Identity shatter
I am experiencing an identity shatter following a medical diagnosis. I have developed a chronic visual impairment at age 35 following a pregnancy. I am struggling because I already had two children and simply wanted another baby but was operating on gut instinct. Had I really thought about it, I might have decided otherwise. Now I am contending with an open ended hellscape of suffering that is costing me and my entire family the life we wanted to live. I think the grief alone might kill me. It's been two years and I've tried extensive therapy, medication, even a very high risk surgery. I was previously in perfect health and had perfect vision. I have had my capabilities stripped and I do not know how to make peace with any of this. I am hopeless and do not know how to exist with this suffering when I'm feeling the shadow version of my former life turn to dust. Every moment I think "It could have been so beautiful if I werent suffering In this way." I try not to think that way, but the suffering is so intense and overwhelming that it's inescapable. Has anyone overcome this kind of absolute wreckage? My life was stolen from me in the most brutal way