When you look deeply and we look back. And nothing is said. What’s going on for you as the therapist? Are you surprised when patients look back as intensely?
I honestly thought the worst part would be reliving the trauma. No, it’s the way my therapist makes me feel so safe and secure that i want to throw up and hide, but also wish I could see her every day. I feel like i need her all the time but also that I shouldn’t and can’t. I didn’t need another messy relationship in my life 😭 and this time it’s one-sided. How messed up is that
What was your experience like?
I’ve seen some comments here from therapists that going over time without billing is not appropriate.
Can you explain this more, why it would not be appropriate if the therapist is choosing to do so and the patient has the time?
Is there a line between acceptable overtime and unacceptable? How many minutes and how often? Does the modality matter?
Everyone always says “talk to your therapist about it.”
If you have, how did it go?
Hi everyone. I was just diagnosed this week. I’m shocked i didn’t put this together sooner but oh well.
Now I’m becoming aware of all my obsessions & compulsions which I thought were just my “neurotic and annoying personality.” I feel overwhelmed.
Realizing for me it’s got to do with contamination, morality, money, food/ED, su1cidality, end of the world type shit, social, and other things?! I can’t believe how pervasive it is and how I didn’t put it together.
Anyway I’m ready to ✨get to work✨ with my wonderful therapist but I was wondering if anyone can share some success stories so I know what to look forward to? 😭
Thank u everyone, hope you have a mentally peaceful day 🩷
I am very skilled at my job. Everyone tells me what a great job I’m doing. I get lots of recognition. I’m smart, impressive, funny and laid back. I work remote so I can mask much more easily. I’m married. Good salary. I own a house. I am, by all measures, “successful.” This is how I survived.
But when I am not in 9-5 mode where I can focus on something else and BE someone else, I fall apart. Screaming crying shaking hyperventilating flashbacks, telling my spouse I want a divorce, can’t leave the house because my anxiety is so high. Difficulty maintaining friendships because I feel so alone in what I deal with. Of the friends who know about my struggles, they think I’m either exaggerating, wanting attention, or should have checked into a mental hospital already because they don’t understand. Sometimes being around people in person feels like staring straight into the sun.
It’s not all the time but it’s often enough and gotten worse this year. For a while I was doing much better.
I’m in therapy twice a week and about to start group therapy. I’m on some meds that may or may not be doing anything but when I try new ones I go from bad to worse.
So I go through absolute hell in my off hours, and then Monday morning I shake it off, lock in, and I’m a corporate superstar.
I feel fucking insane.
I feel like I hadn’t heard anyone talk about it for the last 20 years and now it seems to be all over Reddit and pop culture. Could be confirmation bias but just curious what those within the field think.
And what happened to you isn’t your fault.
Just wanted you to hear that if you needed it today.
I’m really struggling with this. I’m deep in trauma and attachment work with my therapist and I trust her a lot but unfortunately I’m also attracted to her. I don’t want anything from this — in fact I want to not experience this at all.
But it causes me enough ongoing distress and shame (about my sexuality, about other relational wounds) that I feel like I need to tell her. I just would also rather hide in shame than confess it. I’m afraid she will be put off and withdraw from me or terminate me.
So: if I word this appropriately (I don’t want anything from you on this, I want to address how much distress this causes me) do you think I can still preserve the relationship? Or is there always a risk it’s going to cause such an ick that it alters things forever. Because if that’s the case then I will just suffer in silence rather than risk the relationship that is otherwise very therapeutic and meaningful to me.
I’m really struggling with this. I’m deep in trauma and attachment work with my therapist and I trust her a lot but unfortunately I’m also attracted to her. I don’t want anything from this — in fact I want to not experience this at all.
But it causes me enough ongoing distress and shame (about my sexuality, about other relational wounds) that I feel like I need to tell her. I just would also rather hide in shame than confess it. I’m afraid she will be put off and withdraw from me or terminate me.
So: if I word this appropriately (I don’t want anything from you on this, I want to address how much distress this causes me) do you think I can still preserve the relationship? Or is there always a risk it’s going to cause such an ick that it alters things forever. Because if that’s the case then I will just suffer in silence rather than risk the relationship that is otherwise very therapeutic and meaningful to me.