u/Significant_Salt7586

Short: It implies that the client abandoned the therapist, hurting their feelings.

Here's some reasons:

Cultural baggage: "Ghosting" comes from dating apps and social media, where it's seen as emotionally immature, cowardly or even cruel.

Lack of professionalism: when a healthcare provider is using slang like "ghosting" it's like they are judging your "social morals" instead of staying clinical.

It doesn't explain the phenomenon well: stop going to sessions can be due so many reasons, or not trusting the therapist. Or they found another therapist.

Pathologizing the client: I've gotten a text message from unethical therapist saying "I'm sorry if I said something to trigger your avoidance" and other things showing they had their feelings hurt. Like what? No I'm avoiding you. Stop contacting me please, and control yourself.

I get they don't say ghosting in professional settings but doing it online is still weird. The sentence "client stopped coming to sessions" is more than enough, no need to throw in a pop culture slang rooted in dating culture.

I ran into one in a snark page and she was unhinged. Kept repeating that she was a licensed therapist and bla bla bla.

She created a false narrative about a private person to the point of defamation. Based on nothing.

She also said that people don't know how much trauma they go through, to be able to help people with trauma. I'm sorry, but wtf is she talking about? Yes it may feel traumatic to hear people's stories but it's not TrAuMa.

She also said only licensed therapists should be allowed to work with trauma, but in my experience, therapists have been the absolute WORST just because they seem to lack half a brain.

Literally, it's like they are so stuck in their logical framework, they have no clue how to be human, and attune to someone.

They'll get you to talk about your worst trauma, leaves you dissociatiated and retraumatised, then close the session. And you have to deal with the aftermath on your own.

Compared to a nurse with Somatic healing education, she was the most empathetic and understanding people ever. Very emotionally intelligent.

I'm 5th out of 7 and despite love for my siblings, I wish me and my two younger siblings were never born. Anything above four is too much.

My mum even admitted they should have stayed at 4 kids (well no shit Sherlock) but actually had aimed at ten kids.

My older siblings had a great life, like fairy tale great, but I knew from VERY young age that my mum had too many children and they didn't have room, time or money for five kids.

Literally, they had no room for me so I had to sleep in the living room. And I knew the older ones resented me for the additional competition about attention as well.

I was so humiliated because I didn't ask to be born, so I decided early on not to take up space or ask for things.

Then the crazy ass mother gets TWO MORE kids some years later..despite not having room or money for it. Because she wanted a BiG fAmIlY tee hee 🤪

So we had to sleep five people in one small room for years - me, my younger siblings and my parents.

I became a literal idiot due to all neglect, and have had massive struggles with everything in life.

I know my oldest sister was parentified and got some strange auto immune disease, caused by stress. She was angry with my dumbass mother for getting the last two kids as well.

But- everyone else thought our family was so cHaRmInG because it's a BiG fAmIlY 🤪☺️

No it's not cHaRmInG unless you have room, economy and prepared to do a lot of effort to meet everyone's needs, emotional needs as well. And most people aren't emotionally mature enough for that, they just think the chaos is charming.

So no you're not a Super Mother who deserves a medal for pushing out lots of kids - you're just being selfish.

(My mother also later admitted she did it because she doesn't like to feel lonely. Just get a dog, okay.)

They are the most well known researchers in Sweden, with a YouTube channel and TV show.

The TV show is made together with other YouTubers, and I see it more as entertainment than anything else. Most of it is probably fake.

But I was wondering if anyone has an opinion of them as researchers, since they seem to be recognised internationally too?

Writing here because I feel kinda violated and need a place to vent.

I'm a Tarot reader and a man messaged me about a marriage question - whether his long marriage would be possible to rebuild.

He seemed decent, so I did a reading that showed how she's running from herself and doesn't seem open to work on it, but is already looking for other exciting relationships.

I told him that the marriage as it is today is dead, so they'll either have to rebuild it from the ground and up, or get a divorce.

The advice from the cards was to start preparing for divorce and stop deceiving himself.

He said yes, his wife had been having an affair but he was resistant to divorce due to fear

I pulled more cards and all of them were talking about having boundaries and centering within himself.

He thanked but didn't like the advice as he didn't want to ground, and knew he was dissociated.

He then told me she had already cheated once before, and I asked why he stayed?

