Agency Training

I am a new TM. For those who are team members or agents training team members, when did you stop feeling confused about everything? There’s so much to learn, and I’m reminding myself to take it one day at a time.

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u/TheLearnerGal — 3 days ago

Agency changes

Hey, I’m curious to know pole thoughts with all of the changes with State Farm.

Did anything change for you as an agent or as a team member?

Will you quit or working harder with the pay cuts?

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u/TheLearnerGal — 2 months ago

What is my hair type?

I’m bored and curious. I never really believed in the chart since I have so many different curls patterns that I don’t see on the chart.

All photos are mine, but diff lengths cause I keep chopping cause I’m very scissor happy.

u/TheLearnerGal — 2 months ago

Incurable disease: My husband won't sleep with me

Dramatic title to grab attention, but it’s true!

Hi, I actually have no idea where to start and I’m kind scared to share, but I’m anonymous so. I’m still young, but less than five years ago, when I was a teenager, I got into my first relationship and my first experience ever talking to a man. He was older and pretty much groomed my young and “green” mind. The “relationship” was purely lustful and transactional. I knew it was wrong, but I really wanted to feel “loved” in a way I never experienced growing up. That eventually led to multiple forms of trauma from him, including a CERTAIN kind of assault that lead to HSV-2. As embarrassing as it is to admit, I honestly had no idea what HSV even was. In my fornication, I never stopped to think about things like that until the day I had my first outbreak. Later, I found out the man who gave it to me was actually known for doing things like this to women. I didn’t discover that until after I left him. I’ve since healed from the childhood and even this relationship. Praise God!

After leaving, I went on a journey trying to “cure” myself and forgive myself for being so “stupid” and lustful enough to lose my Virginity to him. I spent about a year researching and came across many others trying to do the same and some have “succeed”. I won’t get too deep into my beliefs regarding that part or if it’s really possible cause that’s not the point. Shortly after, I met my now husband. He taught me so much about the Bible, baptized me, treated me with kindness/love, spent thousands trying to help me heal because the medications don’t help the nerve damage it caused me (yes, HSV can cause nerve issues), prayed with me through everything, and has been an amazing man overall. So much much more I can say about his amazing qualities.

So what’s the issue? Why won’t he sleep with me if he’s amazing?..

Well….when we got married almost four years ago, we both agreed that God would heal me first and then we would come together sexually. We said we would have faith and look to the miracles in the Bible. I don’t think we fully realized what we were agreeing to or that however the Lord chooses to heal someone is completely up to Him. It was hope, but also ignorance. It was conditional when I really think upon it. We’ve been together about 4 years or almost and only came together about 4 times.

Now, I’m sure many will automatically assume someone must be cheating. But honestly, our fear of the Lord goes beyond anything in this world when it comes to breaking this covenant in lust. It’s not on his or my to do list at all. We both hold very strong beliefs about marriage, faithfulness, and adultery. (We don’t even believe in divorce either)

Over the years, though, my perspective has shifted a little regarding healing and miracles. I wholeheartedly believe God is capable of absolutely anything despite what the world says, but I also realize His timing and methods may not look the way I imagined. Healing could simply be my spouse never getting the virus.

At this point, I honestly feel foolish because the only reason we haven’t fully come together is fear. Fear of the virus. My husband said no it’s faith cause we are waiting on a miracle. I’m unable to take antivirals because they caused liver issues and dangerous allergic reactions. When outbreaks happen, I use lysine, but I know that doesn’t fully remove the possibility of transmission. So, it’s only good for me to feel better physically.

I know this may sound dramatic to some people, but I’ve been deeply afraid of passing it to him, and truthfully, I still am. But I’m Willing to trust in the lord and let him lead us to coming together as the Bible states instead of acting like it doesn’t exist. We don’t even kiss, and he won’t lay down with me because he’s afraid of contracting the virus since I can’t take antivirals. He’s also seen me in a great deal of pain during our marriage and I know that’s also scary for him. Which i understand.

