r/IndiaMentalHealth

I am going through a lot in my personal life (marriage, parents) and I feel my mental health would benefit a lot through therapy.

However, every therapist I research online that has good reviews is also incredibly expensive. I am hoping I don’t have to spend too much. It’s already difficult to manage expenses living with a spendthrift family.

Any leads would be greatly appreciated.

Edit: Looking for 2-4 sessions a month. Preferably online.

Title: My wife seems to have completely lost her motivation and may be depressed. How can I support her?
My wife has always been an extremely passionate, hardworking, ambitious person. She’s always had a lot of drive and has been very career-oriented.
Over the last 2–3 years, though, she says she’s gradually felt more and more exhausted and burnt out. Recently she told me she feels like she’s been running on empty for a long time and really needs a break. I believe her, so I’ve tried not to pressure her.
She’s currently waiting for her new work permit, so she has been off work for the last 3–4 months. I thought the break might help her recover, but instead, she seems to be getting worse.
She spends 7–8 hours a day on Instagram, mostly just scrolling. She doesn’t seem interested in doing much else. Over the last 10 days especially, she has been very moody and sad, wants me around constantly, and frequently asks when I’ll be home from work. She says she feels lethargic and has no energy to do anything. Even basic things around the house have become difficult for her.
She tells me, “Just be with me. I feel cheerful when you’re around.” And I absolutely want to be there for her. I love her and I don't mind spending time with her. But I also work full-time, and I can only be physically and emotionally available for so many hours a day. I'm starting to worry that she is becoming dependent on my presence to feel okay, and I don't know how to support her without making her feel abandoned when I have to go to work or do my own things.
I’ve suggested things like working out, picking up a hobby, going to a cafe to work/read, getting out of the house, or even just changing her environment for a few hours. But she says she feels too tired and has no motivation.
She has also turned down some relatively easy side work because she says she just wants to chill. I completely understand that she may genuinely need rest, and I don’t want to push her back into a work mindset if she’s actually burned out. At the same time, I’m starting to wonder whether doing absolutely nothing all day is actually making things worse.
She has told me that she thinks she might be depressed, and thankfully she is open to talking to a therapist. She says she isn’t spiraling or constantly overthinking and doesn’t have any particular thoughts going through her head. She mostly just feels… empty, tired, and unmotivated.
I’ve been close to someone who was depressed before, and some of this feels very familiar. That’s making me worried.
I love her and I want to support her, but I’m struggling with where the line is between giving her the rest she needs and gently encouraging her to start doing things again.
I also find myself thinking, “She has so much potential, I want her to get back to being herself,” but I realize that might not be the most helpful mindset if she’s actually struggling with depression or burnout.
For anyone who has experienced depression, burnout, or supported a partner through it:
What actually helped?
Should I mostly leave her alone and let her recover on her own? Should I encourage therapy and professional help more strongly? Is gently getting her out of the house and into a routine helpful, or does that just feel like pressure when someone is depressed?
And how do you balance being there for your partner with maintaining your own life and responsibilities? I want to be there for her, but I also know I can only do so much, and I don't want our entire emotional support system to become dependent on me being physically present.
I really want to support her without accidentally making her feel like she’s failing because she isn't productive right now.

Have been dealing with certain things since 2-3 years but this year it has gotten worse, can't seem to do basic chores. I would appreciate suggestions for online counseling. Honestly I don't even know I should consult psychiatrist or psychologist or counsellor for my case but whoever it is, he should not just listen passively as I read in certain post

Fyi:- can't afford regular therapy since I am just a student

It's been almost 4 days since I joined this top NIT. My college is just 1 overnight train away from home. Since my parents have left i miss my home so much. I thought I will be able to make friends and enjoy life but it has been so terrible for me. My heart is always heavy and i just want to be back at home. I am a person who is not very extroverted. My vibe is not matching with the hostel mates I have met so far. Also first sem is so hectic i have to wait till October to go back to home. How do I deal with this?? I don't think I can focus on studies like this. I dream of my home everyday. When I eat or sleep I keep thinking about my home and unable to eat or sleep properly. Someone who has faced this problem before please help me it will be so much helpful. I don't have anyone to talk to please 😢😢😭🙏

Hi everyone,
I’m a 20-year-old guy and lately I’ve been feeling very depressed and stuck in life. My career is stressing me out, my friends are always busy with their own lives, and I feel like I have nobody to really talk to. Even my family can see that I’m not myself, and that makes me feel worse because I don’t want to keep disappointing them.
I used to care about gym, travel, college, and future plans, but now my motivation is dropping and I don’t enjoy things the way I used to. Most days I just feel lonely, empty, and mentally tired. I don’t want to stay like this, but I also don’t know how to get back to being normal and happy again.
I’m not posting for attention. I’m just genuinely looking for some advice, support, or even a small push in the right direction from people who’ve felt this way before.
If you’ve gone through something similar, what helped you start feeling better?

