r/coilyhair

I’m looking for support, I’ve always been incredibly insecure about my natural hair especially when my mom would force me to wear it out in an Afro or space buns. Been thinking about getting locs. I feel like I look like a little boy when I wash it only. I feel like only look good with braid outs (first photo) and blow outs. I don’t like it when it’s freshly washed. I mostly wear braids now which my mom said I shouldn’t anymore and I should start just doing twist since it’s causing breakage. I also feel like my hair has stayed the same length for a while now.

I cut it off a month ago. It used to be right almost to
My boob now it’s collarbone. I wanna start my natural hair journey, but it’s hard since my mom always did my hair and she’s moving out soon.

4C coarse hair waver. Where do I go from here? It’s getting to the point in the wolf where I only like how it looks fresh out of the durag. Any brushing above a very soft brush takes the waves out. It’s getting harder and harder to keep laid down. I expected to be able to wolf longer. How do I get to the next level?

This year makes it 2 years that I’ve been an active natural. All I can do is my personal best and hope that God willing everything else falls into place. It literally just occurred to me (it sinked in) that I’m a natural and what that means 😇. I’m going to take myself out to dinner 🍽️ to celebrate this milestone. Hopefully this inspires someone to keep going.

Thank you for reading 📚.

Just wanted show of my hair since I haven’t used a flat iron/blow dryer in a while…

I am very particular about my hair being straightened because I’m a plus size girly with a rounder face and I have your typical “looks super thick in natural state but isn’t super thick when straightened” hair. My hair might be high density but not super coarse, not sure. So I like texture and even messiness when it’s straightened for some volume or a lived-in look. I’ve been into blowouts as well for max texture while smoother and stretched out.

I’m too anxious about damage from sew-ins or crochet braids to try them. And I have a big ass head and can’t braid. The one time I bought some inexpensive wigs that were supposed to be big enough, it just wasn’t working. I twisted my hair and pinned it but for my hair, I might actually have to have someone do cornrows. I’m not really pressed about it - I love my hair. (Length retention is a journey though and my hair is layered so it’s longer in the back which creates a mullet effect when I refuse to cut it lolol) Most of the time, I’m not even slicking the edges back, as you can see lol. I just think about it once or twice a year when I see all the other black women being flexible and switching it up. I’m very settled into my own hair and trying to care for it better, but some different things can be nice every now and then.

I’ve also lived in my natural hair for years now so even braids with extensions feel new and different to me now. I kind of liked these braids I got when I experimented with blonde but after 2 weeks, I started getting paranoid about the weight of the hair and reading horror stories on Reddit of people’s hair thinning out. 😂 I’m extra, I know.

Anyone else can relate and feel the same about themselves - or have suggestions?

(Ignore the stye on my eye in some straight pictures lol)

Natural hair 😍