u/SirCicSensation

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I’m up to season 3 episode 8

I’m really loving the show but the cartoonish violence or badly choreographed scenes just takes me out.

Almost feels like a family drama that wants to be a crime drama as it’s secondary, so these scenes are done as an after thought.

The scene where the woman’s drink is spilled in the bar is so badly done. She obviously throws the drink onto herself and the officer never even bumps into her.

>!Mel shooting at the range!<

>!Yuda being shot in the head!<

>!Mel hitting Wanda with a lawn gnome and it just cleanly breaks!<

>!Louie hitting Claudia with a bottle!<

>!Franklin shooting Andre!<

The violence is too clean. Too straight forward. There’s no weight to some of them.

With Franklins first kill, it felt light. Little pop, quick, no unnecessary damage, controlled.

It might be different if he wasn’t using a freaking revolver of all things. I get why but that gun has WEIGHT. It does real damage. So when it goes off. It fell flat to me.

Same thing with Mel’s scene. It looks almost cartoonish the way the object breaks.

Each time I feel the intensity of the characters, it becomes overshadowed by just how badly the violence is done when it finally does come.

Why does the violence just look so bad at times? Was it rushed? Were they working on a shoe strong budget? What was the issue?

Did you like these scenes or did you also feel these things were terribly executed?

My boss everyday tells me to be more like him. Hardworking, never complains, always toughs it out. 72, twice divorced, worked all his life and works even now after he retired. Owns his house, multiple sports cars, and is a millionaire from his retirement account alone. The company we work for can’t even be bothered to get him an AC for his desk when he is the operational manager. I ask him why he doesn’t ask for an AC from the company. Just tells me “I can handle it. Not like the younger generation always complaining.” While he’s dripping with sweat.

Told me yesterday that he saved his last company $90M. He says eliminating waste is a skill almost no one learns. I’m ad-libbing here but that’s the gist. After he finishes his 10 minute spiel about how people are wasteful and he’s the genius that saved his company almost $100M. He even does the old Dr. Evil finger thing as he says it. I ask him, “how much of that money came back to you?” He pauses and just tells me “well I won an award”. He later recounts that they gave him around $2k in his check but that wasn’t til later on.

While I agree you should be good at your job. It makes me feel like he’s a little bit of a sucker. Maybe I’m spoiled but I feel he should’ve been compensated better than a shitty piece of paper saying “good job”. Am I just spoiled to feel like if you do your job well, you should be monetarily compensated? I guarantee his bosses made more money for his work.

For me, it was learning that I was an idiot.

Lemme explain. I'm pretty decently intelligent. Despite this, I lack motivation, consistency, drive, and overall attention to detail. I'm diagnosed PTSD and TBI. Makes things a little difficult at times. Which also means that I'm a bit of a fuck up. This post is me learning to cope with that.

My partner is great at this however. She cares about the world, she's very focused on seemingly useless things, she pays attention to the details even if it doesn't make her life better. She doesn't always understand but she is very good at sticking at something until she understands.

I can understand things quickly but I just don't have the motivation or drive or even care to want to learn or keep at something. Especially when this new thing doesn't help me with my life in any way.

So I'm not an idiot just intellectually but also the fact that I'm kinda lazy and impatient when it comes to learning. Gives me a low self esteem most times.

The silver lining is the fact that my partner makes my life easier by letting me be an idiot. It's nice. She doesn't mind that I don't have a nice good paying job, a really good degree, a ton of money saved, or that I'm very worldly.

She values my helpful behavior. She likes that I'm a bit of a worker bee. I drive her wherever she wants to go. I make sure to always help clean up after myself and even after her. I am kind and respectful to her. I always wash the dishes or take out the trash. I make sure I make her laugh with stupid jokes. I am also working towards getting a career job and making 4x what I make now. So it's not like she's carrying the brunt of life all on her own. She's patient with me and just lets me be an idiot and therefore lets me start to heal from all the things that I either can't be or simply haven't become.

