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I just found out today that my gf has been giving my friends and I melatonin on nights when my friends and I get very drunk because she ‘didn’t wanna deal with a bunch of drunk out of control girls’ and I know how I’m feeling but I’m refusing to acknowledge it I guess. This dates back to a year plus ago. I’m a survivor of sa so I’m very uncomfortable with men around me hence why when my friends suggest brining a guy friend as a designated driver I volunteer my gf because she doesn’t drink but still likes to have fun and drive us around. I’m an angry drunk so as much as I feel violated in the sense that I didn’t consent to melatonin when I’m so drunk, I get why she gave me it in a sense because it must be hard for her to handle me when I’m in my angry drunk state because of said sa but I feel so weird and guilty and responsible for putting my friends in a situation where they were given melatonin without knowing especially by another woman that I told them we can be safe around and I don’t know how to deal with that guilt and that part. I don’t know what to do when it comes to the part where my friends have been made drowsy without their consent. Do I tell them or do I just process this in therapy and hope I find a way to make it up to my friends while keeping this big secret to myself? I still can’t believe this is real

Edit: Btw this has been going on for a year plus in case I haven’t mentioned. I have now also learned what melatonin is and how I need help with my drinking (which I already know. I’m in therapy and just started meds). Please focus on where I need help which is if I tell my friends or not about what she gave them when they were too drunk to remember

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long story short, one of my high level coworkers kept me in a car for more than 8 hours to get me to do things with him. He eventually got his way (thankfully not to a point of penetration). It’s the most traumatic thing I went through. I thought he’d k me that night based of what he did and said. Fast forward, I go to my guy friend for comfort about this. I’d always be drunk due to the incident and he never drinks. Guess what happens? Every time, he’d have sex with me except I’m always drunk when we hang out and I’m GAY!!! Last time this happened was about two weeks ago and I woke up from my black out remembering just a bit of it and my V hurt a lot. I’m so angry, I’m so angry I could turn the world upside down!

I’m looking to buy a house and in the process of it. I’m looking to get a roommate for the extra bedroom I’ll have. What websites or apps have you been using to find roommates?

Im a first time buyer. I just got pre approved for a lot of money. My credit and everything is in good standing. How realistic is it to buy a house (with VA loans and 0% down payment and all) with 11k on hand? My plan was to get the house, pay some percentage of the closing fee and have the rest added to my loan, move in and get a roommate for the other room (3 bedroom) to balance the monthly mortgage of 2k.

If I suffered MST and I want to get out on medical retirement instead of all the other alternatives due to what I’ve suffered (gave the Army a chance and they didn’t resolve the issue, plus stressors at work) and I want the option where I get financially compensated for what happened during the incident and what happened after for a year, why is it so bad? Can someone not decide to leave to heal but choose the option of healing where they aren’t financially worried and can totally focus on healing? Genuine question. Why is is such a fraud for wanting to be compensated for military sexual assault?

Officer at my job has been reported for SA and nothing much has been done for the victim. They still have him working with her through a middle man and he still comes to work. Everyone else is downplaying the woman’s mental health concerns and saying “nothing is wrong with you” or “I just wish you guys would apologize to each other and get this over with” as if the woman wasn’t SA. They’re fighting this woman to have him still in the unit because he’s “important”. I’m so disappointed in the leadership and favoritism the military shows to their favorite soldiers even in circumstances like this. Just a rant