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Lost my son in May, it’s been a few months I had time off work and went back to work a couple weeks ago. When I think of him I feel numb. I didn’t see him after he was born because I felt like I would never be able to move forward if I did. But now all I feel is numbness almost like the whole experience never happened to me. When I visit his grave I don’t cry. My husband did see him after he was born and he cries everytime we go to the grave. It feels more real for him. It’s almost like I have holes in my memory now. It’s as if it happened to someone else and not me. Does anyone else feel this way?

My sibling and I were 8 weeks apart, they gave birth this week to a baby the same gender mine was supposed to be (lost at 17 weeks). I felt an obligation to go visit the baby and my sibling in hospital out of love, out of loyalty. The whole experience has shattered my heart. Don’t get me wrong I have so beyond happy for my sibling and excited to have a new family member but I am so so heartbroken for myself and what could have been. The worst part was seeing all the other mothers and fathers carrying their new born babies out of the hospital in their car seats. Must have seen about 8 families doing this whilst waiting to see my sibling. The grief has hit me again like a train. I’m struggling to get up again in the mornings and not be consumed by grief. I feel guilty for not being more present for my sibling.

Feeling sad and down and missing my baby
Seeing all the mums expecting around the same time as me thriving in their pregnancy is heartbreaking for me

I lost my baby at 20 weeks in May
I am currently signed off sick by the GP and not due to return until August
My manager keeps messaging me every two weeks asking how I am
He’s today asked me for an “employee health review” next week which is apparently required by the absence procedure
I don’t feel ready to talk to anyone at work
I got my first period today which has been so hard mentally
What are my rights?

I had brown / dark red spotting on 30th March for which they could not identify a cause and then ended up with a loss at my 20 weeks scan on 20th May
Did anyone else have this? Still have no answers as to why this happened

Lost our October baby at 18 weeks, found out at the 20 week scan. Struggling with grief and sadness and feel triggered by everything on tv and social media. Cannot help but wish our baby was born like everyone else’s. Felt numb for the first few weeks and now the grief has hit me hard. Life is unfair.