u/ThinkHighway7078

This is my 14th time in Aruba and my first time staying off the high rises. It’s my first full day and I woke up this morning to get a coffee around 6:30 AM at a local place in the neighborhood. A man drove by me and made a gross motion with his tongue. I kind of shrugged it off and just kept walking. He drove past again and made a jerking off motion as he was driving by. I panicked and texted my friend and said I’m think I’m being followed. There was no one around and I was really scared. Then he drove past the third time and that’s when I really really really got alarmed. This time he just had this smile on his face I went into one of the side streets and hid between two cars and messaged the owners of the room and said that I needed help and that I thought I was being followed. They didn’t get back to me in time. I eventually just made my way back to the street and it was a five minute walk to my room so I just walked as fast as I could.

Other guys looked at me as I was walking and one pulled over and asked me if I needed a ride, but none alarmed me as much as this one did. Please be villugant and careful. I know it’s a safe island, but people are still crazy everywhere we go. Don’t go out too early by yourself. Don’t walk alone by yourself in deserted places. It’s not worth it. I’ve been shaken all day by this. It’s like this creep was looping around and watching me/following me and now I’m worried he knows where I’m staying.

I’m leaving in a week for my biannual vacation to Aruba and whenever I mention it in the slightest context to anyone within earshot of my aunt (who I work for) she automatically says “it’ll go by in the blink of an eye.” And “you’ll be back before you know it.” And “it’ll go by fast.” Like are you really that jealous.

I’m in my 30s and she’s in her 60s. Whenever men give me attention she gets super jealous.

She bullies everyone and gossips about everyone who crosses her path so I try not to take it personal but she’s really annoying. (Makes fun of people to their face for not having any teeth, makes fun of people’s weight/appearances etc) just a born bitch.

Well, a real b*tch. She owns a restaurant and She talks and gossips about everyone and there is an elderly man who frequents her business and has trouble using the bathroom bc he had a stroke and can’t wipe and makes a mess. She goes “I hate to see what his underwear looks like.” What a weird, odd thing to say outloud. She also makes fun of her waitress for having no top row of teeth and makes mean jabs around her about how people with no teeth are gross and how “no one looks good without their teeth.” Also calls another customer weird and a little b*tch. Talks about everyone who crosses her path even her own kids and family. Been this way her entire life but it’s gotten worse I think. She’s almost 64.

How do you handle someone like this? She’s so rotten and it’s hard not to tell her to F off. I really dislike her.

What do you do when an older family member is straight up jealous of you. She’s always been a miserable tw*t her whole life and does nothing but bully and gossip about people and she’s five years away from turning 70. Sometimes I walk into a room and she won’t even say hi. She owns her own business and I work for her. If male customers show me attention she seethes. It’s wiiild. Instead of correcting me like a normal human would do she belittles me especially if men are around. How should I handle this?

Tl;dr: my aunt is a bully and seems to dislike that I am younger and more desirable.

I’m a 30 something year old woman and this guy who’s a bit older comes into my job and has been messaging me on Instagram for the last year, seems to get mad if I don’t open DMs in a timely manner, or if he doesn’t like my response. He was absolutely Desperate to take me to the airport, (that’s two hours away) twice, just to drop me off for my vacation. Asks me out to dinner every single day. Relentless. I took a break from IG today and haven’t opened the app since this morning. There are multiple unread messages from him from today. Now he sent me something on facebook messenger.

I’m really getting creeped out. I am a naturally friendly person and outgoing so I think maybe he got the wrong idea. But It’s like he’s trying to break me down or something so I’ll cave.

He’s friends with the business owner so this makes it uncomfortable for me to approach anyone about it. I don’t want the business to lose a customer but what the F. This guy is relentless.

forgot to add: he also has a lists of my interests that I’ve mentioned over time in his phone. He showed me it the other day. I was like… whattttt.

He also randomly took a vacation to the destination I’ve gone to over ten times. It’s like he wanted to go because he knows I always go.

Likes all my social media stories and posts and views them within minutes to seconds. And gets mad if I don’t like his stuff.

What should I do? (Besides block him)

There’s this guy I see around every day bc he is a customer at my job and I think he likes me… always sliding in my DMs on insta. Well yesterday he came in and had his phone out and we were just making small talk and suddenly he shows me something on his Notes app of a lists of my interests that I mentioned… is this creepy and weird and how should I handle it without saying anything directly to him?

I don’t have a romantic interest in him

Also likes all of my instagrams stories and views them within minutes or seconds. And gets mad or seems annoyed if I don’t “like” his.