u/Spawnof88

I am 37 and in the UK.

I separated from my wife in December after 13 years together. I agreed to stay living with her until January so our kids could have a "normal" and happy Christmas.

Finally moved out 31st January.

She moved on pretty soon after but that was not an issue. The relationship had been dead a while and there was no love or intimacy for over a year prior to the separation. And if that's what she needs to get on with her life, that's her choice. Doesn't affect me, and she is keeping it quiet from the kids for now.

Instead of jumping straight back into dating, I started rebuilding my life. New home, new routines, new hobbies, and seeing my kids as much as I can.

Things had been going really well. The separation was genuinely the best decision I had made in years.

But sometimes, for no reason at all, it all builds up in my mind and I come crashing down. The feeling of maybe I didn't do enough to save the marriage. The feeling of letting my kids down and letting myself down. The thought that maybe I will never find love again.

I have great friends, a good job with great colleagues, and I am finally feeling like my authentic self for the first time in probably 5 years.

But I have perhaps been burning the candle at both ends a little too much and have allowed myself to get burnt out a little. And when that happens, I try to rest. But when I rest, I have time to think without the distraction of kids, chores, and a partner. So all the negative self talk floods back in. I am currently in a major self doubt and self loathing stage. And today is just really fucking hard.

I do not miss my wife. I don't even like her any more, let alone love her. I had wanted to separate for a long time but was too scared because of the kids and finances.

But I do miss my kids on the days I don't see them.

And I miss having someone to come home to, to talk about my day, to cuddle with. Someone to love.

I am far from ready for dating or anything like that. I need to heal first.

But fuck, some days are just really tough.

Just needed to vent

Hey!

As the title says, been single for 6 months but bit of back story:

Was with my ex for 13 years, married for 10, and have 2 kids together.

I moved out end of January but we called it off early December. We agreed I would stay living there to make sure the kids had a good Christmas. The relationship had been dead for over a year and zero intimacy since mid 2024 so it was a clean and amicable split.

Anyway, I am feeling ready to start putting myself out there again but after a 13 year relationship, I have zero experience or confidence in my flirting skills.

So, anyone been in similar situations able to help a guy out?

Or any advice in general to get me started?

So I am looking into cialis for a few reasons.

37 year old male and have heard of the many benefits including potentially helping prevent heart attacks and dementia.

Also keen to see if it helps me with working out, and if it has any cognition benefits.

I thankfully don't need help getting it up but like a lot of guys wouldn't mind lasting a bit longer. Has anyone found it helped with this?

I am looking at starting low dose, 2.5mg per day.

Hi all.

My marriage ended in January.

I have Dreadlocks (think "hollywood viking" look. In the 2 years before my marriage ended I was meticulous with looking after the dreads. However I have recently come to the realisation that this was more of a distraction and coping mechanism while my marriage and mental health were in free fall.

My hair has never had any spiritual meaning to me, it was purely aesthetic. And although I have grown comfortable with it, I truly believe now that I was only so meticulous with it because my now ex used to find it attractive so, along with it being a coping mechanism, in my head I wanted to try to be attractive to her still.

Well, those days are gone. And tonight I am shaving my head.

My question is, are there any rituals/chants etc people have used in a similar situation.

It's almost like a cord cutting or letting go of grief type feeling for me and I want to do something for the gods as they have given me so much strength during the turmoil of the past couple of years. In particular Fenrir but it doesn't have to be directly aimed at him.

Either way, I want to mark the occasion as I feel it is a huge and symbolic part of my journey into a new life.

Advice, tips etc all gratefully received.