Heyyy everyone!

I’m currently pursuing my Master’s in Counselling Psychology and, as part of my course, I’ll be offering free counselling sessions/therapy from September 1 onwards.

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by college, work, relationships, family concerns, stress, or just life in general, you’re welcome to reach out.

Starting: September 1

Languages: English, Kannada & Hindi

Format: Individual sessions and dyads (with a partner, friend, or family member)

Mode: offline(in bengaluru) and online

I’m a trainee counsellor, and all sessions will be conducted under the supervision of an experienced professional.

You don’t necessarily need to be dealing with a major problem to seek counselling. If there’s something on your mind that you’d like to understand or work through, you’re welcome to reach out.

If you’re interested, DM me and I can share more details about the sessions and availability

I(24M)don't know what's happening with me but I suddenly start crying out of nowhere,fast breathing , feel anxious and then think of suicide. Had a bad breakup, ghosted without any closure. Also not able to focus on work!don't know what to do

I have MDD, and my family is Christian, so I find it even harder to hide what I’m going through. My mom would often say that people who have mental health problems are “sira ang ulo,” so it’s difficult for me to open up about what I’m feeling.
Sometimes, all I need is someone to tell me, “I’m here for you. You’re not alone. We’ll get through this together.”

Feeling low due to loneliness. I wanna cry, shout out poud and want somebody to listen. I don't know where and how to... Unfortunately cannot talk about this to parents or friends.

Whenever I get really close to someone like 'best friend' kind of close or sometimes not even that close just a 'close friend' kind of close, I start shutting them out and they start looking annoying and it's not their fault but i just push them away like not sharing much or just ignoring them or spending less time with them deliberately. Some people say it's because "I'm scared they might leave first" or something like that but it's not the case.

So, like this I cutted off two of my best friends but we had a lot of mutual friends so we eventually became kind of 'friends'. A few days ago i finally confessed this to them and one other friend. Since then one of my ex best friends is mad, and I know she's valid and she's the victim in this situation and I've apologized. But i don't know what to do.

I just want to know, how do I fix this!?!? How do I fix me?

Bro idk I can't continue any conversation 😭

I have been separated for around 2 years, and got divorced, a few months back. My only company was my dog, who passed away 3 months back. I would cry several hours at night hugging my dog and ask her not to leave, because she was very sick. Since her death, I randomly burst into tears when I am driving, in the shower, middle of my sleep. I always thought I was strong and had stable emotions, I cant understand myself now.

Current Relationship: I am in relationship with a single mother, an amazing woman. She often stays busy because of work and her child. I crave for attention, make plans, and she often cancels because she has too much on her plate. I feel dejected. I know she isnt wrong, I just feel very very disappointed that I stop talking and feel like ending the relationship. This is probably because I really want it to break and I dont have any expectations anymore. I have deep respect for her and how she deals with her own life, and when I am upset with her, I start getting self doubts, am I a person who deserves a partner? Why cant I have stable emotions? Why cant I accept that I am not her first priority. I never tell her anything and I encourage her to do what is more important, but these are my feelings.

I dont know if I need therapy. I dont have anyone to talk to, because I have made my current partner my whole world, and I dont want to share any of these feelings, because I dont want to bother her. I dont even know if talking to a therapist will help.

Therapy has become v expensive, i need to find a therapist so i can afford it, really need to seek help now before things get worse. Please help me out.

Hi everyone,

I'm processing a breakup with someone I loved alot.

Please recommend some good therapist online, money is not an issue. Someone I wanna have multiple sessions with. thank you.

I've been feeling a rollercoaster of emotions that I wanna process in a healthy way and move on with my life.

Talking to my friends about it hasn't been helpful.

