u/Substantial_Bee_1851

heyyyy ladies!!

When I tell y’all I love skin care I already have a separate routine, but I do not feel it’s giving … whenever I see a black woman on my for you page on Pinterest, or in person they have this flawless skin, no blemish and I’m like what am I doing wrong?!

A breakdown of my routine :

Face- Oil cleanse twice a week I let that emulsify I rinse going with my hydrating gel cleanser I do not pat my face dry. I let the water absorb a little then I put on a milk toner and I finish with a regular vanicream, cream, sensitive skin moisturizer because less is more

Body- Dry brush twice a week wash with a regular bar of soap non-scented go in with a body wash once I’m clean for scent not on my private parts but everywhere else ( if I shave, I clean my body first then I shave in the shower) once I’m out of the shower I pat dry a little and I use the water with my hydrating lotion. Then I pair a smell good lotion on top of it and I just air dry while I do my skin care. (I don’t put on sunscreen because I work from home and I barely leave my humble abode when I do go outside I do put it on. I do forget to reapply, but that’s like once a month.)

I feel like my routine is very simple now and I like it, but when I do look at other girls look like flawless skin doing the same thing maybe less it is hard for me.

I’ve had weight gain and loss so my boobs have stretch marks my love handles have stretch marks, I get enough sleep every night about seven hours almost 8, I drink water. I don’t ever drink soda simply because it’s just not that great lol

So let me know what has worked for you if you’ve ever felt similarly to me and if you have gotten a chance to overcome that I’d really like to know just you guys’s experience.

(Edit: please dont come in here focused on social media when thats not the point of my post i said online AND in real life ive seen it all to help those infer what i was saying omg)

(Edit AGAIN: I AM A BLACK WOMAN OMG LIKE 😭 SENT PROOF BELOW BC IG THATS REQUIRED NOW😭 when i say im not ✨black✨ i literally meant my black aint blacking like yalls put me on ts im getting so annoyed bruh😭)

I don’t want to sound like a broken record y’all- I want to be more descriptive she is literally the cutest and the prettiest girl ever but i want more ways i can express that and that turns out to be very affirming for her, does that make sense😭

I say the following:

• pretty
• good girl
• cute
• you smell so good (she does omg)
• petite/tiny
• smooth (when i hold her for cuddles her skin is so soft)

But I feel like I coulddd be saying more right now i am content with what I say, I guess I want a bigger variety?

Haiii everyone! 💕

I joined this community because I want to learn more and become the best partner I can be.

My girlfriend came out as a trans woman earlier this year after years of talking about it privately as a couple, and she’s finally out to friends and the general public, but not family as of right now. We’ve been together for 7 years, so while this is a new chapter, we’ve been navigating it together for a long time, but only on the general aspects of it. Looking back, I think we really only scratched the surface because everything was still hypothetical.

Now that she’s started estrogen and T-blockers, we’re no longer talking about what might happen because now we actually get to experience it together. It’s honestly been such an exciting time watching her show more of herself every day and seeing how much happier and more confident she has become. Getting to watch the woman I love become more comfortable in her own skin has been really been making me cry everyday you guys- it has been the longest time coming for her.

One thing I’ve noticed is that our relationship dynamic has naturally shifted. Desire and intimacy have changed as well. We did talk about the potential changes beforehand, and she told me it doesn’t happen to everyone. I knew in my heart she didn’t want anything to affect us, and I didn’t either, but I also knew that over time things would probably change. I’d be lying if I said that didn’t scare me at first because it felt like such a big change after being together for so many years.

But we’ve learned to communicate more, lean into emotional intimacy, and spend more time simply holding each other. We’ve found new ways to show our love when we can, and it’s made me realize that love can look different while still being just as meaningful. It’s different from before, but in so many ways it’s brought us even closer, and I really want to understand these changes more so I can continue supporting her in the best way possible.

As her partner, what are some things I can do to better support her? What are some things you wish your current or future partner understood, considered, or did for you during your transition? It can be big or small just tell me anything! I genuinely just want to learn and be there for her in the ways that matter most. 💗

I really want to start reading romance genre, but a lot of them always feel like Wattpad fanfictions😭 like romance is really hard for me to get into because they sound very elementary and there is little to no plot! I don’t mind vanilla or spicy but PLEASE let it have a plot !!

I love my partner of 6 years deeply and want to be by her side through her transition, but I am really struggling right now. Ever since she started Estrogen and T-blockers, our physical intimacy went from twice a week to nothing for months. Before HRT, I told her I was scared of this happening, but she brushed it off. Now that it's here, she avoids talking about it. I’ve done a lot of internal work to stop associating sex with my entire sense of being desired. I’ve asked for more non-sexual intimacy (compliments, holding each other), and she is genuinely trying and doing great at that. It feels fulfilling. But sexually, she has completely locked me out. She handles her libido alone through self-pleasure and won't acknowledge it. This morning I came to her room and the door was locked because she was looking at NSFW content. I understand physical performance might feel daunting or unaffirming for her right now, but being excluded hurts so much. I feel like our intimacy only happens on her terms, with no middle ground or care for my needs. I feel like I'm giving so much grace to her journey, but I’m drowning and pushing my own feelings aside. Has anyone else been through this? How do we find a middle ground when communication about sex feels like walking on eggshells?