u/SplitFew9313

Just wanting to hear others experiences...

Are there certain carbs you respond well to, and certain carbs that, no matter how you prepare them or what you pair them with, you do not respond well to at all?

What I find odd is that I can have 40+ grams of carbs from oats in one sitting and be and feel absolutely fine, even super-refined oatflour... Yet even just 20g of carbs worth of cooked then cooled then reheated (to lower the GI even further) wholewheat pasta paired with fatty meat (a chicken thigh or a pork chop for example) seems to makes my blood sugar dysregulated and makes me feel like utter shit too...

This just doesn't make sense... Cooked then reheated wholewheat pasta paired with fatty meat is alot lower glycaemic index (GI) and glycaemic load (GL) than the bowl of oatmeal that I don't react to at all.

Anyone else have similar experiences?

What can you weirdly tolerate or weirdly not tolerate?

Just wanting to hear others experiences...

Are there certain carbs you respond well to, and certain carbs that, no matter how you prepare them or what you pair them with, you do not respond well to at all?

What I find odd is that I can have 40+ grams of carbs from oats in one sitting and be and feel absolutely fine, even super-refined oatflour... Yet even just 20g of carbs worth of cooked then cooled then reheated (to lower the GI even further) wholewheat pasta paired with fatty meat (a chicken thigh or a pork chop for example) seems to makes my blood sugar dysregulated and makes me feel like utter shit too...

This just doesn't make sense... Cooked then reheated wholewheat pasta paired with fatty meat is alot lower glycaemic index (GI) and glycaemic load (GL) than the bowl of oatmeal that I don't react to at all.

Anyone else have similar experiences?

What can you weirdly tolerate or weirdly not tolerate?

My grandma lives in a residential care home (she has her own bedroom that is her space only, everything else is communal... shared lounge, shared dining area, shared garden), and has had no issues since moving in there 5 years ago.

This all changed recently, when one of the regular staff carers started bringing her two dogs (big labrapoodle type dogs, the ones that everyone says are "too cute and too floofy to do any damage" / "my baby wouldn't hurt a fly"... that sort of dog).

The two dogs are brought in most days of the week by the staff member, who brings them in for her entire shift and has a dog bed for them in the communal lounge. The whole place is filled with dog smell 🤮. But the main issue is the aggression these dogs show towards the communal home and their territorial guarding behaviours, that is becoming increasingly worse as time goes on. They were fine at first, but as they started 'claiming' and seeing the care home (wrongly) as their territory, they have began aggressively barking when anyone rings the doorbell or comes in to deliver mail or when residents/visitors come through the front door to leave or enter the home.

My grandma is becoming increasingly distressed by these wretched dogs that seem to have taken over the place. She has become very nervous to leave her bedroom, for fear these dogs will come running at her barking and bite/attack her... Which to be honest, there is a high chance they could do eventually, as these dogs behaviour is only becoming worse. My grandma used to spend a lot of time in the lounge, and looking forward to leaving the house for the day, but has since become a recluse for fear of these dogs hurting her if she leaves her bedroom so this is where she stays most of the time now.

We have spoken to the care home manager about this, but they are unfortunately a dog lover and they have said the dogs can stay because "some of the residents like walking the dogs and finding the dogs 'helpful' and 'motivating'. They are all clearly completely blind to how dangerously and territorially these sh-t beasts are acting, and quite frankly it is just an accident waiting to happen. My poor grandma is shaken by these dogs, yet all the care home seems to care about is having 'fluffy wuffy' around to 'emotionally support' everyone. I have raised the issue with the care home again, stating again the sheet distress, disruption, and danger these dogs are causing, but it again fell to deaf ears.

I am at a complete loss on what to do here 😮‍💨

P.s. These are not even service dogs, just this crazy staff members pet dogs from home. The dog nutter hasn't evennn bothered to claim them to be 'registered' as 'emotional support' animals. She just expects to be allowed to bring her two very disgusting and territorial spoilt shit beasts into work with her so they don't need to be far away from mummy wummy all day and suffer separation anxiety.

When exactly did this s**t become legal / commonplace?

I don't recall seeing this many mutts in places that are meant to be kept dog free / hygienic / free from any piss, faeces, and drool on the floor.

