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Im feeling like a Karen but I’m about to take off on a 10hr flight and somebody on this flight is wearing a strong af cologne. Oddly, I asked my friend if she could smell it and she can but not as strong as I do and it isn’t bothering her.

I wonder if we are like more sensitive to scents in enclosed spaces or something, maybe just in general? It smells like someone poured an entire bottle of old spice on themselves then soaked in Irish spring for an hour.

I feel like I’m going to faint, my stomach is in knots like I was fine and excited for this trip and the SECOND the smell it my nose it was like an immediate reaction from my body.

I just took my nurtec. My mouth is watering and my forehead/eyebrows are throbbing. My cheeks feel numb. I also have crohns so sometimes when my head gets bad enough it triggers a chain reaction of just.. bad things happening lol. IM ON A PLANE. I wouldn’t say I’m at a migraine level but it’s definitely on its way and I can’t escape fml

That’s it. That’s the post. I don’t even know what to do in this situation.

Any plane hacks? I have all night to read them.

Hi! I’m going through some hard life stuff and hoping to find a gaming partner to duo some games with. Im only just getting into multiplayer/comp this past year and I don’t like it to be tooooo chaotic so I’d rather just chill and not take it too seriously, at least not right now .. I’m a pretty below average-average player tbh.

I’m also open to watching movies / tv shows / anime etc if the vibe is right etc but gaming is my main interest and source of escape right now.

Games I’m mostly interested in are: Marvel Rivals (Plat 2), Overwatch (Gold) and sometimes Apex.. and I prefer to play Healer/Support but I’m pretty flexible. I’m also open to play literally anything else if you think I’ll enjoy it!

I also love solo gaming but remaining on calls together and just yapping or blabbing about nothing and everything. I have alot to say but not many people I trust to say it too so maybe I need a good therapy/gaming sesh friend. I’m just looking for platonic friendship so I don’t care what your gender or age is just as long as you’re an adult.

I work from home but I took the next month off so I’ve just been twiddling my thumbs with anxiety, boredom and loneliness.. so I guess I’m just trying not to go insane lol

Thanks :)

Basically title and this is a bit of a diary type rant. I’ve been heartbroken and getting over someone for like 10months but I recently felt like I was ready to date again and meet someone.

TLDR - dating someone new when getting over someone else, new guy is ok with it but I’m unsure if I am. Should I just go for it or give myself more time.

So, I meet someone (call him D) and things are good like there is definitely potential and he’s a catch like he checks all my boxes except one - he’s not the person I’ve been getting over.

I feel guilty and I did try to end it a few times because of it like.. he doesn’t deserve this, I’m very much still in love with someone else and I need to get over it but I genuinely do not think I ever will be. I think I can push it down and convince myself to forget it for a little but I think it will always be there so I’m unsure how or if I’ll ever be able to date guilt-free or if it’s always there so part of me thinks I should just go for it

The guy I’m getting over recently (let’s call him K) like it’s been rough and I could have tried harder but I was never convinced he truly wanted to be with me. He was constantly looking for other women to talk to, I was always feeling extremely less-than and not good enough. I want someone that wants me. Only me. Like that’s it like end of story BUT it hasn’t made getting over him any easier.

I go on a girls trip, K messages me. We argue, we talk, he explains to me what happened. He eventually asks me to travel to him. So like, I’m hesitant because again, he’s always made me feel (whether intentional or not) like he didn’t really want me.. I don’t want to go if a relationship isn’t going to ensue. Im on vacation and not really in a position to discuss it with him deeper BUT based on what he’s saying, I decide like yah.. He seems genuine. I’ll get on a plane, do whatever I need to make this work, he will too, we’ll talk it out, we definitely need to, but when I’m in a better position to do so. I’ll talk to him when I get back and we’ll start this back up and I’ll fly to him. I started like, looking at flights/my work calendar and kind of getting ideas of how/when.

I’m SO happy like we were talking, flirting like yes, this is who I want to be with. My friends notice a shift in my mood, I’m just giddy and smiling. I immediately end things with D. Which, as I said, I’ve been on the fence about doing anyway.. and I DO feel terrible about it but I want to add that he knew about K and how I wasn’t over him and I told him I wasn’t sure what I was looking for, I’m kinda just dipping my toes into the dating pool.

D tells me he wants to see me when I get back from trip, so like fine, he does deserve an explanation to his face and an apology for wasting his time which I gave.

The next day? K changes his mind LOL ?!?!?!!!!!!! - he no longer wants to try or wants me. I’m glad I didn’t book anything lol. His attitude towards me like completely shifts. Which like ok? Why go through that convo and get my hopes up? I feel immediately justified in feeling hesitant because he proved he wants something else. Not me. Something I’ve always known and I should have remembered that was why we didn’t work out in the first place - he just doesn’t want me. Cool. He’s allowed to feel that way, I’m glad he was honest but wish my emotions and feelings weren’t juggled like that like only say things if you mean them. I thought he did. That’s what I get for believing him. Again. My girls trip was now ruined.

So, I get back home and D comes over and he wants to talk.. I tell him everything, I want to end this, I’m not over K, this isn’t right, you deserve someone that wants YOU like the same way I deserve that.. right? He says he wants me. I say I want K. Looks like neither of us is getting what we want. It becomes a very emotionally charged conversation.

