I recently started casually seeing a young man who lied to me about his age thinking I’d reject him if he told the truth. He was also dishonest about his sexual experience and I finally learned that he has only had sex once before me.

That being said, bc of his lack of experience and dishonesty, I was less cautious then I would’ve known to be and in June 26 (my exact ovulation day), he ejaculated in the condom, didn’t tell me and kept going. When I eventually realized he was going soft I asked him if he came. He said yes but that he could still keep going!

I told him that you CANNOT keep going after ejaculating in a condom bc it becomes useless! The conDom was stuck inside of me when he pulled out.

I know my body well and have been pregnant many times before. I’m certain I’m experiencing early pregnancy symptoms and quite excited tbh!

Here’s the dilemma: I don’t want an abortion, I want to keep the pregnancy and baby but I know he is young and I feel it would be unfair to him to keep it. Its also unfair for me to have to terminate the pregnancy.

I would not ask that he be an active father at all or request financial support btw.

TLDR; I’m pregnant by my casual and much younger lover and want to keep the pregnancy but I’m dealing with feeling guilty because he is so young. Any advice?

I recently started casually seeing a young man who lied to me about his age thinking I’d reject him if he told the truth. He was also dishonest about his sexual experience and I finally learned that he has only had sex once before me.

That being said, bc of his lack of experience and dishonesty, I was less cautious then I would’ve known to be and in June 26 (my exact ovulation day), he ejaculated in the condom, didn’t tell me and kept going. When I eventually realized he was going soft I asked him if he came. He said yes but that he could still keep going!

I told him that you CANNOT keep going after ejaculating in a condom bc it becomes useless! The conDom was stuck inside of me when he pulled out.

I know my body well and have been pregnant many times before. I’m certain I’m experiencing early pregnancy symptoms and quite excited tbh!

Here’s the dilemma: I don’t want an abortion, I want to keep the pregnancy and baby but I know he is young and I feel it would be unfair to him to keep it. Its also unfair for me to have to terminate the pregnancy.

I would not ask that he be an active father at all or request financial support btw.

TLDR; I’m pregnant by my casual and much younger lover and want to keep the pregnancy but I’m dealing with feeling guilty because he is so young. Any advice?

Text thread after him M(33) yelling at, insulting, interrupting, and then hanging up on me F(32) while I was trying to be supportive of him bc he’s a spiraling, raging and violent alcoholic who is constantly getting kicked out of and banned from bars for starting fights etc. He’s been using our friendship as a punching bag for the last 2 weeks esp. This is the last text convo between us. 

Is this abusive?

Him: Sorry not ready to talk yet I guess. If you don't want to be my friend anymore I understand 

Her: I have never had a friend hang up on me before. Especially after I was showing mad support. I don’t even know how to handle that. That hurt me. I really was showing you love, didn’t expect that from you. 

Him: I needed to be treated more gently. Sorry

Me: You hung up on me so, if that meant you don’t want to be friends then make it clear on your end.

I need to be treated gently too Fletcher

Him: I was trying to be vulnerable 

Sorry for calling you out

Me: I handle you like a baby bc I know how sensitive you are and I care about you. Anything from me if from love

You weren't calling me out man, we're not at odds 

Him: Im cooked

Her: What that mean?

Him: Ive completely lost track of the person I used to be proud to be 

Her: You still are 

You can be an even better version of him 

Him: I want to give up

Her: On what?

Him: Trying to do anything

I think I'm just going to lock myself inside and make an album or some shit 

Start a business.

Giving up being a part of anything

Her: The album option sounds good lol

Don't give up

Hug yourself 

I'm really worried about you...

You back home or still out?

Him: Just got to my parents

Her: Good, tell them what's been going on 

Him(2 hours later): I can't

Maybe next time

Her (one hour later): Hey, I'm going to step back from this friendship. Today was horrifying for me and a huge trigger. The way you raised your voice at and spoke over me mixed with the "sorry" then admit blame shifting reminded me exactly how my abusive ex used to treat me. I don't deserve that from you or anyone.

Him: That's cool

I already thought you wrote me off after last time

Bubye

Time to lock in. I dont need anyone to have my back.

Her: Take some accountability man before you lose everything you care about and everyone who cares about you. Take care. 

Him:Fuck off

Him:Kick me while im down

Him: You could have easily just not texted me that

Him: ✌️