You even see them in doctors surgeries now, and in supermarkets pressing their noses into fresh uncovered veg. Or in restaurants barking and crawling under under people's tables licking their legs when they are trying to enjoy their meals. Or in workplaces distracting people from doing their actual jobs they're there and paid to do. Aggressive dogs being bought onto buses where you have no escape route should they decide to attack. It's sickening.

We should start polls and petitions to get these shit demons banned. Dogs should be kept to their owners homes, other consenting peoples homes, pet shops, vet, and dog parks/the streets whilst on a leash. Theres no need for them to be anywhere else.

I have always lived in the UK, but my ethinicity is Mauritian. I have a lot of love for the little island and am very interested in the day-to-day lifestyle of my fellow Mauritian folk, and what life looks like many hours and timezones away ❤️🇲🇺

How many people in your household/who do you live with? Aunties, uncles, grandparents, etc. is it a house or flat? How common are the tin roof houses plastered with newspaper for wallpaper? How are the chores divided between men and women?

What do you do for work? How do you commute? Bus, taxi, walk, cycle, car?

What do you typically eat for breakfast, lunch, dinner? Do you shop at market or supermarket/stores? Do kids come home from school for lunch or eat packed lunch or canteen dinner at school?

Do you have any pets? Indoor or outdoor pets? What are your hobbies and past times? Do you play any sports? What kind of holidays / days out do you go on? Is camping a big thing over in Mauritius too?

Much love 🇲🇺

Would love to hear others experiences with whether artificial sweeteners like Stevia, sweet n lo, carderell, aspartame, sucralose, etc, have helped them overcome binge eating or whether avoiding the artificial sweeteners for real sugar is the better option.

How to have friendships for fun, rather than falling into helping people dynamic

It seems like every friendships / romantic relationship I seem to have (30F), whether it's with men or women, ends in me just being used as some kind of free advice machine, social skills support for the socially inept who don't want to get to know me but just want me to support them to be a better morr confident person so they can be social with other people.. or being used as a free personal trainer because I know my way around nutrition and the gym... or being used as a free babysitter or being used as a free therapist.

None of the people who have been in my life have had anything of value to offer back to me and no intention / bother / effort of giving anything back to me or a single care about my feelings and wellbeing and success, and my relationships have just felt like me giving away services / help for free, whilst getting nothing in return.

How can I change this? I would love to have two-way relationships in my life, where they add to my life as much as I add to theirs. Where the focus is on going out and having fun, and not on me being dragged into wasting my time away being conned into giving free therapy and nutrition/ fitness advice sessions.

I just want friends who care about me too! And who I can actually enjoy fun times with.

Sidenote, I am a woman of colour / ethnic minority, which may have an impact on things here too. I am black and christian... most people in the area I'm in are white, and very proud atheists.

(Any and all advice welcome )

Tdlr: I only seem to have people who use me show interest in me.

How to have friendships for fun, rather than falling into helping people dynamic

It seems like every friendships / romantic relationship I seem to have (30F), whether it's with men or women, ends in me just being used as some kind of free advice machine, social skills support for the socially inept who don't want to get to know me but just want me to support them to be a better morr confident person so they can be social with other people.. or being used as a free personal trainer because I know my way around nutrition and the gym... or being used as a free babysitter or being used as a free therapist.

None of the people who have been in my life have had anything of value to offer back to me and no intention / bother / effort of giving anything back to me or a single care about my feelings and wellbeing and success, and my relationships have just felt like me giving away services / help for free, whilst getting nothing in return.

How can I change this? I would love to have two-way relationships in my life, where they add to my life as much as I add to theirs. Where the focus is on going out and having fun, and not on me being dragged into wasting my time away being conned into giving free therapy and nutrition/ fitness advice sessions.

I just want friends who care about me too! And who I can actually enjoy fun times with.

Sidenote, I am a woman of colour / ethnic minority, which may have an impact on things here too. I am black and christian... most people in the area I'm in are white, and very proud atheists.

(Any and all advice welcome )

Tdlr: I only seem to have people who use me show interest in me

For context, I (32f) hosted a backyard bbq party for family / friends this weekend. It was a gathering of about 30 people who I have had round my house many times before, and they are all familiar with my rule...

I do not allow dogs in my house or in my yard. I reminded everyone that dogs are not welcome in my house or yard when sending out invites to the party also and when confirming peoples attendance.

