Feedback for a crazed mom of HS kid?
Hey all. The fam is at that point where we are looking into colleges and this lovely, amazing institution keeps coming up on our list! I’d love to hear from some kiddos in the undergrad programs on the perks and cons! I’m doing a little recon before we plan our tours, lol.
My son is very academic, it’s always been his favorite part of school. He’s got either a 3.9 or 4.0 (why don’t I know? I have never had to push him or ask or help with homework), and is taking either honors or AP classes depending on his schedule, so that’s weighted. He took his PSAT’s and came close to acing them. He’s in Mensa, which I suggested so he could maybe meet kiddos his age and socialize but….1. There aren’t any in our state his age and 2. He told me he didn’t join to
socialize but to learn. Spoiler alert: all the learning opps we’ve seen aren’t in his interest wheelhouse, which I found surprising.
Thing is….he doesn’t have much in the way of extracurriculars. He’s a great kid with a dry and kind of absurd sense of humor but he’s a bit socially anxious. Honestly not awkward, just anxious. I don’t care if he winds up bagging groceries for a living as long as he’s happy. I’m looking for a school where he will find his people. He has not at all in high school. He’s not unhappy, but I know he could be happier.
Rumor has it that your school might be the place. Like, math-is-fun-kinda peeps? Collaborative rather than competitive? He’s considering molecular engineering. He speaks math like it’s his second language and he ENJOYS it. (I’m a writer, so this is a mystery to me!) On a weekend, he’d be happy playing dungeons and dragons (all his friends moved on, so sad) or escape rooms or a loooong ass board game with complicated rules. He’s not going to keggers or sporting events.
I’ll probably delete this shortly in case he sees it. That would put the school directly on the no list because of my interference, haha. But please share thoughts? What’s the social life like, how are the dorms, might he find his people and happiness here? I’m not trying to be controlling or tiger mommish. I just want him to land somewhere he feels….normal.
Thanks so much in advance!