I'm thankful to her for letting me be an idiot and then allowing my strengths to shine through in other ways. Now I don't focus on the fact that I'm an idiot, I get to focus on all the other things that I'm able to be for her rather than always thinking that I'm smarter than I actually am simply to cope with the fact that I am in fact. An idiot. This single thing has helped to change my life and made life incredibly less stressful.

What was one thing in your relationship that really helped to change your life for the better?

How can guys who hit the gym constantly, eat strictly protein (gross), look like they take more gear than they do actual lifting, and steal my girlfriend. Feel good about being broke?

Genuinely, does getting bigger in the gym help alleviate the feeling of being broke?

How do you cope with being so massive but can’t fix that one tire on your car that I can clearly tell is from discount tire. Like dude, you work at planet fitness and your card declined.

Just because she texted you a couple times doesn’t mean anything. Like how do you feel good about yourself being in the gym all the time and just picking up chicks but can’t even pay for my meal but can pay for hers? It’s really sad honestly.

Genuine question.

Do other people feel like this isn't enough from a general standpoint?

As someone who is slowly approaching $200k networth, I feel like I can finally start to breath easier after all these years of guessing. For reference, my bills, including gas and food in NC are only $1500/mo and they won't be going up anytime soon. So I could personally be very comfortable working part time and paying my bills this way.

I don't know other peoples situation or expectation for life but I've saved my entire life and avoided unnecessary spending whenever possible just in case I never made it. I knew something was wrong with me from an early age but I didn't know what. So just in case, I saved until I could figure out my life. Turns out I have a hormonal imbalace, PTSD, and my left knee is giving out and I'm not even 35 yet.

I don't have a career, still don't have a degree, I don't work at some fancy place. Only ever made around $40k/year and I've always managed to save money.

That being said, for me, money is my right to exist essentially. I'm kind of tired of having a chronic condition and stressing about if I'll have the right to exist just because I didn't want to learn yet another "in demand" skill that will be phased out next year or because I didn't want to gamble my life savings to 10x my future prospects. I've always been terrible with school and it's been difficult going back this time around. Especially since a degree doesn't guarantee hardly anything today. Despite what I talk about all the time, I don't want my life to revolve around money. I would like the permission to just be an idiot and just to live. I didn't ask for a chronic condition but you've gotta live with the hand you're dealt I guess.

I'm tired. Tired of wondering if I'll ever "make it". I've done the "surviving your 20's" thing and been arrested, beat up, gotten high, almost got kicked out of the military, got fired from a dream job, lived out of my car for a couple weeks at one point. Depression is a real bitch and I don't wish that on anyone. Now that I'm in my 30's, I'd like to do things a little differently.

So for me, $250k is the benchmark. It's enough money for me to literally live off of if I ever had to and it's enough money to make me feel like I don't need to worry about unexpected emergencies.

Kids Need some new shoes for $50? Easy.
Need to buy a new phone for $1000? No problem.
Need to repair your car for $5000? I got it like that.
Wife wants to pay off her $60k in student loans in one go? No problem.

I can do that now but I genuinely would feel more comfortable for myself and my family if I had a stronger buffer. I don't want money to live extravagently and I certainly don't want money just to hoard it. I want it so that I don't need to keep asking for permission to have a hobby without having to work a few extra hours a day just to keep it without taking it out of my monthly savings.

I don't know what everyone else's expectation for life is but for me, money is and probably always will be my breathing room to make mistakes and be free to watch movies at home guilt free instead of working another 12 hour shift.

I've read people on reddit talking about $5M - $15M before they can feel like they are comfortable. Which to me is insane. To each their own though.

What's your number that you would need to really feel like you can finally breath comfortably?

Just looking for bragging rights. Beat the puppeteer on expert, with a level 15 character.

Took me over 2 hours.

Edit: It wasn't worth it. Cost me all of my beginner coin using companions.

I upgraded from an iPhone 11 Pro 512g to an iPhone 17 pro 512g.