He isn’t buying it. He wants to continue dating and says it’s ok? Like what? How are you okay with this? 48hrs ago I cut you off and looked at flights to another man like there’s no way we can come back from this or build a sustainable/healthy relationship with this as a foundation.. and not only that, I just don’t know if I want to date? I thought I was ready. Maybe I am not. I need more time. I do want a relationship eventually with someone? but not like this. Do I just date anyway? Because like I said.. the K feelings just aren’t a going away and maybe dating is the answer? Is there any truth to “the only way to get over someone is to get under someone else??”

Anyway, we talk more like clearly nothing is ever going to come out of K. I think I really needed more reassurance and support than he was ever willing to give me but maybe he couldn’t because he didn’t truly feel those things? I need to move on but moving on feels wrong. I don’t want it to hold me back from potentially being with someone great? D gives me all of the reassurance, support and words I’ve always wanted from K. And more.

D suggested casually dating/hooking up with each other for a bit while I figure myself out and he’d wait, not see anyone else, give me space as needed.. I’ve never done casual stuff. I think that would be ok?

D and I have not even had sex yet because I became very sex averse for a while and I do not like to have sex if there isn’t an emotional connection/relationship..I do admit though that I am very sexually attracted to him (LIKE INSANELY, he is wildly hot and I think this clouds my judgement as well) like he kind of snapped me out of a sexual/masturbation drought and from the sadness I was feeling from K originally.

He’s been extremely understanding and patient with this. I would like to have sex with him, I don’t know if that would make this easier or worse. K is not interested in sex (although we have slept together) so K and I really just aren’t a match, him changing his mind is like.. it’s ok, I understand. D would be meeting my needs. All of them. He is just a good fit for me.. sexually, emotionally, same hobbies/interests and so on

I’m considering it but leaning towards no. I feel very conflicted and at odds with myself. I don’t want to be selfish. I don’t want to put myself (or D) in a situation where one of us gets hurt. But then I’m like… people do casual shit all of the time? Relationships bloom from worse? Sex doesn’t have to mean as much as it does to me? This guy is not letting me go without a fight, shouldn’t I want that? Maybe it’s time I try something new? Is it wrong if he KNOWS where my feelings truly are at? I just don’t know. I don’t know what to do or how to feel.. he’s great, part of me doesn’t want to lose it.

I dont think I should date when I know that if K came around I’d drop anything/anyone (which won’t happen and he’s proven to me over and over he doesn’t want this) so like, this feels like a disservice to myself and I’m missing out on someone who might.. does this make sense?

I don’t really know what to do, I need to talk to someone or just write it out to sort out my head.. my friends tell me to just go for it and see what happens but idk if I have the same outlook on it, maybe I should? Idk, I just know I feel sad and confused.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Do I need to just push my feelings away and date this guy? Date any guy? Do I just wait? But I feel if I wait until im over K, it’ll be just too much time by then and idk if I’ll ever get there at this rate.. I keep going back and forth lol

Hello! I don’t really know what to say, I’m not good at these kinds of things and I suddenly forgot everything about myself.

I guess we will start with the obvious - I’m 34 and lonely af lol. Do I do it to myself? Maybe. But I’m hopeful that someone will learn to love me as I am and help me navigate my faults and I will do the same for you. I don’t claim to be perfect or anything but I am in therapy and doing my best. That’s all we can really do, right?

I have an amazing job that I can do from anywhere so I am open to traveling, meeting and the possibility of relocating. I would probably prefer to move actually. I need an excuse to leave where I’m at now lol. I do not want an online fling or anything empty, I’m looking for something real and long term and I’d rather move to voicechats via discord sooner than later if it feels right.

When I’m not working I am usually just gaming with my friends (PS5 / Switch) between meetings or I’m out playing table top or board games. I’ve been trying to spend more time with friends and just socializing in general. I tend to be very introverted and spend most of my time inside alone. I don’t drink, party or do drugs but I am addicted to caffeine. Starbucks specifically. Just typing this out makes me want to order a latte and it’s 11pm.

I just graduated from my masters degree in business so life is pretty great in all areas and I feel very fulfilled and accomplished. I own my house, a vehicle and now a “big girl” career but having no one to share it with has been bleak. I do also have an 8 year old daughter and so it’s crucial that you’re ok with that. I understand not everyone is open to it though.

I love to play instruments, music is a huge part of my life. I do try to write my own stuff, I’m too shy to share but maybe I will eventually. I usually just write about how I feel and I think it’s just too exposing. I recently purchased an electric drum kit that’s collecting dust. Acoustic guitar is my favourite and I volunteer teach it to youth living in traditional housing - as we talk you’ll learn why that’s something very important to me.

To try to stay active and (relatively) fit, I am black belt in karate and I just began Kickboxing a few months ago and well, it’s kicking my ass. A 34 year old body does NOT move like it used to but I’m still loving it! I did put on some much needed weight from a few health problems I have and being 5’ tall makes 1lb look like 20lbs. It’s a lot of work to at least look healthy and average at best lol

Full transparency, I really debated putting myself out there as I am going through a tough time and recent heartbreak.. sometimes things don’t work out the way you want even though you loved them. And as devastated as I am, I am still hopeful that someone out there that will wake me up again, want the things I do and actually love me back?? I want to be enough for someone.

This was long so let this be a warning that I sometimes ramble about nonsense like I could explain the Zelda timeline to you in excruciating detail. So yah, if you’re ready to fall in love, have time to spare to listen to me trauma-dump or blab about nothing and are down to order take out coffee at anytime of day for no reason at all.. hit me up and hopefully we vibe! No hard feelings if not.