u/StellafromVienna

Hallo zusammen,

ich bin Trauzeugin für meine beste Freundin und wollte ihr den JGA organisiere. Da wir alle wegen Job oder Liebe in unterschiedliche Städte gezogen sind, haben wir uns entschieden einen JGA in Prag von Freitagabend bis Sonntag zu machen.

Ich habe dann eine Umfrage nach der anderen gemacht. Budgets abgefragt, und Zusagen gesammelt. Wir haben dann für alle ein Budget von 300€ festgelegt für Anreise, Übernachtung und Aktivitäten. Nachdem ich mir alles drei Mal alles habe bestätigen lassen, habe ich alles gebucht: Flug für die Braut und Unterkunft.

Direkt nachdem ich dann gebucht habe, habe ich plötzlich Nachrichten außerhalb der Gruppe bekommen, man könne nicht kommen. 10 Mädels haben zugesagt und aktuell sind mit mir noch 3 dabei. Hintergrund ist, dass 6 davon zur selben Mädelsgruppe gehören. Die haben mich regelrecht gedrängt, dass ich endlich buchen soll, und haben dann konzertiert abgesagt. Was genau die Aktion soll, weiß ich auch nicht so genau.

Jetzt Habe ich bereits 850€ in die Hand genommen und ich stehe gerade alleine da. Sie wollen nicht mehr kommen und nichts zahlen. Habe ich das Recht, dass ich denen diesen Betrag in Rechnung stelle?

Me (31F) and husabnd (30M) have been together for 5 years.

I want to preface this by saying that 99 percent of the time we have a loving and good relationship. But he goes on Tirades whenever he gets irritated, which can be once a month and in bad phases every few days. When he gets angry, he starts saying the meanest things over and over again and while he is at it, there is no reasoning with him. For example he gets irritated by a seemingly small thing and then he gets riled up over it and starts insulting me: "You are dumb, you are an Asshole, I hate you, getting married to you was the biggest mistake of my life". He repeats the insults like a broken record. He also loves to insult my parents during those tirades, as he harbours an irrational amount of hate towards them. Then after a few hours he calms down again and apologizes, even though, sometimes I feel like the apologies arent genuine.

I used to cry, when he does that. But now I just go numb and try to ignore him and not engage. Every time he does it, something inside of me breaks. I dont want to tell my friends or my parents, because then he stops being him to them and they just see him as the guy with anger issues.

Before anyone tells me to just leave him, I would love advice on what we could do. He goes to therapy, but I feel like, it doesnt work, because he is not fully honest towards his therapist about his behavior. I dont think he is purposefully lying towards him, but he isnt communicating the severity of the issue to his therapist.

TLDR: Husband gets regularly irrationally angry and insults. I would like to find a way to handle the situation

We are having our wedding in August and we are currently having an issue with our venue Manager. We booked out the whole venue (hotel) for Saturday and the cafe that belongs to it (as an afterparty location). I asked the Manager, when would it be possible to set up decorations and the Manager replied that the Cafe will be open to visitors on Saturday till 7 pm. I wasnt made aware of that, when we signed the contract and now I am wondering how and when we can set up the Wedding decorations.

Before I escalate the situation, I wanted to hop on here and ask when your venue was available for decorations?

Info to add: We booked the Venue for the whole day of Saturday and the Morning of Sunday

I am having a local one day Bachelorette in a month. I decided to do it locally, so that costs would be minimal and the Bachelorette wouldnt take up the whole weekend.

One of my Bridesmaids, with whom I have been friends with for nearly 20 years just told me that she wont make it, because she has to finish her Bachelor Thesis. The thing is... She has been writing that damn Bachelor Thesis for the last 5(!) years. She has finished all her exams, but keeps procastinating on her Thesis.

And I keep thinking, if this took her 5 years already, and since she doesnt have a Deadline for thisThesis, it really doesnt matter, if this takes one more day or not.

I havent asked for anything from my Bridesmaids. I dont have a Groupchat, I didnt take them Dress-Shopping, I am not asking for help or advice. I am buying their Dresses, Makeup and their Hotel Suites on the Wedding Day, since it was my goal to pamper them on the day itself. I feel quite disappointed to be honest, as I am not getting anything in return from her; no real support.

How would you handle this? Should I bring this up?

I am getting married this summer. The location is a semi-destination wedding, as it is a four hour drive from our hometown, but he moved to another country, so for him it's an actual destination wedding, and a three hour flight.

We are covering all costs for the guests during the wedding: Food, Drinks, Accommodation costs (one night at the Hotel is being paid for all our guests), Shuttles to the ceremony, parking and so on. We also hired Childcare services / a licensed Babysitter, to watch the children (during the dinner portion of the wedding), if the parents want a little break.

We only expect our guests to cover the costs of fuel, when they are driving to the wedding, and almost all people will be driving. My cousin however has three children, so he has to cover plane tickets for 5 persons, which is a bit much for him.

Now our problem is, that we are already spending much more than originally planned by covering all the costs, because our goal was to make attending the wedding affordable to all the guests. Now I am stuck between wanting to help out my cousin and money being stretched thin at the moment with ourselves. What should I do? What would you do?

Airfare is around 2k. I cant really afford to put in an extra 1k, but would it be still helping, if I cover like a quarter, like 500 bucks?

I am currently getting my invitation suite designed and I was wondering which info should I include in my Invitation Suite.

I am having a Wedding Website, where everything is described very, very detailed, so thats why I thought I could provide more minimal info on the printed invitation. An example would be that the Day-Of-Schedule would be described to the very last detail on the Website itself, but I would just include the beginning of the ceremony-time on the Invitation.

Same question goes for the dresscode and the Hotel Info (we booked out the Hotel). Is it enough to put it on the Website or should this Info be inlcuded in the Suite?

Ich habe herausgefunden, dass mehrere Wohnungen in meinem Haus über einen alten Mietvertrag günstig gemietet werden und dann sehr viel teurer untervermietet werden. Sie lassen sich die Miete in bar bezahlen. Die machen das wohl seit 15 Jahren so. Bin mir ziemlich sicher, dass die Nachbarn / Vermieter Steuern hinterziehen und würde die gerne melden. Wo könnte man das am Besten machen?