly hammer or my magic hand simply doesn’t have the range. Of course yes I can just play around cover, but there are some parts of that map where you can really FEEL the lack of ranged options.

I feel like part of the reason most of the tanks feel so unsatisfying is because they’re almost all low-mid range, the only true mid range I feel like is mag but who wants to play mag? Honestly I just need somebody with an actual GUN…or lasers. Devs please give me War machine with the ability to switch ranges depending on which weapon he’s using.