u/Standard-Air2697

part 1: https://www.reddit.com/r/dating\\\_advice/s/pikNzIi5or

part 2:

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating\\\_advice/s/oKd5g0gJJJ

So yesterday i kept telling her do u miss ur ex and she repeadtly said no i dont no i dont. i blocked her on my fake girl alt and i was too scared to tell her the truth so i just told her that she (the fake acc) told me everything and she said im a terrible person all over again and that if i wanna break up with her i can and but i didnt i gave her one last chance.

i told her i knew that u still miss ur ex there was no point in lying, that u talked behind my back to a random girl when she said that im controllive obbsesivd and stalk and all the stuff in between and also confronting her about her spending more time with my homie than me and talkimg more with him telling him everything while she over here talked super dry with me and doesnt wanna tell me anything she said sorry she needs time and space i gave it to her but she said its okay we can still text so idk the point did i give her do i take a break like wht i do? even after she said sorry and stuff and shes a terrible person bla bla bla she kept texting me dry i asked her why and she said we almost broke up wdym then the same night we js kept exchanging random texts about nothing and played a roblox game for 8 mins or so and she left cuz boring then she slept. morning she still is dry asf idk what to do to become normal again and she still talking energetic asf and telling everythjng to my male friend energetically and talking to him more

i cant fkn tell if shes trying to get rid of me and she doesnt like me at all or if shes even doing it on purpose or anything like that but idk what to think of this im too stressed and i dont know what should i do i dont wanna break anybodys feelings

and ive been thinking of taking a break myself to reconsider what i should do and take tips from yall like i did last time

peace ✌️

first part: https://www.reddit.com/r/dating\_advice/s/lMLAp5zEWk

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so the whole day was just texting in from 10 minutes incriments to 1 hour incriments, never more than 4 texts. i put a story on my tiktok that quotes

"why do you reply so fast" its because i have nobody to talk to

and to that she responds with reply faster

i was upset about it and told her and she didnt seem to care at all all she said is "its just a joke k lol" and saying sorry 2 times (compared of how many sorries and apologies i make to her)

so i told her forget all of this and a goodnight message

i was expecting to be blocked or atleast have a goodnight message or ATLEAST an response but nada 0 there wasnt anything and the worst part she was still reposting BOTH on ig and tiktok and i saw 0 reposts that are directed to me a repost about a looksmaxxer a repost about biceps and ofcourse a repost about her ex, i told her about it waiting for a response but she prolly isnt gonna respond any time soon right now or even tommorow or even ever again but time will tell

today i didnt talk in the fake girl account I will talk to her in the girl accoont tommorow hopefully

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any tips to move on? i genuenly cant find myself moving on/falling in love ever again after all of this

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thank u

day 1

So my gf is acting super hella dry and when i bring it up she says its nothing and she still loves me and stuff idk

so like i got worried she lost intrest and stuff but she insisted that she still loves me just doesnt like talking to anybody at all including me

i decided to look to my friends who are also talking to her and guess what shes being super energetic and happy and even sending them funny videos which she used to do with me but doesnt anymore

and then i tell her about why are you like this bla bla bla this and that but never mentioned how she acts around my friends bcuz i dont want her to find out

and she also always tells my friends that she loves me and stuff and would never leave me and all the type of stuff she would say inbetween

so i assumed that she knows her convos are screenshotted and sent to me to make me think that shes like that

So i opened a fake girl account snd started talking to her there then i mentioned that im single and that i need a bf and immediately said "TAKE MINE" i said why? and she said "Hes possesive asking too many questions about who i talk with and stalks me all the time" and that genuenly gave me a heart ache reading it but i continued to talk to her

and then the more i talked to her the more i found out that she still misses her ex even tho i asked about it earlier and she said no lol i don't miss him

il get to the coorlation of her missing her ex in a bit

before i found out she still misses her ex she was super energetic w me and like told me idk if i should break up with him and she was actually considering breaking up with me even tho when i asked her if u wanma break up like HER wanting to break up she said no

then i sent this message to her its a long message but i promised to give her space and time

"Sorry for disturbing u again but i js wanted to aplogise for overthinking all of this i rly didn't know what was on my mind n stuff and also sorry for keep stalking u in tiktok and also sorry for all that tiktoks and reels bullshit i made up i promise il try my best not to overthink like this again and i promise il try my best to not to doubt u again and sorry about thinking u would break up and sorry for everything wrong i did that i forgot and didnt mention il leave u sum time and space again js know i really love u i wont disturb u again after this i promise"

and then i got delivered on 11 hours but she was talking to me on my fake girl account and my other friends like normal

so then we were talking and shr didnt know what to send me or how to reply to me and she told me that she can't love anyone after her ex and that the ex was her only true love

now at that moment i litt wanted to k m s but i j s kept on talking with her on my alt account and then she told me that she was treating me like her toxic ex did at the end of time and i was acting like her when she wanted her ex back (back when they were still in an relationship)