I've been struggling a lot these days. A good sleep schedule helps. But I want to know how to properly deal with it. It's getting really hard. All it takes is just a small trigger for me to lose my sanity again and again.

I am 32 male Indian origin ,I am really depressed,alone and lonely wanted mature advice in my life ,I need a mother who can love and talk to me as son

I’ve been carrying my family’s hopes and responsibilities for so long, and I honestly don’t know how much more I can take. I don’t even have the female friend I’ve always wished I had, someone I could talk to without feeling judged. I can’t really say all this to my male friends

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I'm a 23F, and I'm trying to understand something about myself because I genuinely don't know what to do with it anymore.

I think I might have anxious attachment tendencies, especially with people I emotionally connect with. The weird thing is that I had a pretty normal/loving childhood. My parents loved me, I had good friends, and I've usually had a very close best friend. I don't have the obvious childhood story of "I was neglected and therefore became anxiously attached."

And yet, I seem to get very emotionally attached to certain people very quickly.

Not everyone. That's the strange part.

I can talk to someone for a while and get bored or lose interest. But occasionally I meet someone with whom I really click, and then something in my brain goes:

"Oh. This person. Keep them."

And suddenly I want to talk to them constantly, tell them about my day, wait for their messages, hear their voice, etc. If they start pulling away, I have an incredibly difficult time letting go.

Recently this happened with someone I met anonymously on Reddit.

We started talking and eventually moved to Telegram/Instagram. We could talk for hours. I would send him voice messages about random things that happened during my day and look forward to his replies. Once when I was anxious, he sang and played guitar for me over a call. I felt extremely understood by him.

I eventually developed feelings for him and told him.

He didn't want a relationship, and honestly, I don't think he was romantically interested in me. But I still really liked having him in my life.

Eventually things became complicated. I called him once while I was under the influence of my sleeping medication and apparently crossed some boundaries that I don't remember clearly. Afterwards, he told me he needed space and that we shouldn't talk anymore.

He wasn't cruel about it. In fact, his message was very kind. He basically said that he didn't want me to feel bad about anything and that he needed distance because continuing the connection didn't feel right for him.

And I am having a really hard time letting go.

I know rationally that he's just one person I've known for a short time. I know we probably aren't compatible in real life. I know I don't actually know him that well. And yet a part of me desperately wants to keep some tiny connection alive.

It made me realize that this isn't only about him.

I've done something similar emotionally in my relationship too. I've been with my boyfriend for around four years, and I've sometimes felt like I keep "running towards" him emotionally—wanting more reassurance, more emotional availability, more connection. He is a good person and I love him, but he is much less emotionally expressive than I am.

And now I'm scared I'm going to repeat the exact same pattern with another person.

Someone gives me a little emotional intimacy, I become attached, I start seeing them as unusually special/better/more emotionally mature than everyone else, and then I start wanting more and more of their presence.

It's basically the feeling I described to myself as:

"People give me a finger and I end up holding their entire hand."

I don't think I'm entitled to anyone's attention. I don't want to control people. I don't want to stalk or harass anyone. But internally, I can become very clingy.

There is also a bigger mental-health context.

For the past few years I've had this persistent feeling of being unhappy or hopeless. It's not that I can't enjoy anything—I can crochet something and feel good, kiss my boyfriend and feel good, finish a task and feel good—but underneath those moments I've often felt like there's this constant background sadness.

I've also had periods where I barely wanted to eat or drink because I felt emotionally overwhelmed. I've experienced anxiety physically—tightness in my chest/stomach, feeling punched in the stomach, difficulty concentrating, etc.

And I've had thoughts along the lines of "I don't want to kill myself, but I wouldn't mind dying." I don't currently intend to act on those thoughts, and I want to live, but the fact that I can feel so indifferent toward my own continued existence worries me.

I've considered therapy/psychiatric help, but I currently can't afford regular therapy.

So I'm trying to understand myself without jumping to a diagnosis.

Why might someone develop these kinds of intense attachment patterns despite having loving parents and good friendships?

Is this actually anxious attachment, or could it be something else?

Why do I become so intensely attached specifically to people who make me feel emotionally understood?

And most importantly:

How do I learn to enjoy people without making their presence emotionally necessary for me?

I don't want advice like "just stop caring" or "find someone else." I want to understand the mechanism behind this and learn how to handle it better.

If anyone has experienced something similar, I'd genuinely appreciate hearing what helped you.