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Hi everyone. I am a beginner runner (21F) who just ran my first half marathon in May. I started running seriously around end of February/March. After doing my half marathon I decided to try to do a full. I have been following a training plan for both including 4 days of running 2 days of strength training.

2 weeks before my half marathon in May I noticed a little pain in my hip. That day I had my 10 mile long run so I took a few walking breaks. The pain subsided around 2-3 days after. I tapered for my half the next week and my hip was fine. After my half marathon I was sore which was expected but nothing that bad.

Over the last few weeks of training my hip has been bothering me every time I run. I had a 14 mile long run last weekend and Saturday afternoon was horrible (pain sitting down, lifting my leg up, stairs, etc.) I decided to book an appointment at my local ortho facility. After taking a look it appeared to be a stress fracture in my hip. I had an xray yesterday and an MRI today to see the severity. They also put me on crutches and I haven’t really been using them.

Basically I am just very upset. I have worked so hard the past few months and was finally starting to see some big progress in my pace and distance. I also kind of loved eating whatever I wanted. I don’t want to loose it. I also need suggestions for gym activities as I don’t want to fall out of shape, but I’m not supposed to be putting any weight on it which is hard because it feels like everything uses my hip (expect arms obviously). I also love walking so I just feel really upset about all of it. I know it is partially my fault (prob not eating enough for how active I am and increasing mileage too quickly) so I’m trying to take it as a learning lesson. But basically I’m going to be upset if I can’t maintain some fitness. Thank you for any advice!

Hi everyone. I am a beginner runner (21F) who just ran my first half marathon in May. I started running seriously around end of February/March. After doing my half marathon I decided to try to do a full. I have been following a training plan for both including 4 days of running 2 days of strength training.

2 weeks before my half marathon in May I noticed a little pain in my hip. That day I had my 10 mile long run so I took a few walking breaks. The pain subsided around 2-3 days after. I tapered for my half the next week and my hip was fine. After my half marathon I was sore which was expected but nothing that bad.

Over the last few weeks of training my hip has been bothering me every time I run. I had a 14 mile long run last weekend and Saturday afternoon was horrible (pain sitting down, lifting my leg up, stairs, etc.) I decided to book an appointment at my local ortho facility. After taking a look it appeared to be a stress fracture in my hip. I had an xray yesterday and an MRI today to see the severity. They also put me on crutches and I haven’t really been using them.

Basically I am just very upset. I have worked so hard the past few months and was finally starting to see some big progress in my pace and distance. I also kind of loved eating whatever I wanted. I don’t want to loose it. I also need suggestions for gym activities as I don’t want to fall out of shape, but I’m not supposed to be putting any weight on it which is hard because it feels like everything uses my hip (expect arms obviously). I also love walking so I just feel really upset about all of it. I know it is partially my fault (prob not eating enough for how active I am and increasing mileage too quickly) so I’m trying to take it as a learning lesson. But basically I’m going to be upset if I can’t maintain some fitness. Thank you for any advice!

Hi everyone. I am a beginner runner (21F) who just ran my first half marathon in May. I started running seriously around end of February/March. After doing my half marathon I decided to try to do a full. I have been following a training plan for both including 4 days of running 2 days of strength training.

2 weeks before my half marathon in May I noticed a little pain in my hip. That day I had my 10 mile long run so I took a few walking breaks. The pain subsided around 2-3 days after. I tapered for my half the next week and my hip was fine. After my half marathon I was sore which was expected but nothing that bad.

Over the last few weeks of training my hip has been bothering me every time I run. I had a 14 mile long run last weekend and Saturday afternoon was horrible (pain sitting down, lifting my leg up, stairs, etc.) I decided to book an appointment at my local ortho facility. After taking a look it appeared to be a stress fracture in my hip. I had an xray yesterday and an MRI today to see the severity. They also put me on crutches and I haven’t really been using them.