one thing that REALLY REALLY stabbed me right in my heart is when she told me (while i was in the fake acc) that the first person that she wished a happy new year was her ex and at that time period the 2026 new years eve she was WITH ME and she was the first person i said happy new years to thats how much i love her

and she kept telling me(fake girl acc still) that shes a terrible gf and a terrible person and was crying and stuff and how she doesnt deserve me and i told her you can fix it and fix him and then she told me i dont know what and told me that she wanna stop talkimg about this topic bc shes scared her grandpa will find her crying and stuff so we stopped there

fast foward i thimk 1-3 hours later she said the same stuff to my friend and my friend(i dont remember clearly what she said it was on a screenshare so i mightve missed some details) that yeah go apologize and dont break up with him that would hurt even more if u did

at that point before she screenshared i wanted to cvt myself again till she screemshared and told her that she would send a msg tonight and stuff

so i waited and waited and waited and waited till she said "idk how to respond to this i dont deserve you, you are the sweetest boy i ever met and im sorry im a terrible gf for doing that and i promise i wont ever do it again" (it was a series of multiple messages like that and not just that this is just a recap)

now i thought to myself yay nice i saved it i can finnaly be back to normal and stuff till she absolutely didn't fucking move an inch and didnt change at all still being dry and still late responses

now even tho i knew the reason she was like that i coudnt talk about it with her and make her feel better because i wasnt supposed to know it so i wanted her to admit first then i would talk to her about it

so i asked her "why were you like this?" and i thought shed finnaly give me the truth but nope she insisted she doesnt know and after that she kept being dry even tho i wasnt

at that time she was talkinh to both the fake acc and me and she seemed to have nothing to talk about with me however she was talking Hella about school friends and song artists and fav songs in the fake girl account

yeah then she ended off the day with a dry ass goodnight and love you saying that she was tired (she cant be tired all the time bc she says she is all the time) and i responded with a goodnight too and idk what to expect or tell her tommorow

and yeah thats it it feels good venting like this but im scared il get caught by her so i js blocked her on all the accs i know of here and a couple related ppl too

day 2:

it got kinda better

but still its still not like it used to

i dont think im anything to her anymore

shes texting my friends more than me

shes telling them about her everyday life but she doesnt tell me anything

i dont know what to do anymore

i cant 'prepare myself ' because i shoudve a long time ago and now its too late

if shes ever gone i cant move on

she still doesnt know i know she misses her ex

but she misses him alot and i know for a fact she cant get over it

just like me when i cant move on when shrs gone

after her i dont think il be able to catch feeling for anybody whatsoever

day3

we talked and she acted like everything normal, i talked about this to a girl and she told me that is not normal and she told me a plan that i would just ghost her and come back saying that i was with other new friends but i coudnt bring myself to it

then i talked to her in the fake girl account and she said im spending more time with my hg(which i dont even consider the "hg" as a hg) more than her WHILE she spends more time with my male friend than me but as usual i cant mention that and talked about an old story i dont wanna bring up maybe tommorow i will tell but anyways and an other story i didnt fully understand but maybe over reacted or made up about me and my "hg" spending more time than i am with my girl and i mentioned if she talked to it about me (the her missing her ex story and the me spending more time) she said "girl u dont even know our dms i did tell him il show u in discord tommorow" and idk when she talked about it or where but im sure its an old message and tell her to talk to it about me fr and also an extra thing i wanna add is she said "i gave him too many chances to explain himself" and every chance i got to explain a mistake i did in the relationship and deeply deeply apologize for it

all for today

i need advice of what to do more or what do y'all rhink and i will update tommorow i dont know how but i will stay tuned in the reddit thread reply thingy to check for a new post maybe this time exactly

cyall and goodnight 👋

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day 1

So my gf is acting super hella dry and when i bring it up she says its nothing and she still loves me and stuff idk

so like i got worried she lost intrest and stuff but she insisted that she still loves me just doesnt like talking to anybody at all including me

i decided to look to my friends who are also talking to her and guess what shes being super energetic and happy and even sending them funny videos which she used to do with me but doesnt anymore

and then i tell her about why are you like this bla bla bla this and that but never mentioned how she acts around my friends bcuz i dont want her to find out

and she also always tells my friends that she loves me and stuff and would never leave me and all the type of stuff she would say inbetween

so i assumed that she knows her convos are screenshotted and sent to me to make me think that shes like that

So i opened a fake girl account snd started talking to her there then i mentioned that im single and that i need a bf and immediately said "TAKE MINE" i said why? and she said "Hes possesive asking too many questions about who i talk with and stalks me all the time" and that genuenly gave me a heart ache reading it but i continued to talk to her

and then the more i talked to her the more i found out that she still misses her ex even tho i asked about it earlier and she said no lol i don't miss him

il get to the coorlation of her missing her ex in a bit

before i found out she still misses her ex she was super energetic w me and like told me idk if i should break up with him and she was actually considering breaking up with me even tho when i asked her if u wanma break up like HER wanting to break up she said no

then i sent this message to her its a long message but i promised to give her space and time