Do you see why I finally reached out to the internet for thoughts? we don’t have a pastor or anything. Some close friends have even told us that maybe we don’t truly have faith in this situation.

There’s honestly a lot more I could say, especially about my desire to have children and how heartbreaking it feels not knowing how that can happen if we never fully come together. But I’ll stop here...

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u/TheLearnerGal — 3 months ago

Incurable disease: My husband won’t sleep with me

Dramatic title to grab attention, but it’s true!

Hi, I actually have no idea where to start and I’m kind scared to share, but I’m anonymous so. I’m still young, but less than five years ago, when I was a teenager, I got into my first relationship and my first experience ever talking to a man. He was older and pretty much groomed my young and “green” mind. The “relationship” was purely lustful and transactional. I knew it was wrong, but I really wanted to feel “loved” in a way I never experienced growing up. That eventually led to multiple forms of trauma from him, including a CERTAIN kind of assault that lead to HSV-2. As embarrassing as it is to admit, I honestly had no idea what HSV even was. In my fornication, I never stopped to think about things like that until the day I had my first outbreak. Later, I found out the man who gave it to me was actually known for doing things like this to women. I didn’t discover that until after I left him. I’ve since healed from the childhood and even this relationship. Praise God!

After leaving, I went on a journey trying to “cure” myself and forgive myself for being so “stupid” and lustful enough to lose my Virginity to him. I spent about a year researching and came across many others trying to do the same and some have “succeed”. I won’t get too deep into my beliefs regarding that part or if it’s really possible cause that’s not the point. Shortly after, I met my now husband. He taught me so much about the Bible, baptized me, treated me with kindness/love, spent thousands trying to help me heal because the medications don’t help the nerve damage it caused me (yes, HSV can cause nerve issues), prayed with me through everything, and has been an amazing man overall. So much much more I can say about his amazing qualities.

So what’s the issue? Why won’t he sleep with me if he’s amazing?..

Well….when we got married almost four years ago, we both agreed that God would heal me first and then we would come together sexually. We said we would have faith and look to the miracles in the Bible. I don’t think we fully realized what we were agreeing to or that however the Lord chooses to heal someone is completely up to Him. It was hope, but also ignorance. It was conditional when I really think upon it. We’ve been together about 4 years or almost and only came together about 4 times.

Now, I’m sure many will automatically assume someone must be cheating. But honestly, our fear of the Lord goes beyond anything in this world when it comes to breaking this covenant in lust. It’s not on his or my to do list at all. We both hold very strong beliefs about marriage, faithfulness, and adultery. (We don’t even believe in divorce either)

Over the years, though, my perspective has shifted a little regarding healing and miracles. I wholeheartedly believe God is capable of absolutely anything despite what the world says, but I also realize His timing and methods may not look the way I imagined. Healing could simply be my spouse never getting the virus.

At this point, I honestly feel foolish because the only reason we haven’t fully come together is fear. Fear of the virus. My husband said no it’s faith cause we are waiting on a miracle. I’m unable to take antivirals because they caused liver issues and dangerous allergic reactions. When outbreaks happen, I use lysine, but I know that doesn’t fully remove the possibility of transmission. So, it’s only good for me to feel better physically.

I know this may sound dramatic to some people, but I’ve been deeply afraid of passing it to him, and truthfully, I still am. But I’m Willing to trust in the lord and let him lead us to coming together as the Bible states instead of acting like it doesn’t exist. We don’t even kiss, and he won’t lay down with me because he’s afraid of contracting the virus since I can’t take antivirals. He’s also seen me in a great deal of pain during our marriage and I know that’s also scary for him. Which i understand.

Do you see why I finally reached out to the internet for thoughts? we don’t have a pastor or anything. Some close friends have even told us that maybe we don’t truly have faith in this situation.

There’s honestly a lot more I could say, especially about my desire to have children and how heartbreaking it feels not knowing how that can happen if we never fully come together. But I’ll stop here.

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u/TheLearnerGal — 3 months ago