Basically I am just very upset. I have worked so hard the past few months and was finally starting to see some big progress in my pace and distance. I also kind of loved eating whatever I wanted. I don’t want to loose it. I also need suggestions for gym activities as I don’t want to fall out of shape, but I’m not supposed to be putting any weight on it which is hard because it feels like everything uses my hip (expect arms obviously). I also love walking so I just feel really upset about all of it. I know it is partially my fault (prob not eating enough for how active I am and increasing mileage too quickly) so I’m trying to take it as a learning lesson. But basically I’m going to be upset if I can’t maintain some fitness. Thank you for any advice!

Does any one here have running experience in the dark? I currently work 7am - 3pm and the afternoon runs have been getting too hot. I was looking into running in the morning (I got up this morning to go and psyched myself out). I typically run on the Mohawk Hudson rail but I’ve read news articles about some crimes there. I’m new to the area and don’t know anyone else who runs and I don’t have a dog, only pepper spray. Just curious if anyone else knows any well lit places or maybe I just have nothing to be scared of?

Does anyone have any experience or advice on this?

I sat down and had a conversation with my boyfriend today. We moved in together after being long distance for 3 years and have lived with each other for 6 months. Recently I have been feeling more like a roommate and I feel we are losing are connection/spark. The first 1-2 years of our relationship was perfect.

I wanted to talk to him about this today because usually he knows when my menstrual is and will blame our arguments on that. I was holding off the last week because I knew he would blame it on that. I have been kind of quiet and dismissive the past 2 days. He said we needed to talk about it which is how the conversation got brought up. There were a few concerns I wanted to bring up. I mentioned to him that I feel more like a mother than a girlfriend. We often argue over chores. He has ADHD and wants me to ask when I want something done (ex. Laundry, wiping down counters, putting things away). I have been asking him but I find even when I ask it takes him forever to do it. I told him I needed him to start “owning” as task, that way it was 100% off my plate. I have OCD and can’t relax with clutter and crumbs everywhere. I also mentioned that he never shows any affection from saying “I love you” hugging, kissing, holding hands, etc.Things have gotten a little better but not much. He also likes to make his hobbies into dates (ex. If I say he wants to go on a hike he suggests disc golf because hikes are boring and disc golf is basically a hike). Every single one of the concerns he was very apologetic and helpful. He said he didn’t realize I was feeling emotionally neglected and isolated which is true.

The one thing I mentioned that struck a nerve was intimacy. Our whole relationship he has been very intimate with me. We used to be intimate multiple times a week or when we would see each other (long distance for college). Since moving in we have sex once every two months if not longer. I have noticed recently when paying the bills our Spectrum had security alerts when someone is using our WiFi. I was just curious and looked and all of the alerts were from his phone on adult websites. I have brought this up to him how are lack of intimacy affects me, especially because he works from home and is always here so even if I have an urge I can’t act on it alone, and nothing had changed. During our conversation I mentioned how I know he masturbates but was wondering why he didn’t have sex with me. I didn’t know if he was insecure about his body or just not attracted to me anymore but I know there is some reason. He said he wanted to bring it up for a while and hasn’t because it has been difficult. He said as he has been getting closer to God he feels guilty after we have sex and guilty after he masturbates. I think it’s important to note that his friend and new girlfriend have recently stopped engaging with sex due to their religion (he looks up to this friend a lot). I told him there is no where in the Bible that actually says that it is basically an old tradition. I am religious too and go to church with him on Sunday but I am not that extreme. I have some religious trauma and have been working on it while supporting him and growing my faith. He told me he needs to pray and talk to God and he will get back to me on it when God tells him what to do. I told him he should have been already praying on it and reading the scripture if it was something he was thinking and didn’t address. He told me he should have been proactive but was trying to ignore it. I also mentioned that we have been together for 3 1/2 years and plan on getting married in around 5-10 years so I don’t seem a harm. I also told him I’m not sure if I can continue the relationship if we are not having sex because that is important to me and I have been very sexually frustrating.

After finishing this conversation I told him I needed a little space to process everything and he says I should just spend the weekend with him doing these activities he planned for us. He said actively avoiding the things I’m upset about isn’t going to make me feel better and it will be easier to work through if we are having a good time.

I guess I’m just wondering how other people would feel in this situation? Would you guys feel upset or frustrated?