"Sorry for disturbing u again but i js wanted to aplogise for overthinking all of this i rly didn't know what was on my mind n stuff and also sorry for keep stalking u in tiktok and also sorry for all that tiktoks and reels bullshit i made up i promise il try my best not to overthink like this again and i promise il try my best to not to doubt u again and sorry about thinking u would break up and sorry for everything wrong i did that i forgot and didnt mention il leave u sum time and space again js know i really love u i wont disturb u again after this i promise"

and then i got delivered on 11 hours but she was talking to me on my fake girl account and my other friends like normal

so then we were talking and shr didnt know what to send me or how to reply to me and she told me that she can't love anyone after her ex and that the ex was her only true love

now at that moment i litt wanted to k m s but i j s kept on talking with her on my alt account and then she told me that she was treating me like her toxic ex did at the end of time and i was acting like her when she wanted her ex back (back when they were still in an relationship)

one thing that REALLY REALLY stabbed me right in my heart is when she told me (while i was in the fake acc) that the first person that she wished a happy new year was her ex and at that time period the 2026 new years eve she was WITH ME and she was the first person i said happy new years to thats how much i love her

and she kept telling me(fake girl acc still) that shes a terrible gf and a terrible person and was crying and stuff and how she doesnt deserve me and i told her you can fix it and fix him and then she told me i dont know what and told me that she wanna stop talkimg about this topic bc shes scared her grandpa will find her crying and stuff so we stopped there

fast foward i thimk 1-3 hours later she said the same stuff to my friend and my friend(i dont remember clearly what she said it was on a screenshare so i mightve missed some details) that yeah go apologize and dont break up with him that would hurt even more if u did

at that point before she screenshared i wanted to cvt myself again till she screemshared and told her that she would send a msg tonight and stuff

so i waited and waited and waited and waited till she said "idk how to respond to this i dont deserve you, you are the sweetest boy i ever met and im sorry im a terrible gf for doing that and i promise i wont ever do it again" (it was a series of multiple messages like that and not just that this is just a recap)

now i thought to myself yay nice i saved it i can finnaly be back to normal and stuff till she absolutely didn't fucking move an inch and didnt change at all still being dry and still late responses

now even tho i knew the reason she was like that i coudnt talk about it with her and make her feel better because i wasnt supposed to know it so i wanted her to admit first then i would talk to her about it

so i asked her "why were you like this?" and i thought shed finnaly give me the truth but nope she insisted she doesnt know and after that she kept being dry even tho i wasnt

at that time she was talkinh to both the fake acc and me and she seemed to have nothing to talk about with me however she was talking Hella about school friends and song artists and fav songs in the fake girl account

yeah then she ended off the day with a dry ass goodnight and love you saying that she was tired (she cant be tired all the time bc she says she is all the time) and i responded with a goodnight too and idk what to expect or tell her tommorow

and yeah thats it it feels good venting like this but im scared il get caught by her so i js blocked her on all the accs i know of here and a couple related ppl too

day 2:

it got kinda better

but still its still not like it used to

i dont think im anything to her anymore

shes texting my friends more than me

shes telling them about her everyday life but she doesnt tell me anything

i dont know what to do anymore

i cant 'prepare myself ' because i shoudve a long time ago and now its too late

if shes ever gone i cant move on

she still doesnt know i know she misses her ex

but she misses him alot and i know for a fact she cant get over it

just like me when i cant move on when shrs gone

after her i dont think il be able to catch feeling for anybody whatsoever

day3

we talked and she acted like everything normal, i talked about this to a girl and she told me that is not normal and she told me a plan that i would just ghost her and come back saying that i was with other new friends but i coudnt bring myself to it

then i talked to her in the fake girl account and she said im spending more time with my hg(which i dont even consider the "hg" as a hg) more than her WHILE she spends more time with my male friend than me but as usual i cant mention that and talked about an old story i dont wanna bring up maybe tommorow i will tell but anyways and an other story i didnt fully understand but maybe over reacted or made up about me and my "hg" spending more time than i am with my girl and i mentioned if she talked to it about me (the her missing her ex story and the me spending more time) she said "girl u dont even know our dms i did tell him il show u in discord tommorow" and idk when she talked about it or where but im sure its an old message and tell her to talk to it about me fr and also an extra thing i wanna add is she said "i gave him too many chances to explain himself" and every chance i got to explain a mistake i did in the relationship and deeply deeply apologize for it

all for today

i need advice of what to do more or what do y'all rhink and i will update tommorow i dont know how but i will stay tuned in the reddit thread reply thingy to check for a new post maybe this time exactly

cyall and goodnight 👋

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Ive just discovered accela and i may have an older version and want to update to the latest one, the problem is i dont have any official link that gets updated or community and heard about an accela discord server.

If anyone has the discord server please link it to me below

Thank you.