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I honestly couldn't believe this when I heard it, so I thought I'd ask here.

My mom was telling me this story over a call (she was laughing the whole time, I know it's not right). So, an uncle visited our house and was chatting with my parents. He mentioned that he started cooking to help his wife ( housewife) out. For about 1-2 months, he cooked with her regularly, and sometimes even cooked alone.

But now, he's gotten very busy with work and can't help out in the kitchen anymore. The problem? His wife now refuses to cook entirely. On the days he doesn't help, she simply orders food from Zomato and says, Cook the way you used to, otherwise I won't make anything.

So she just doesn't cook unless he's right there with her.

I feel like this is a really rare case, right? Just wanted to know what you all think about this.

Look at the world we're living in right now. Cheating isn't just about meeting someone at a bar anymore. It's happening through DMs, Snapchat, WhatsApp, hidden folders, dating apps people download and delete daily - you name it. Technology has made it so damn easy to step out, even emotionally, without even leaving your house.

So with all that going on, why is it such a big deal to have full access to each other's phones in a marriage?

I keep hearing people say but muh privacy and you need personal space. I call bullshit on that when you're married. You literally share a bed, a house, finances, and even kids with this person. But your phone is where you draw the line? Come on.

If you have nothing to hide, what's the problem? It's not about being controlling or insecure. It's about being realistic. Trust is great, but blind trust in 2026? That's just being naive. I'm not saying you should be checking their phone every hour like a detective. But having that unspoken rule that either of you can pick up the other's phone anytime without panic or hesitation? That brings so much peace of mind.

Think about it—if your partner freaks out when you accidentally touch their phone, isn't that a massive red flag? A transparent relationship is a secure relationship. These days, I feel like if you're not comfortable with your spouse seeing your screen, maybe you're the one with the problem, not them.

Yeah yeah, I know some people will say "but what about surprise gifts or private chats with friends?" Bro, you can have boundaries without having secrets. And honestly, if my wife sees a message from my friend venting about his life, she's not gonna care. It's just a phone.

So what do you guys think? Given how easy it is to cheat digitally now, isn't mutual phone access just basic marriage security these days? Or am I being too extreme?

Look at the world we're living in right now. Cheating isn't just about meeting someone at a bar anymore. It's happening through DMs, Snapchat, WhatsApp, hidden folders, dating apps people download and delete daily - you name it. Technology has made it so damn easy to step out, even emotionally, without even leaving your house.

So with all that going on, why is it such a big deal to have full access to each other's phones in a marriage?

I keep hearing people say but muh privacy and you need personal space. I call bullshit on that when you're married. You literally share a bed, a house, finances, and even kids with this person. But your phone is where you draw the line? Come on.

If you have nothing to hide, what's the problem? It's not about being controlling or insecure. It's about being realistic. Trust is great, but blind trust in 2026? That's just being naive. I'm not saying you should be checking their phone every hour like a detective. But having that unspoken rule that either of you can pick up the other's phone anytime without panic or hesitation? That brings so much peace of mind.

Think about it - if your partner freaks out when you accidentally touch their phone, isn't that a massive red flag? A transparent relationship is a secure relationship. These days, I feel like if you're not comfortable with your spouse seeing your screen, maybe you're the one with the problem, not them.

Yeah yeah, I know some people will say "but what about surprise gifts or private chats with friends?" Bro, you can have boundaries without having secrets. And honestly, if my wife sees a message from my friend venting about his life, she's not gonna care. It's just a phone.

So what do you guys think? Given how easy it is to cheat digitally now, isn't mutual phone access just basic marriage security these days? Or am I being too extreme?

Let me know. Genuinely curious who agrees with me on this.

Hello everyone,

I’m a 22.8 year-old guy. I lost my father some time ago, and since then, life has been a constant uphill battle. I completed my graduation in 2024, but right after that, due to family and financial issues, I had to put my further studies on hold and focus entirely on earning an income.

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I taught myself graphic designing online, and currently, I work around 7–8 hours a day and manage to earn ₹30k–₹40k per month quite easily. We don’t own a house—it’s just the three of us: my mother, my elder sister, and me. We live in a rented place. My sister earns about ₹11k–₹12k per month, so the majority of the household expenses fall on me.

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The problem is, my social life is almost non-existent now. Most of my friends are preparing for government exams, and we barely meet once every 3–4 months. My school friends are far away. Someone recently advised me to "learn to stay alone" because that’s where real growth happens and you truly understand life. But I’m confused—how do I do that when I’m the primary earner at home? Managing rent, groceries, and savings while being the only financial pillar is already overwhelming.

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I’m currently trying to save as much as possible because we have no support system—all our relatives turned their backs on us after my father passed away. So if any emergency hits, we have nothing to fall back on.

Relationships? Never had one. And honestly, it’s not even a priority right now.

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I barely step out of the house except for morning running or buying essentials. My education has come to a complete halt, and sometimes I wonder if I’m overthinking things.

I do have faith in God, He has brought me this far, so I believe He will take me forward too. But still, I’d really appreciate some grounded, practical advice from you all.