It doesn’t feel real. I have plenty of money to make a purchase like this but it still feels like a lot of money, in compared to all the other things in my life that I have to prepare for.

My iPhone 11 Pro is at 69% battery life and at 2400 cycles or something like that. I bought it used, and have had it for 3 years this May. Face ID no longer works and the left top corner of the screen has a black spot that’s growing. I wanted a backup in case things get worse.

I bought it straight from the Apple Store an hour ago. I still have 14 days to return it but I can’t help feeling like I just wanted a nice phone for once. I do everything on my phone. Gaming, video watching, creating videos, taking photos, GPS, everything. Im kind of attached.

I don’t know though, was it a tad impulsive? Anyone else feel like a brand new phone wasn’t worth the cost? I haven’t even opened the package because I still don’t know if I should return it and come back another day.

Am I crazy to keep it?

I’m just now learning that this is both high and a little dangerous.

Will changing the battery help at this point or should I just get a new phone?

Also, is upgrading to the 16 pro worth it for a lot of you? My iPhone 11 still works great but I don’t want to be cheap if it’s better for my phones health. Otherwise, getting a battery replacement will be fine by me.

It's the same basic schtick. "I'm going to do nothing but this until someone gives me something to do."

I'm genuinely confused by this. I've seen it said time and time again "I've been unemployed for going on 2 years". While that's all good and great but why?

I don't mean this to sound tone deaf, I'm genuinely curious. As someone with no degree, no technical experience, no hidden gift for numbers or memory. I've always managed to find delivery jobs, courier positions, deck hand work, maintenance. All easy jobs that pay me around $1500/mo to have very little responsibility.

While I'm not arguing it'll keep you out of debt. I don't know why we wouldn't focus on making some money instead of none.

I also get that you would need to make time for interviews. All of my jobs that I've had, considering that they are low pay and revolving door jobs. They don't care if I don't come in. I've had 3 back to back jobs that just tell me "Just let us know the day before if you don't plan on coming in." That's it. So if I have a doctors appointment or some kind of random emergency. I just don't show up and I've never been fired. I'm 30.

I deeply apologize if this question is offensive, I'm truly not trying to come across as stuck up. I am again reiterating that I have always worked low paying jobs. I just don't get why you wouldn't want to make some kind of money while you wait for another job instead of waiting around for 2 years for one like many people claim to do. Thoughts?

I’m spiraling gents. Prior service marine. Got out as an E-5.

33 male,

Currently working yet another shitty part time job. Mental health hasn’t been great but it’s gotten better.

Got out in 2017 when a pregnant recruiter literally shredded my reup contract. She genuinely wasn’t in her right mind and was NJP’d. I did 5 years active and 2 years reserves.

I thought I’d just get out at 25 and go back to college. Fast forward 8 years and I’m just now finishing my bachelors. I’m getting my masters in social work to work with the VA.

I’m 60% and between disability, school, job, I make about $4700/mo. Not terrible especially since I don’t have kids yet. Bills are only $1500/mo including food and gas.

I got depressed, goofed around for a few years, figured things would fall into place eventually. I saved around $150k and struggled in college but finally figured it out. No debt. Car paid off. Good credit. No problems. Just don’t have a career figured out yet.

My partner has her masters and works for the state. She has another 20 years before she retires.

I never thought I’d make it this far honestly. Kind of an idiot. Now we’re planning to start a family. It’s a lot. Too much. We can manage it but based on my projections we may be living on ramen for the next 20 years. Just enough to retire but not enough to live.

At best, we would both be making $60k each. After mortgage, childcare, insurance etc. we would be left with $1500 each month. Not terrible.

I just didn’t expect life to be this way. I need advice. Would you go back to the military if you were me?

Things I’m considering

Cons:

- Promotions aren’t guaranteed and I might not even get a retirement. Least that’s how they do things in the marines.

- I’ll lose my partner. She has to stay in NC to retire by 50.

- I am simply doing it for the money.

- I will most likely end my career as an E-6 only making an extra $1800/mo.

- I’ll be 47 if I rejoin by 34.

