u/StarwardShadows

I know that I should have focused on this before we actually got serious because he was open about it. He talked a little TOO much about all his past partners and sometimes even described sexual events in detail. It didn't bother me that much at the beginning of our relationship because I genuinely like him/love him and I looked past it. But now that I've caught him looking at porn and stuff, idle hands are the devil's plaything, and I keep thinking "isn't it kind of weird he had this spank bank of memories of all these random girls".

It just grosses me out. I'm a bit ashamed to say I've shamed him a lot about it but hear me out: He's very insecure and he used to try to shame me a lot to overcompensate or whatever. He would act like I was some kind of promiscuous person and convince himself he was justified in his high body count because he clearly is very sensitive about it. For context, I've been with two men and one woman besides him. He's been with at least 15 women (I suspect more) and a handful of men as well. He had a lot of random hookups and he even had a threesome with his ex-girlfriend's best friend. He also paid some girl $20 for a blowjob like a few months before we got together and I was disgusted when I found out.

I'm not mad because I want to have experienced more sex or whatever. It's about the fact that I think it says something negative about his character. Especially since he'll randomly call me sexual slurs or act like I'm cheating or like I'm promiscuous because he feels bad about himself. Just today he got mad and was like "are you calling me a wh*r3?!" (I wasn't, it was in response to some random comment)

I think the resentment stems from the fact that he probably gave me HPV. I had a clean pap smear since discovering I had it, so it cleared up, thankfully. But deep down I also worry that he'll cheat or something and give me some other STD. I guess in all honesty I do think of him as a promiscuous person and I look down on him for his past.

I also think it's gross that he never says anything nice about his ex-gf but talks nicely about the best friend that was in the threesome. Creepy.

He’s been really distant and unsupportive lately so I was already worried, then this. He even apologized for not being there for me which he never does. As the title says, my husband requested I get an STD test because I had to have surgery to remove a missed miscarriage. I was really caught off guard and it’s making me wonder if he’s cheating on me. I haven’t been able to have sex for a while because of the surgery and all the stuff beforehand. But the day before he asked he walked off in the middle of the night and went to an old friends house where a lot of uh … “questionable” people hang out. And when I was still pregnant there was this one weird time when he freaked out in the middle of the night and ran off, and then some skanky girl came around looking for him after. He denied knowing why she was after him but I was always suspicious. Anyways, what would you make of this request? Did he cheat and he’s trying to hint he has something?

I already took the nightmare SQL class and then I got into the new degree program so I have to do it all again with Data+. I got low 600s .. I honestly thought I'd do better. The exam questions are really differently worded from the practice tests and I don't like the new revamp they did to Certmaster. Does anyone have any good resources / tips for Data+ v.002? Thank you.