u/Similar_Difference30

I (25F) moved into Brooklyn a week ago, this place has various floors and thus multiple roommates. I did not get a chance to formally meet him during my tour but I was told he lives here. At the time I didn't think much of it but he is handsome. And of course after moving in, now we only run into each other when one of us is in short pajamas with no bra and or with no shirt on (him ofc). We have only ever said good morning to one another. I have had no further contact with him.

However, I am sure he has a girlfriend or a lover. Yesterday I heard deep groaning as if he was finishing. I questioned if he was doing what I thought, just solo. Sometime later I heard a girl in the room. I am not stupid, I know he just got laid. My question is how do I know if he is in relationship or is having a fling?

It would be beyond hot for something to happen between us right? However I am a shy, reserved, and respectful individual who is reluctant to pursue anyone. How can I further explore this without souring my living situation or seeming weird? The looks shared between us seem flirtatious or nervous idk but I think it is all in my head. Help!

I am 25F and he is 27M. I started this position very recently around 2 weeks ago and on my first day noticed him. I thought he was handsome and so tbh I maybe looked at him and his muscles more than I should have in the work place on the first few days but never said a word. I think he caught on and started flexing in front of me. For example, boxing the air, flexing his arms at his desk, pecks hardening in meetings, etc. I cannot tell if it is for me or himself honestly. Tell me, do guys do this in front of other men randomly too? Does it mean anything?

Additionally, we have had good robust hour long conversations twice now and they only end because the work day is over. We walked to the subway together for half a mile and when it was time to say goodbye I went for a fist bump but he went for a hug. I immediately opened my arms, gave him a quick squeeze because I felt shy about hugging a man I already had crush on and did NOT want to make it seem like I was desperate or making a kind act into something it wasn't.

Today he had followed up on a conversation we had about his song writing and wanted to send it me since I had asked to see it. In a hesitiant and shy manner he asked me if I had a number he could send it to. I gave it to him. It has now been almost 9 hours since he has had my number but has not talked to me.

Is this all in my head? Does he like me the way I like him? Also not to rain on my own parade but to get an honest answer I will say I am a heavy girl. I know most people do not like that and don't want to kid myself and make this into something it's not. Be honest would anyone be this nice to a girl they weren't attracted to who's heavy? Honestly I don't know what his deal is.