Telling my friends if they wanna hang out with me, they have to initiate.
I’m thinking about telling my roommates (who are some of my closest friends) that for my own sake, if they want to hang out with me, they can ask me first if I was gonna do something instead of me inviting them to something every weekend. I’m typically someone who invites people out, connects my friends, etc but I’m starting to feel like I’m being taken for granted.
This all stemmed from numerous times when they would walk past me to smoke weed and not asking if I want to join, times when they invited one another but rarely with me, and many more occasions that has made my love real cheap.
They’ve shown acts of kindness and affection but that ropes me back into this cycle of feeling used. If they want to spend time with me as much as I do with them then they can simply talk to me.
I just need some advice on how to distance myself without cutting them off completely because they’re still my friends at the end of the day and I live with them. I’ve had a lot of time to think about this and when I confront them, I don’t want to be flustered or mad, which wouldn’t represent accurately how deeply sad and isolating it’s all made me feel.