Pros:

- I wouldn’t be poor

- I’d get a retirement

- I could join as a butter bar

I really don’t know what to do. I’m still young and fit and could easily rejoin but it might not make sense for me. I really need help.

I’m spiraling gents. Prior service marine. Got out as an E-5.

33 male,

Currently working yet another shitty part time job. Mental health hasn’t been great but it’s gotten better.

Got out in 2017 when a pregnant recruiter literally shredded my reup contract. She genuinely wasn’t in her right mind and was NJP’d. I did 5 years active and 2 years reserves.

I thought I’d just get out at 25 and go back to college. Fast forward 8 years and I’m just now finishing my bachelors. I’m getting my masters in social work to work with the VA.

I’m 60% and between disability, school, job, I make about $4700/mo. Not terrible especially since I don’t have kids yet. Bills are only $1500/mo including food and gas.

I got depressed, goofed around for a few years, figured things would fall into place eventually. I saved around $150k and struggled in college but finally figured it out. No debt. Car paid off. Good credit. No problems. Just don’t have a career figured out yet.

My partner has her masters and works for the state. She has another 20 years before she retires.

I never thought I’d make it this far honestly. Kind of an idiot. Now we’re planning to start a family. It’s a lot. Too much. We can manage it but based on my projections we may be living on ramen for the next 20 years. Just enough to retire but not enough to live.

At best, we would both be making $60k each. After mortgage, childcare, insurance etc. we would be left with $1500 each month. Not terrible.

I just didn’t expect life to be this way. I need advice. Would you go back to the military if you were me?

Things I’m considering

Cons:

- Promotions aren’t guaranteed and I might not even get a retirement. Least that’s how they do things in the marines.

- I’ll lose my partner. She has to stay in NC to retire by 50.

- I am simply doing it for the money.

- I will most likely end my career as an E-6 only making an extra $1800/mo.

- I’ll be 47 if I rejoin by 34.

Pros:

- I wouldn’t be poor

- I’d get a retirement

- I could join as a butter bar

I really don’t know what to do. I’m still young and fit and could easily rejoin but it might not make sense for me. I really need help.

I’m spiraling gents.

33 male,

Currently working yet another shitty part time job. Mental health hasn’t been great but it’s gotten better.

Got out in 2017 when a pregnant recruiter literally shredded my reup contract. She genuinely wasn’t in her right mind and was NJP’d. I did 5 years active and 2 years reserves.

I thought I’d just get out at 25 and go back to college. Fast forward 8 years and I’m just now finishing my bachelors. I’m getting my masters in social work to work with the VA.

I’m 60% and between disability, school, job, I make about $4700/mo. Not terrible especially since I don’t have kids yet. Bills are only $1500/mo including food and gas.

I got depressed, goofed around for a few years, figured things would fall into place eventually. I saved around $150k and struggled in college but finally figured it out. No debt. Car paid off. Good credit. No problems. Just don’t have a career figured out yet.

My partner has her masters and works for the state. She has another 20 years before she retires.

I never thought I’d make it this far honestly. Kind of an idiot. Now we’re planning to start a family. It’s a lot. Too much. We can manage it but based on my projections we may be living on ramen for the next 20 years. Just enough to retire but not enough to live.

At best, we would both be making $60k each. After mortgage, childcare, insurance etc. we would be left with $1500 each month. Not terrible.

I just didn’t expect life to be this way. I need advice. Would you go back to the military if you were me?

Things I’m considering

Cons:

- Promotions aren’t guaranteed and I might not even get a retirement. Least that’s how they do things in the marines.

- I’ll lose my partner. She has to stay in NC to retire by 50.

- I am simply doing it for the money.

- I will most likely end my career as an E-6 only making an extra $1800/mo.

- I’ll be 47 if I rejoin by 34.

Pros:

- I wouldn’t be poor

- I’d get a retirement

- I could join as a butter bar

I really don’t know what to do. I’m still young and fit and could easily rejoin but it might not make sense for me. I really need help.