u/Tall-Nefariousness80

Me and my girl have been together for around 5-6 months now. Shes the best thing that’s ever happened to me. We get along so well and we do a lot together.

Recently, she’s been going through some personal issues. Hormone imbalances, leaving her job, feeling like she has no purpose. She’s always had a self destructive tendency as she says even since she was a child. She’s only recently started letting me into her mind to tell me what she’s going through.

But the way it rubs off, it does so on me. I get one word reply’s, she isn’t interested in calling, she doesn’t want to eat, doesn’t want to have sex. Which is completely fine to me because sex is the least of my worries. But I can tell this isn’t her, because that wasn’t who I met for the first time. It’s like I’ve seen the light slowly leave her eyes over the past 6 months.

I’ve told her I’m here for her through it. Because I do believe that if we get through this we can get through anything together. But at what point does it become too much? When do I make the hard decision, and how?

TLDR: my gf of 6 months is acting off not being the girl she used to be and it’s because of personal issues. How do I make the right decision for both of us?

So my girlfriend is half Cypriot half English. She isn’t fluent but can understand the language.

As for me, I’m 100% English. And to make it worse, from the north. So I have a thick accent.

We are going away to Cyprus in October and I would absolutely love to try and surprise her with some basic conversation.

Any good apps, books or YouTube videos to watch?

TLDR: My girlfriend is acting more upset and distant than usual and I believe it might be my fault, how do I fix it?

Me and my girl have been together for 3 months officially, but we’ve been basically together for 5.

She’s been going through some things recently in life.
Shes noticed her health has started to decline through small things such as acne and being bloated. She seems to believe this is because of the birth control she’s on. On top of that she absolutely hates the job she works because of people there. It’s causing her so much stress. And on top of that she believes she’s not spending enough time with her family.

I’ve been fine helping her and being there for her until today, which is when we were walking from her house to the bus stop. She just randomly said in a snarky way “I’m not gonna see you next week, I’m gonna spend it with my family as I need to” I took offence to this, not because we can’t see eachother, but more because it feels like it’s becoming my fault as to why she isn’t spending much time with her family.

I’ve noticed recently that she’s been less “active”. Not wanting to have sex as much, getting tired and more agitated whilst in the kitchen or tidying.

I find it absolutely impossible to fall asleep after I finish at 1am. On my feet all day and very little breaks. I’m not sure as to why but I’m just still wired.
Any tips?