u/Significant_Lie_9641

Rewatching VOY in my 30s and I don’t quite get the ending of the Deadlock.
Ensign Wildman lost her baby, she cried near the dead body of her daughter. How could she be satisfied with a supplement baby from another ship? Even if genetically perfectly hers, it is just not the same baby she gave birth to, she saw her baby dead.
The same is true with Harry. These are the same people with the same memories, yet they are not his crew. And they ended this story plot with “The job at Star Fleer is about weird things” at the end.
Like, WHAAAAAAAAT
I see a huge potential for identity crisis for at least three of them - Harry, Ensign Wildman and Naomi in case she ever knows that her mom died in the Delta Quadrant. But as soon as I remember watching it back then, this topic will never be addressed again.

For me, there are a few red flags not visible in the first or even the first few seasons.

1. When the writers do not track their own lore.

A huge pain for me, as I am attentive and tend to remember things. So when we are told in the first season that something/someone is unique, there is no second one, and a few seasons later, we have a whole planet full of them... it is disappointing.

Or when we know from earlier seasons that A only met B at a party in their 20s, and later we have a flashback of them hanging out in high school, and not once, but as buddies. Er... how many of you actually cannot recognize someone you've known for some time in the past?

2. Family connections no one could predict. Especially when nothing has been there from the start, and this plot twist was just invented two episodes before the finale.

3. Not-dying characters. Seriously, at some point, some shows are so consistent in dramatically removing characters from the show that everyone is crying, but the very next episode, SOMEHOW this character is alive one way or another. It is like a markup for a cheap writer.

4. Love lines just because every show needs a love line. No objections when the actors/characters have great chemistry, but this happens not that often. Especially sad when the main character has better chemistry with their screen sibling than with a spouse/lover.

5. At the end of the show, every loveline will end up with marriage&baby. Life is not a fairytale, you know. People can marry later, have kids later, or not have kids for whatever reason. Especially if one or both of them were presented as childfree and never changed their minds before announcing a happy pregnancy.

What do you hate about shows?

Hi all.

I'm 32 and genuinely don't know what to do with my life anymore.

I grew up poor, in a poor country. Since childhood, I have dreamed of becoming an astronomer - a path that never existed for someone like me. I also wanted to become a doctor, but medicine back home is corrupt and barely paid, so my parents pushed me toward "a real office job," so I wouldn't end up a broke doctor needing their help.

So that's what I did. I got a degree I hated, worked a string of office jobs - never great money, but enough to pay my bills and not ask anyone for help. At some point I was even financially supporting older relatives.

Eventually I moved to a First World country. Not as a talented hire with a fancy visa, but as a refugee. Nothing glamorous about it. I fought hard to find a job (which meant immediately losing all social and refugee benefits the moment I did), and I found one. A few years passed, and I learned that as a refugee from my country, the only jobs welcoming me were minimum-wage jobs no local wanted. In every office I worked, I was treated badly at first - until people saw my actual output. Apparently my skills are "above average" by many standards. I partly thank the toxic work culture back home: "finish this yesterday or else."

Second issue: I'm done with offices. I never wanted this environment in the first place, and looking back, maybe every struggle was just life trying to tell me that. I don't like office culture. I don't like a certain type of person you find in every office. Most of these jobs feel empty to me, in terms of value.

What I actually wanted was to work in a lab, with a telescope, or saving lives. That ship has sailed. But I still want to be useful somehow. Right now I'm working toward a Data Analyst certification - maybe that lets me support a lab, hospital, or observatory in some way, even indirectly. I'm genuinely good at office work, but the idea of being a receptionist at some sales company makes me want to disappear. Weirdly, the thought of being a receptionist at a hospital (answering questions, pointing people to the bathroom) doesn't bother me at all. I think what I actually want is to be useful in something complex that not everyone can pick up quickly.

Plan B, if AI makes data analysis obsolete in the next year (lol, but not a joke): start a small business. Knitting and selling on Etsy, writing, anything that pays the bills without an office attached.

Would appreciate any real input - not judgment, just perspective. How do I survive without being an office worker? I don't know a life without it. Of course, I dream about big money, my own house with a pool. but let's be realistic - I need to be able to cover my rent, buy food and renew my shoes from time to time.

Thanks for reading this far.

P.S. Sorry for giving you that much of my background. I just wanted to point out that I'm not looking for any special treatment — on the contrary, I'm grateful to my new country for the opportunities it's given me, and I want to do this the normal, hard way, like anyone else. I just don't know exactly how.

Originally, in the plot, we are introduced to the concept: “Gryffindor is good, Slytherin is for some unknown reason the home for almost all bad guys.”
And you know what, since the very first book Gryffindor punishes Harry with silence and ignores him in every situation whether he is guilty or not, while in bad Slytherin, an orphan from a Muggle orphanage and poor son of a Muggle alcoholic found home and friends.
Just thinking out loud

Because I did. Everyone who witnessed my story a few years ago, turned away. And that hit hard - I created that love interest to help myself go through incredibly hard period of life, and than, social death added to the list of my problems.
Now, that I can breath again… do you think it is possible to recover socially? To be invited to a party again?