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How do i accept that most of my dreams will never be fulfilled? I am at a stage in life where I know I can’t do anything to change things.

But how do I stop thinking? I hate having so much ambition and such big dreams which have no where to go. I am a failure.

And my dreams are pretty ambitious.

How do I let them go? How do I just live? How do I accept my life? That this is all it’s going to be. I will never get to see the places I want to, I will never get the things I want for my family, I will never have anything for myself.

I mean the bitter truth is that I might never fully catch up with my friends in terms of money experiences and all. But how do I stop it from eating me alive?

How do I let it go so I can breathe?

TW: r*pe, m*ur*er

My grandparents: maternal and paternal, were refugees.

They came to India with nothing. Built their lives from scratch.

But I will be focusing on the story of my maternal grandmother today.

Jan 2020: She was 81, on her death bed.

Few hours before she passed away, she started saying these sentences on repeat:

‘Mere veer te sarr nu kulhadi maarke kholta’
‘Mere pyo te sarr nu kulhadi maarke kholta’
‘Meri maa nu chak ke le gaye’

Three sentences on repeat. This went on for an hour.

It was so haunting. Imagine being a child, and witnessing so much pain, trauma, and grief, that even years later, this is all you can remember, even in your final moments.

Watching Mai Vapis Aunga by Imtiaz Ali made me me so emotional. A lot of people are making it about only love. But it is also about women who bled and suffered so so so so much. The worst that can happen to a man is death. But that answer is going to pretty long and much more scary for a woman. The trauma the pain the suffering they have endured, can not be put into words.

All the horror stories you hear about partition are true.

I come from a family of refugees. And I am proud of it.

For those who don’t understand Punjabi, the above sentences mean:
They opened my brothers head with an axe
They opened my fathers head with an axe
They forcefully took my mother

My grandmother, a girl who was 8, survived because she was able to escape with her uncle. But the pain she witnessed stayed with her life long.

Thank you Imtiaz Ali and Diljit for telling the world stories which aren’t told often.

I was working in the Founders office at a f&b d2c startup. Let’s call it company x.
My details:
Comp: 50KPM
Notice period : 1 month

I got an opportunity at company Y last month. 85KPM - the one that could put me on a different trajectory.

I put in my resignation.
My founder at company x said: I will confirm your relieving once we have a new hire and you complete the KT.

I quoted my notice period as 1 month in the interview at company y.

But founder at company x didn’t give a final last working date. I tried to reason with company Y that I am intent on joining and not delaying, but after not being able to confirm a joining date for 2 weeks, they have revoked my offer citing lack of confirmation from my side.

They have already found someone at Company x to replace me, and no way they are keeping us both at company x. I will be let go from here too.

Now I will be jobless.

I did everything right

I followed the notice period norm.

I didn’t get the relieving confirmation.

And lost such a good opportunity.

What should I do now? I am looking out for jobs but no job is close in terms of the brand name, compensation, or the role.

I am so tired. So so so so tired.

1. My existing organisation is a startup offering me 50KPM. (My profile context: FMCG Background - 2 Yrs - performance related issues at my old job had to take a 40% paycut)
   Yesterday I was making the pitchdeck, the founder said two things:
   - include my details/profile in the founding team slide
   - We were planning the expenses: she said: your salary should also go up: no definition what up means. Or when the funding will come

I have done so much work here in just 4 months that would break the momentum for the company if I leave, plus she will have to hire at least 2 ppl to do the work I do. Not saying this because I am arrogant, the founder herself has said so.

2. I got another offer from a startup in Bangalore: offering me closer to my old salary: 85KPM. It’s a nice company, in growing space. My major concern is the cost of living. I have fixed financial obligations: 35KPM, Managing living commute savings and lifestyle expense in 50KPM will be a challenge. But again, it’s not like I am manage to save anything in my current job.

Now I need to inform my new company by Monday regarding my resignation.

I am assuming my current employer tries to retain me: at what salary level should I say yes? And what other conditions? I am not able to understand things clearly idk why.

I have made mistakes.
I have killed my own dreams.
I can no longer live in the graveyard of my ambition.
It is rotting and the stench is unbearable.
There is no running away from it.
There is indeed a way out.
But it’s going to be smaller, less glamorous, less shiny.
And I don’t want that version
So I will pay my last loan instalment on 29th May 2027
I will die a loser
A failure
A nobody
But I will debt free.
I will not owe anyone anything
For the first time in my life, I will be selfish
I will choose myself.
360 days left.

Hi all

I am looking for full time jobs in Gurgaon in Q-Comm and B2B roles.

About my background: i have fucked up my entire life and trajectory and rebuilding myself from scratch.

I have a pretty decent MBA - had a very good job at a major Indian FMCG. I messed up big time there: I falsified reimbursements and was terminated.

After being unemployed for 6 months, I took a 70% paycut and joined a very small d2c startup.

In a short span of 4 months:

1. I have built B2B channel from scratch generating 5LPM+ potential revenue
2. Scaled q-comm 6x
3. Automated boring operations and documentation work using Claude and APIs

Unfortunately this startup will go belly up too in case the funding doesn’t come through.

i am not telling my story to gain sympathy, but to tell that I have made mistakes, learnt from them, and still moving forward. I enjoy my work but the startup I am working in, is going through a financial crisis.

If my story + skills resonate with what you are building, I request you to kindly reach out.

Expected In-Hand: 75KPM

Hi all moving to Bangalore for work next month.

TBH very scared and nervous. This will be my first time moving to a new city.

What to expect, what mistakes to avoid?

I have heard a lot of stories but don’t know what to believe or what to consider. Neither do I have any friends here that can validate or give me first hand information.

Any help will be appreciated :)

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Hi all

I am going through a financial crisis

My Salary for FY 2025-26

Apr: 1.25L (in hand) + 1.7L (shirt term incentive)

May: 1.25L In hand

June: 1.25L in hand

July: 1.25L in hand, i am laid off.

Aug: leave encashment: 45K

Sep : 0

Oct: PF Withdrawl, 14 months of job till date, after 2.5 mos of unemployment: 1.7L post TDS

Nov: 0

Dec: 0

Jan: 0

Feb: joined somewhere but Sal credited next month

Mar: 35K

April 2026: Mar salary 50K

On my salry between apr to July i paid an income tax of 90K and a TDS of 10K in my PF.

Will i grt an income tax refund? My total income is less than 12L? And if yes, can you pls help me get an estimate as i have to plan accordingly