He then admitted that they have had an open marriage, orgies, etc, but closed it again. She cheated, he forgave, but she cheated again.

He then suddenly sends me photos of he is dropping her off at the house of the man she's cheating with. For some reason he failed to mention that she goes there every other weekend, or they hang out in their own house. It's so demented, if you ask me..

And he also tells me - without consent - about other sexual details, how their marriage is very much about sex, and it just made me feel grossed out.

It was just sex sex sex sex. And more sex.

Like you do you, but it was obviously unhealthy and it just felt gross to me.

I felt a bit violated because I never consented to such details. Nor photos, and since I'm psychic I pick up on energy from them - they made me feel like I had to take a shower.

He had framed it as a monogamous marriage at the beginning, and made it sound as if he was just a heart broken good husband that got cheated on..

... But if he's driving her to the other man, then it's rather poly or something in between?

If I knew, I'd have declined the reading for sure, as they're usually so messy, both mentally and sexually.

Also, the lack of boundaries, messiness, people pleasing, lack of backbone, enmeshment, manipulation etc.

It's just too low frequencies for me. And it feels like they are rearranging my brain, as common sense doesn't seem to exist for them?

(Funny thing is that Tarot readers can take a quick look at the back of the deck, to see hidden themes. It was The Devil - which is about lust, hedonism, attachment issues and soul sucking behaviour. Should have taken the hint and made the reading short and sweet.)

Edit: What I also noticed is that this kind of poly people are often into therapy speak, Jung and spiritual things such as Tarot etc, but it feels more like a gimmick. Maybe because it's oppositional to religion, and they see themselves as rebels. Tarot is not great for this though as its not a warm hug but rather a mirror that will tell you the truth, no matter what you think about it.

Edit 2: I'll add that I don't think sex, in whatever shape or form, is wrong, as long as it's consensual. I'm just grossed out by the lack of decency and healthy boundaries.

Writing here because I feel kinda violated and need a place to vent.

I'm a Tarot reader and a man messaged me about a marriage question - whether his long marriage would be possible to rebuild.

His wife had been having an affair, and it sounded as if he had been blindsided.

He seemed decent, so I did a reading that showed how she's running from herself and doesn't seem open to work on it, but is already looking for other exciting relationships.

I told him that the marriage as it is today is dead, so they'll either have to rebuild it from the ground and up, or get a divorce.

The advice from the cards was to start preparing for divorce and stop deceiving himself.

He was resistant to divorce due to fear so we ended up talking a long time and when he told me she had already cheated before once, I asked why he stayed?

He then admitted that they have had an open marriage, orgies, etc, but closed it, she cheated, he forgave, but she cheated again.

He then suddenly sends me photos of when he is dropping her off at the house of the man she's cheating with. And she's going there every other weekend, or they hang out in their own house.

And he also tells me - without consent - about other sexual details, how their marriage is very much about sex, and it just made me feel grossed out.

It was just sex sex sex sex. And more sex.

Like you do you, but it was obviously unhealthy and it just felt gross to me. I felt a bit violated because I never consented to such details. Nor photos, and since I'm psychic I pick up on energy from them. They made me feel like I had to take a shower.

He had framed it as a monogamous marriage at the beginning, and made it sound as if he was just a heart broken good husband that got cheated on..

... But if he's driving her to the other man, then it's rather poly or something in between?

I don't necessarily have an issue with poly people, but if I knew, I'd have declined the reading. Only because it's often so messy, both mentally and sexually.

Also, the lack of boundaries, messiness, people pleasing, lack of backbone, enmeshment, manipulation etc. It's just too low frequencies for me.

(Funny thing is that Tarot readers can take a quick look at the back of the deck, to see hidden themes. It was The Devil - which is about lust, hedonism, attachment issues and soul sucking behaviour. Should have taken the hint and made the reading short and sweet.)

Edit: What I also noticed is that this kind of poly people are often into therapy speak, Jung and spiritual things such as Tarot etc, but it feels more like a gimmick. Maybe because it's oppositional to religion, and they see themselves as rebels. Tarot is not great for this though as its not a warm hug but rather a mirror that will tell you the truth, no matter what you think about it.

Edit 2: I'll add that I know there's decent poly people too, and I don't think sex, in whatever shape or form, is wrong, as long as it's consensual. I'm just talking about this specific kind of poly people, that has become like a subgroup.