Regardless... One of my friends turned up to the party with their dog (a big slobbering highly energetic barking 80lb labrador type thing). I told them at my door that the dog was not allowed in, and that they were welcome to take the dog home and come back and join the party, but there was no way the dog was coming into my house or yard.

(for the record, I do not allow dogs even in my yard, because they poop and urinate on the grass and it can never be fully 'cleaned up' properly, and I like to be able to sit/lay on my grass and enjoy my backyard without worries of getting my clothes ruined with remains of dog poop/slobber/urine. I also just don't like being around dogs, because of the constant begging, staring at you 24/7, the barking, chewing up furniture, getting up on tables to steal food, constant attempts to lick your face/legs, so in my home at least, they are simply not welcome).

My friend threw a massive scene, shouting at me, saying that I was 'discriminating' against her and 'bullying / excluding her' for having a dog. She said her dog was an 'emotional support animal' and that she needs to have it with her at the party because of her anxiety. I told her she is more than welcome at the party and that i'd love to have her here, but the dog is not welcome and it is not coming in. If she is unable to be here without the dog (which is a lie, because she has been round many times before without the dog and been fine) then she will just have to go home and give this party a miss.

She left in a huff with dog-in-tow. But messaged a bunch of our shared friends during the party, turning them against me and getting them to gang up on me for being a 'horrible person' and 'animal ab\*ser' etc etc (for the record, I would never harm an animal, I just prefer to not touch or be up close to certain animals that I find gross, or even terrifying depending on the breed, if possible. Im not a fan of them, so I just leave them be).

Anyway, the party went on, and most people had a great time, including myself when I eventually just ignored all this dog-related faff and enjoyed my time hosting. But I cant help feel the party was tainted at least a little bit by this horrible interaction with this friend and her dog, and the other friends involved in making me feel bad for not allowing a dog in my home.

Am I in the wrong here / AITA for holding the boundary on not allowing dogs in my home/yard?

Im just not sure what to make of all this really.

For context, I (32f) hosted a backyard bbq party for family / friends this weekend. It was a gathering of about 30 people who I have had round my house many times before, and they are all familiar with my rule... I do not allow dogs in my house or in my yard. I reminded everyone that dogs are not welcome in my house or yard when sending out invites to the party also and when confirming peoples attendance.

Regardless... One of my friends turned up to the party with their dog (a big slobbering highly energetic barking 80lb labrador type thing). I told them at my door that the dog was not allowed in, and that they were welcome to take the dog home and come back and join the party, but there was no way the dog was coming into my house or yard.

(for the record, I do not allow dogs even in my yard, because they poop and urinate on the grass and it can never be fully 'cleaned up' properly, and I like to be able to sit/lay on my grass and enjoy my backyard without worries of getting my clothes ruined with remains of dog poop/slobber/urine. I also just don't like being around dogs, because of the constant begging, staring at you 24/7, the barking, chewing up furniture, getting up on tables to steal food, constant attempts to lick your face/legs, so in my home at least, they are simply not welcome).

My friend threw a massive scene, shouting at me, saying that I was 'discriminating' against her and 'bullying / excluding her' for having a dog. She said her dog was an 'emotional support animal' and that she needs to have it with her at the party because of her anxiety. I told her she is more than welcome at the party and that i'd love to have her here, but the dog is not welcome and it is not coming in. If she is unable to be here without the dog (which is a lie, because she has been round many times before without the dog and been fine) then she will just have to go home and give this party a miss.

She left in a huff with dog-in-tow. But messaged a bunch of our shared friends during the party, turning them against me and getting them to gang up on me for being a 'horrible person' and 'animal ab\*ser' etc etc (for the record, I would never harm an animal, I just prefer to not touch or be up close to certain animals that I find gross, or even terrifying depending on the breed, if possible. Im not a fan of them, so I just leave them be).

Anyway, the party went on, and most people had a great time, including myself when I eventually just ignored all this dog-related faff and enjoyed my time hosting. But I cant help feel the party was tainted at least a little bit by this horrible interaction with this friend and her dog, and the other friends involved in making me feel bad for not allowing a dog in my home.

Am I in the wrong here / AITA for holding the boundary on not allowing dogs in my home/yard? Im just not sure what to make of all this really.