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https://archiveofourown.org/works/84783421/chapters/231489996

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https://archiveofourown.org/works/84783421/chapters/231489996

things are getting scarier and scarier in the US. i’ve seen two articles just in the last week that sent me into a complete spiral. one was about the trump administration’s plan to revoke federal funding from universities, hospitals, and other institutions that support what they call “gender ideology” by support, meaning simply acknowledging that trans people exist. the other was about the lawsuit against wpath. both have huge implications for gender affirming care. right now, top surgery feels completely out of reach, and i don’t know how to cope with that.

i’m currently on accutane and recently started my course, and i’m planning to start hrt next month. i’ve dealt with severe acne on and off since i was 9 years old, so stopping treatment isn’t really an option especially because i know testosterone will likely make my acne worse. because of this, i can’t have surgery until at least six months after my last accutane dose. i’m projected to be on accutane for another 7.5-9 months, depending on how my dosing schedule works out and when i reach my cumulative dose. realistically, that means i probably won’t be able to get surgery for at least another 18 months, since i’m in college and would need to schedule it during a break. that timeline doesn’t even account for the fact that my insurance covers absolutely no gender affirming care, meaning i’m looking at an estimated $12k out of pocket.

a lot can happen in 18 months. it’s genuinely so frustrating. i finally moved out of my parents’ house and got to a place where i can start my transition, yet it feels like the government, just like with roe, could take that access away at any moment. people keep telling me that trans people have always existed, will always exist, and that there were trans people before us who had it much worse and still survived. and while i know that’s true, it shouldn’t have to be this way. i don’t know what i’ll do if gender affirming care for adults becomes more restricted in the US, and i’m terrified that by the time i’m finally ready for surgery, the opportunity will be gone.

i’m (transmasc non binary) kind of talking to this guy (cis man) who approached me at a party a couple weeks ago. he told me he thought i was attractive and seemed cool. he genuinely didnt know what my gender was when we first met because im a pretty androgynous person. we ended up talking today abt gender and sexuality and he told me he was pan / found everyone attractive regardless of gender BUT he had a genitalia preference for vaginas. should i be wary of this or could it just a normal preference? he said he’s dated multiple genders in the past including trans men. i mean i consider myself gay and have somewhat of a preference for dicks but at the same time i have a lot of mixed feelings about dating and having sex with cis men because i feel like they don’t fully understand the trans experience so it always is at the back of my mind that i can’t fully know how they perceive me. i have accidentally hooked up with a chaser before (didn’t know until after the fact) and i really dont want a repeat of that situation. advice?