u/String-One

Hello. Gaano po kayo kadalas nag pinag BPS nung pregnant kayo? Nagulat po kasi ako na every 2 weeks na kami pinapag BPS ng OB. 4,620 pesos pa naman sya dito sa Makati Med 😔 Si OB na kasi dumidiretso mag sched sa hospital. When I asked if pwede hi-precision, sabi nya basta OB ang gagawa but she sounded hesitant so di ko na po pinilit. For context, I am almost 28 weeks pregnant po. Diagnosed with GDM but managed through controlled diet and may subclinical hypothyroidism pero normal na latest result. Nasa 60th percentile si baby and all normal ang results nya both sa CAS last month and BPS today.

I’ll be 26 weeks pregnant when we visit Sapa. For those who’ve been there, are the roads to Sapa very rocky/bumpy? And are the sleeper buses usually fast or do they drive carefully? Thank you!

Hi! Don’t post this anywhere else please. Hehe.

I posted here 2 months ago (but i deleted na) about my husband na nag abono ng hospital bills ng younger sister niyang nabuntis. I’m not even sure if he’s ever gonna get paid 💀 Ito yung sister niya na pinag-aral then after graduating from college, nagpabuntis, then after less than 2 years, buntis uli lol. The sister never got a job, her partner also didn’t have a job nung nangbuntis siya. Sabi nila sa husband ko, may work na now yung partner as a construction worker. Minimum wage, but okay na rin at least may work. Tbh I don’t believe na din in anything they’re saying. But anyway, may work man or wala, I told my husband that they need to pay him back for the medical bills. It’s not just about his money, it’s about not tolerating them.

The night her sister gave birth, I got really emotional with my husband’s financial decisions kasi pregnant din ako. Nagalit talaga ako because I HATE IRRESPONSIBLE PARENTS. A few days after, we had a long discussion about him being the breadwinner (or ATM 🙄) of his family. I told him not to give money or gifts to his family anymore for any occasion, including birthday celebrations. Not only because he is still owed money, but to let his family members know na hindi unli ang pera niya. More importantly, wala na siyang help na ibibigay sa babies na bagong panganak. Cold hearted as it may seem, he needs to learn the value of tough love. He agreed.

Fast forward. A few days ago, nagcchat sila ng other 2 sisters nya (still in college) about tuition fees that my husband needs to pay before their exams. While I told him that I was okay with him giving a monthly fixed amount for the bills + tuition/allowance of her 2 sisters in college, naiyak pa din ako haha. Anyway, nag back read kasi siya to cross-check something. Umabot sa July and I saw some gcash screenshots na yung isa feel ko for birthday, isa for the babies. 1500 lang naman for the birthday and he didn’t give a gift naman (sneakers pa supposedly), but still, di niya tinupad yung napag usapan. Then yung for the babies, not sure if namamalikmata lang ako, 16k then naglalagay kasi sya text sa screenshot, “for the babies”. Di ko na cinonfront cos pagod na din ako sabihan sya. Last night also, we were talking about the shorts he bought from shopee for himself. Nasa 200 lang naman then he casually mentioned that he bought 2 for his 7 yr old pamangkin. I didn’t react anymore.

Anyway, yesterday, we went out kasi cos I had some blood tests then naglunch kami after. We also bought some snacks, my meds, etc, nagpa gas din kami. Siya talaga nag ppay upfront but usually, I send him like 50% or less as my share at the end of the day even if he tells me na wag na. Still, I insist kasi nga alam ko he’s a breadwinner. But now, I plan not to send my share anymore. Naisip ko kasi if may extra pa naman pala sya to give his family, then I deserve din naman na sya magbayad for us. Tama naman ako diba?

Pre-pregnancy weight was 56.5kg. Now, 16 weeks into my pregnancy, I’m 53.1kg. I lost 3kg during the first trimester since wala talaga gana kumain and may restrictions pa because of my GDM. When I entered second trimester, nag gain naman konti since may gana na kumain, but like half kilo lang tapos nagllose pa din minsan.

I was advised by my endo na dapat 1,800 daily calorie intake but I’m really having a hard time achieving this, especially with the restrictions + small appetite since nasanay talaga ako light eater before pa. Max ko siguro now is 1,500 kcal but usually 1,300 kcal lang, and effort na yan for me.

