u/SugarMoney2062

I have seen this all my life growing up and I have stopped caring. Recently my mother and younger brother came back home during holidays (they both live in different states due to college/dad's work). I noticed something terrible about my mother's internalised Misogyny, not the first time.

Everyday my brother plays games with his friends online and SCREAMS on top of his lungs, laughs like a maniac and doesn't get said anything at all. He cusses at them and uses gaalis as well, guess what? Mom doesn't gaf.

Growing up, every time I laughed even a little, I was told to shut it and that no one wants to hear me laugh that loudly. I was lectured for hours for using a very harmless cuss word for a situation, not even a person.

The cherry on top is (TW: Mention of r*pe): my brother recently defended a famous personality despite me showing him proof that he was accused of r*pe. So after which I anyways decided to eventually cut all three out of my life because I have seen my parents defend abuse my whole life.

And then people say bs like "boys are easier to raise". Yeah when you ignore young boys with the logic of "boys will be boys", sure it's easy. Horrible people. I hate being associated and related to these people.

I have been questioning whether I'm a lesbian for a long time now. It was on and off but lately for a couple of months it's been consistent.

Some weeks back i downloaded this game off itch.io - 'set yourself on fire'. I went in completely blind, I just knew that it's about two women who fall in love. I cried a lot while I was playing it. Finished it in one sitting. I haven't related to a piece of artwork this deeply. The artwork is beautiful, the dialogues are so raw and natural. I am emotionally attached to that game. I'm glad i came across that game.

So I recently adopted 2 kittens (8 months old). They are neutered and vaccinated. I live alone but my mom came here for a month and so she's been introduced to them. One of them isn't as affectionate as the other. They are cats and they don't understand our language. On top of that, orange cats are known to be mischievous (he is still not a menace, just climbs on things because he's used to it). He climbs on our speaker which has touch sensor buttons on top of it so if it's on while watching tv, the volume and mode changes if he steps on the buttons.

I suggested putting something that will prevent the touch sensors from activating since we anyways don't use those buttons and just use the remote. My mom refused. He climbed on it this morning (it was turned off). She screamed at him multiple times and eventually led him to step down from it. He obviously got scared. After this, she proceeded to pet him despite him not wanting to be pet at that moment (as I said, he's not very affectionate and I only pet him when he comes to me for pets). In that moment where my mom crossed his boundary, he swatted his paw at her which gave my mom a scratch. Which is a normal occurrence if you are a cat parent.

I'm against cutting their nails because ik it's important for them to have them sharp so their instincts are not affected. She kept insisting on wanting to cut them I said we won't. She kept complaining about the cut and honestly it's so childish to me. Don't scare a cat and then go to him as if nothing happened. She has no sense of boundaries nor does she learn from his behaviour.

Can't wait for her to go back so I can live in peace. Everyday there's yelling. No matter what they do she has a problem with it.

Update: after consideration and taking suggestions from the comment section, I have decided to clip/trim their nails. Don't worry!

So I've been really opening myself up to wanting to finally make a healthy relationship with a woman provided I ever meet her 😂

I was wondering how did you meet your s/o? I would love to read your stories maybe I'll get some hope. I'm not one for online dating because I've tried and it doesn't work for obvious reasons.

This is going to be long

So I recently discovered that I might be sapphic/lesbian since I absolutely hate men and also because I'm not really attracted to them at all. And I might go in a lot of tangents but please hold on with me. I have been best friends with this woman since we were in 6th grade (we're 25). About a year or two ago I discovered that I've had romantic feelings for her for much longer than I can remember. It was always on and off because I constantly questioned my sexuality (i have gone from straight to bisexual, then pansexual, and now I'm asexual and lesbian - I'm having a hard time accepting that since my past is full of men). The only constant in all this chaos of sexual identity and its discovery has been her.

I am hopelessly and completely in love with this woman and there is nothing I don't love about her. Some months ago I gathered the courage to tell her how I felt and it was a bit odd, the way she reacted.

Context - she lives in a different state 24 hours train ride away from me and we have been long distance since we were 17. Last year August/September she came to my city and we met for two days for about 2 hours each. At that time I wanted to ask her whether she would want to kiss me but couldn't gather the courage, and so nothing happened apart from spending time together.

2 months after our meeting, I told her this (right before telling her how I felt), and she said she felt the same way, that she wanted to kiss me too. She questioned me about why I didn't ask her and that the whole time she was looking at my lips but I didn't notice (I'm terrible at taking hints and signs).

When I told her how I felt she was confused. She said she didn't know how to react and that she has never thought about it. She said I've been a friend she would kiss if she ever wanted to. I eventually couldn't take it and distanced her a bit by forcing her to reject me (in a semi drunk state).

It caused some distance but we talked it out and are on good terms.

My maze is this - I still love her too much and I don't know what to do with my feelings. I also want to find a woman to love and treat her like she's the queen of the world. These two are extremely contradictory and I feel lost. I wouldn't date someone while I'm still in love with someone else (I know no one would want that). This recent discovery has caused a lot of overwhelming feelings, although I'm at a lot of peace now. I also requested her that we never talk about this again for my own peace and hers. She wasn't sure at first but agreed provided I don't hide anything else from her which obviously I won't.

She rejected me properly some weeks ago.

I just... I just want to love someone and I feel stuck.