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Am I overthinking? What should be my next steps—career-wise, financially, and mentally? Should I focus on staying alone, or should I try to rebuild some social connections? And is it wise to resume my studies now, or should I wait until I have more savings?

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Please be honest. I’m ready to hear everything—good or bad.

Hello guys, 14 days ago I posted about how my friend was planning to marry a girl who was lying about her past.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwentiesIndia/comments/1txtijx/girl_is_lying_about_her_past_to_my_friend_should/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=2&utm_content=share_button

UPDATE - A lot of you said – If you're a true friend, just tell him directly, no need to ask here. I get it. But the thing is, he was already so emotionally connected to her. And she's literally very beautiful. I couldn't just go and drop a bomb on him without proper proof. So I decided, let me collect solid evidence first, then tell him. Initially, all I knew was that she had two boyfriends in college and she used to club a lot. I didn't have much else.

So I started asking around more. And the deeper I dug, the worse it got. Turns out , after her second breakup, in the last 4 months, she was very active on dating apps just to vent out her frustration. She hooked up with multiple guys in this time. I got this info from one of her friends , and trust me, it was not easy to get in touch with that person.

And then came the biggest shock, she had gotten pregnant once. And she got an abortion. Now, somewhere along the way, she found out that I was investigating her. She started texting me on Instagram, begging me, I love him so much, I can't lose him. Please don't come between us. I told her I have nothing against you. Just tell him the truth yourself. I don't care about you personally.

But instead of being honest, she started emotionally blackmailing my friend. She told him Someone is trying to separate us. Will you leave me if I listen to others? Please don't trust anyone else. And indirectly, she took my name.

My friend came to me and said Bhai, she's getting stressed because of all this. Why are you doing this?I didn't stop. I somehow managed to contact her ex-boyfriend. I told him everything. He shared 2-3 solid proofs – photos with her. When I showed those photos to my friend, she immediately made an excuse – Oh, he was just a college friend. That photo is old. We had a fight, so now he's blackmailing me and spreading lies about me.

And my friend actually believed her. He stopped talking to me. He said You're just jealous because I found such a beautiful girl and you didn't. She had completely manipulated him. I stepped back and thought – fine, let him do whatever he wants. I'll just stay away.

But I didn't give up completely. Over the next 3-4 days, I kept asking more people. And finally, I found two more photos.

One photo, some guy's hand was on her waist.Another photo – she was kissing a guy from behind, leaning on his shoulder (in a club) .

That was it. I didn't call my friend this time. I didn't text him. I went straight to his house. Sat with him. Showed him everything, the photos, the ex-boyfriend's name, the whole timeline.

He couldn't deny it anymore. And today? They have broken up. Completely done.

Now my friend is sponsoring my free trips to Manali and Goa. And giving me a full one-week free treat. He's been thanking me non-stop.

And as for that girl – me and her? We're now literally abusing each other back and forth. Gaali-galoch chal rahi hai full on. 😂

So yeah. Truth won in the end. But it cost me 14 days of stress, one broken friendship temporarily, and a lot of mental peace.

Hello guys, 14 days ago I posted about how my friend was planning to marry a girl who was lying about her past.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskIndianMen/s/6tcHA7uvNG

UPDATE -
A lot of you said – If you're a true friend, just tell him directly, no need to ask here. I get it. But the thing is, he was already so emotionally connected to her. And she's literally very beautiful. I couldn't just go and drop a bomb on him without proper proof. So I decided, let me collect solid evidence first, then tell him. Initially, all I knew was that she had two boyfriends in college and she used to club a lot. I didn't have much else.

So I started asking around more. And the deeper I dug, the worse it got. Turns out , after her second breakup, in the last 4 months, she was very active on dating apps just to vent out her frustration. She hooked up with multiple guys in this time. I got this info from one of her friends , and trust me, it was not easy to get in touch with that person.

And then came the biggest shock, she had gotten pregnant once. And she got an abortion. Now, somewhere along the way, she found out that I was investigating her. She started texting me on Instagram, begging me, I love him so much, I can't lose him. Please don't come between us. I told her I have nothing against you. Just tell him the truth yourself. I don't care about you personally.

But instead of being honest, she started emotionally blackmailing my friend. She told him Someone is trying to separate us. Will you leave me if I listen to others? Please don't trust anyone else. And indirectly, she took my name.

My friend came to me and said Bhai, she's getting stressed because of all this. Why are you doing this?I didn't stop. I somehow managed to contact her ex-boyfriend. I told him everything. He shared 2-3 solid proofs – photos with her. When I showed those photos to my friend, she immediately made an excuse – Oh, he was just a college friend. That photo is old. We had a fight, so now he's blackmailing me and spreading lies about me.

And my friend actually believed her. He stopped talking to me. He said You're just jealous because I found such a beautiful girl and you didn't. She had completely manipulated him. I stepped back and thought – fine, let him do whatever he wants. I'll just stay away.

But I didn't give up completely. Over the next 3-4 days, I kept asking more people. And finally, I found two more photos.

One photo, some guy's hand was on her waist.Another photo – she was kissing a guy from behind, leaning on his shoulder (in a club) .