May same case po ba sakin? Naging underweight po ba baby niyo? I’m worried kasi 16 weeks na but I look bloated lang. I can even still wear my jeans.

Hi! Sa mommies po na na-diagnose with GDM nung pregnant sila, ni-require po ba kayo ng endo niyo na magpunta sa diabetes center para ma-orient about sa controlled diet? Or on your own nalang po kayo nag research?

Sa Makati Med endo kasi, pinapapunta ako sa diabetes center. Sa isip ko, additional gastos na naman eh baka kaya naman i-research nalang yun. Would anyone know po how much fee dun sa diabetes center nila? Thank you.

Hi. Please don’t repost this anywhere. I might also delete this after I get some insights.

My husband’s sister got pregnant last year, second time na actually. Husband ko nagpaaral sakanya sa college and right after graduating, nabuntis. Less than 2 years after, nabuntis na naman. Obviously, di na sya nakapag work, and yung partner nya wala din work. How irresponsible.

Background lang: my husband gives monthly allowance para sa bills ng family nya (parents and siblings) + tuition fee and allowance ng 2 siblings + other extra stuff. Wala sya narinig sakin dyan. Sabi ko tanggap ko na breadwinner sya. Ang rule ko lang, wag niyang pag-aaralin kahit sino man sa mga pamangkin nya. Aside sa sister nya, yung brother din nyang no work may 2 anak din.

Anyway, when he found out that her sister got pregnant (tinago pa nga sa kanya), naghhelp sya sa sa check ups and tests. Wala pa din sya narinig sakin. Pero nung pumutok na panubigan ng sister nya, narush sya sa private hospital kasi dun sa govt hospital kung san sya dapat, di daw available bigla OB and anes kasi late night na. So expected yan need maglabas ng pera and kanino pa nga ba kukuha? Take note, emergency CS pa.

Di ko na napigilan mag react. Umiyak na ako ng sobra. Sabi ng husband ko, buhay daw yun ng sister nya, uunahin pa ba isipin ang pera. Sabi ko, napaka iresponsable kasi nila, ngayon ikaw lahat sumasalo. Sabi nya di naman daw. Sabi ko “ikaw halos lahat. Allowance, tuition fee, sige okay sakin yan. Pero pati ba naman pagbubuntis ng kapatid mo??”

Btw, pregnant din ako. Kaya nasabi ko din na inaanxious ako na baka by the time na ako ang manganganak, mashort naman kami sa finances. Minimum 200k kung san ako manganganak. Need nya itatak sa isip nya yun. Mabuti syang asawa. Ever since I got pregnant, sya sa lahat ng chores dito. Lab tests, check ups, meds, he always insists na sya na pero nagsshare pa din ako since may work naman ako tsaka iniintindi ko nga na may responsibilities sya sa family nya. Iniisip ko extra bawi nalang sya pag nakapag tapos na yung 2 siblings nya sa college, malapit naman na.

Naiirita lang ako na halos wala na boundaries asawa ko sa pagbigay ng pera kaya petiks at iresponsable mga kapatid nya. Please tell me, ako ba ang kontrabida dito? Ngayon kasi, biglang nababalik sakin eh, wala man lang daw ba akong emotion para sa babies (yes, twins) kasi mas iniisip ko pa pera??

I got my OGTT results today. Normal ang FBS, but 1st hour (result is 182, max should be 180.20) and 2nd hour (result is 163.98, max should be 153.17) are elevated.

I’m 11 weeks 2 days pregnant. I’m thankful naman na na-detect sya early. Pero hindi ko pa din maiwasan ma-anxious.

My weight has been really normal for 6 years now. Also, for 8 months, I’ve been on a calorie deficit and I’ve cut sugar significantly. I’m 53.9kg, 5’3”. Kaya na-sad ako sa results ko. Pero wala kasi akong exercise, kahit walking (except pag nag ooffice ako which is 1-2x a week lang) and pag nagddate kami ng husband ko on weekends. Iniisip ko nalang, if dahil sa lifestyle lang, easily manageable naman siguro.

Ang worry ko ay what if may history ng diabetes ang family ko that they don’t know of. I asked them before kasi and sabi lang meron YATA yung lolo namin sa father’s side. Pag ba genetics, may chance pa to ma-manage kahit anong effort ko to change my lifestyle?

