Close friend told me she can’t come to wedding
One of my close friends just told me less than 20 days before my wedding that she’s not coming because she and her husband are temporarily relocating for the summer. They’ve been married for two years, it’s a temporary sublease, and her husband’s job doesn’t even start until the Monday after my wedding. She’s also known about my wedding long before they found this sublease.
My wedding also isn’t a destination wedding. It’s in her hometown.
I think what’s making me the most sad is that I flew to her bachelorette party and traveled for her wedding without even really questioning it. My fiancé and I are literally delaying our own permanent move by a few days just to go to a wedding for someone we aren’t even that close with because we felt like that’s just what you do for people.
Apparently a bunch of our mutual friends already knew she wasn’t coming before she told me too, which honestly made it hurt worse.
I genuinely can’t tell if I’m just emotional because it’s my wedding or if this is actually a really hurtful thing for a close friend to do. I know nobody technically owes you attendance at your wedding, but I can’t help feeling like I would have done anything to be there for hers and she just didn’t feel the same way about mine.