That was it. I didn't call my friend this time. I didn't text him. I went straight to his house. Sat with him. Showed him everything, the photos, the ex-boyfriend's name, the whole timeline.

He couldn't deny it anymore. And today? They have broken up. Completely done.

Now my friend is sponsoring my free trips to Manali and Goa. And giving me a full one-week free treat. He's been thanking me non-stop.

And as for that girl – me and her? We're now literally abusing each other back and forth. Gaali-galoch chal rahi hai full on. 😂

So yeah. Truth won in the end. But it cost me 14 days of stress, one broken friendship temporarily, and a lot of mental peace.

I have a friend (25M) who’s the only son in his family. His parents are pressuring him to get married soon, so they’ve been looking for matches. He’s been single his whole life – never been in a relationship.

Recently, he met a girl online and they’ve been talking. They like each other a lot. He’s made it very clear that he will only marry a girl with no romantic/sexual past. The girl told him she has no past. She’s very beautiful, and he’s over the moon that he found someone so attractive with no baggage and great vibes.

I also studied at the same college as her (Kirorimal College, DU). She was one year senior, different department. Out of curiosity, I asked around about her and found out that in the last 3 years, she had at least two boyfriends. She was also very active in clubbing – not sure if she hooked up with anyone, but definitely not the “no past” picture she painted.

Do I tell my friend the truth? Or do I stay quiet and let him be happy? He’s already so excited about this girl, but I feel like he’s being lied to. What would you do?

I have a friend (25M) who’s the only son in his family. His parents are pressuring him to get married soon, so they’ve been looking for matches. He’s been single his whole life – never been in a relationship.

Recently, he met a girl online and they’ve been talking. They like each other a lot. He’s made it very clear that he will only marry a girl with no romantic/sexual past. The girl told him she has no past. She’s very beautiful, and he’s over the moon that he found someone so attractive with no baggage and great vibes.

I also studied at the same college as her (Kirorimal College, DU). She was one year senior, different department. Out of curiosity, I asked around about her and found out that in the last 3 years, she had at least two boyfriends. She was also very active in clubbing – not sure if she hooked up with anyone, but definitely not the “no past” picture she painted.

Do I tell my friend the truth? Or do I stay quiet and let him be happy? He’s already so excited about this girl, but I feel like he’s being lied to. What would you do?

So yesterday, I was sitting at a bus stop in Delhi during the evening. Buses have been infrequent these days, so I was just waiting. An uncle was sitting next to me, we were the only two people there. He started making casual conversation, and then asked for some personal info like my name, where I'm from. Then he said, I'm an astrologer, you can ask me anything for free right now. Consider this your lucky chance.

I shared my DOB and some details. He opened my chart on his phone and said:

· You don't have interest in a job.

· Your relationship with your father isn't good.

· Don't pursue a job.

· Your wealth chart is very powerful.

He was about to say more, but his bus arrived. As he left, he told me, Get it properly checked somewhere sometime.

Now, I'm not a very strong believer, but whatever he said was accurate. I'm already earning a good here and there, and what he said about job/father was true too.

So my question to you all:

1. Should I go and get a proper consultation?

2. If yes, where is the best place in Delhi for genuine astrology?

Thanks in advance.

TL;DR: Random uncle at bus stop read my chart free, made accurate personal predictions, suggested I get a full reading. Worth doing? Best astrologer in Delhi?

Edit- Yeah, I forgot to write this — I don't know if he was right or not, but he also said, Have patience, don't rush. You will get a very good partner., Honestly, that one line ended such a big tension of mine 😅.

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I don’t usually make emotional posts like this, but I’m doing it for my friend. I’ll probably delete this after some time.

So my friend 22M is 5'1". We’ve been close for 3–4 years. He’s not usually insecure about his height, but sometimes I notice he makes excuses and skips group gatherings. We’ve never made him feel bad about it — honestly, everything seemed fine.

Now here’s what broke him. He liked a girl who’s around 5' (a little shorter than him). Today he finally asked her out. She smiled a little, then rejected him. When he asked why, she said, Your height is too short. You should at least be tall enough for me to rest my head on your shoulder.

That hit him hard. He’s not talking to anyone now. Barely responding. Feels like he’s going into some deep sadness, and I don’t know how to reach him anymore.

So please — if you or someone you know is around that height and living a good life, doing well, happy in relationships or career — share your story. I just want to show him that height isn’t the end of everything. He won’t listen to us right now.

In Ahmedabad, a husband and wife started living separately. They have a daughter. The court ordered the husband to pay maintenance​: 12,000 to the wife​ ₹6,000 to the daughter

The wife challenged this order. She said her husband earns ₹79,238 per month and also makes about ₹35,000 from share trading.

The wife was ready to return, but the husband made no effort to take her back.

The husband said he has loans to repay and a retired father to support.

The court said that loans taken to create assets cannot be used to reduce maintenance. He has 4 people to support, so his income should be divided into four parts.

The court ordered him to pay ₹19,800 per month to the wife and ₹19,800 per month to the daughter.