This coming Saturday ang next consultation ko with my OB. Nag woworry lang talaga ako ngayon. 😔

Hello mommies! May tips po ba kayo para di masuka yung orange drink?

Supposedly, last Saturday yung OGTT ko kaso 40 mins after ko inumin yung drink, di ko napigilan maisuka 😔 Nakaupo lang ako, hindi nag pphone and nag iinhale ng vicks from time to time. Tolerable yung lasa ng juice kaya akala ko kaya ko. Kaso biglang nung 40 mins na, nahilo ako bigla kaya nasuka ko na.

Nasa first trimester palang ako, kaya dagdag pa yung morning sickness.

Tomorrow, magpapa-OGTT ulit ako kaso kinakabahan ako baka masuka ko na naman. Ayoko nang umulit 😔

Hello mommies! Based on lab results, FT3 and FT4 are normal but my TSH is slightly elevated. May nakaranas din po ba sainyo ng ganito? Ano po nangyari? 😔

Hello! I was supposed to have my 2nd OB consultation and ultrasound today but when we went to the clinic, I didn’t expect na ang haba ng pila sa OB and nag cut-off na. I’m around 10 weeks pregnant na po today.

1st OB consultation and ultrasound was 4 weeks ago, but wala pa kasi nakitang baby nun since too early pa daw. Sabi balik nalang sa OB para mag request uli ng ultrasound, which is today sana. So supposedly, today ko ipapakita lab results kay doc and magpa-request ng ultrasound ulit. Kaso di na umabot.

Sa Wednesday nalang kami pupunta ulit. Question ko po is, too late na ba? My husband and I feel so irresponsible. Worried din sya na baka naccompromise na pregnancy ko. This is our first time po and we haven’t told anyone yet since wala pa kami ultrasound confirmation. I’ve been taking folic acid naman po since my first consultation.

Hi, is there anyone here from the Philippines who previously had an abortion and later chose to get pregnant?

Did you disclose this to your OB? Women on Web mentioned that it can be reported as a miscarriage, but I’m worried about possible follow-up questions that I might not know how to answer.

Hi. No judgment please.

I’m 30F, married, and found out that I’m pregnant. Even if I’m already 30, feeling ko teenage pregnancy pa rin. I’m not ready in all aspects. It’s wrong that I trusted the withdrawal method too much since nung BFGF palang kami, di ako nabuntis kahit mas careless kami nun (never checked the calendar, never used condoms). Now that we’re married, mas nag ingat kami, only having unprotected sex during my safe days per flo app. Pero ngayon pa ako nabuntis. Had I know na mabubuntis ako, I really would’ve taken birth control pills nalang.

Sobrang lungkot ko. I’m so happy being with my husband na kaming dalawa lang. We had so many plans. We wanted to travel a lot. But now that I’m pregnant, I feel like I’m gonna lose my identity and my life’s gonna end. My husband keeps on reassuring me na that’s not gonna happen. Magppause lang daw yung plans namin and that it’s gonna be happier kasi sa next travel namin may +1 na daw kami.

But I don’t know. I’m open naman to having a child siguro 2-3 years from now — pag na enjoy enougy namin ng husband ko yung life na kaming 2 lang muna, pag mas nakapag-prepare na financially. But if I were held at gunpoint and had to choose between being childfree and being a mom for the rest of my life, it’s definitely gonna be the former. Having a child is a lifetime responsibility and I really don’t think I’m ready for that. Just today, I asked how much a transvaginal ultrasound would cost. Php3,960 daw. Kaya naman, pero sa isip ko, pwede na sana namin pinangkain namin yan, pinangsave for travel, pinangshopping. Selfish na kung selfish, but it’s so hard to think that I’d spend for a child, when I’m not even halfway done healing my INNER child.

Both my husband and I have stable income. 60% ng salary ko goes to bills. Yung 40%, gusto ko sakin na muna sana. 😔

Feel ko madedepress ako. I’ve been crying ever since the day I found out I’m pregnant. I still can’t accept that my life’s gonna change forever. I’m also aware na irresponsible din ako for not knowing better and having unprotected sex kahit alam kong ayoko magkaanak. Please don’t judge me 😔