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Context: me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 months, both our first relationship. recently life for her had gotten really busy with family responsibilities and work. Much more so than my life right now. I am an extrovert and she’s more introverted. When overwhelmed she needs to be alone. Now up until a few weeks ago we would flirt and text a lot. Lots of conversation over text, spicy and not, and we’d call too. Like every night almost. But it’s slowly faded. I try to keep it going by complimenting her, flirting, and being my silly self, but she just says “aww” “yes” “no”
Sometimes it’s more but it’s just not like it used to be.
Am i missing the “That excitement of falling in love and learning about each other?”

TLDR: I know that love is not about texting 24/7 or constant flirting and exciting conversations but about peace and stability and trust.
Real life gets busy and you cannot live in a thrill forever.
It’s just she’s on social media, but hasn’t responded to me reels in a week? The flirting I text doesn’t even get responses. Maybe I’m obsessing over her validation and need to quit being a little kid

Context: me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 months, both our first relationship. recently life for her had gotten really busy with family responsibilities and work. Much more so than my life right now. I am an extrovert and she’s more introverted. When overwhelmed she needs to be alone. Now up until a few weeks ago we would flirt and text a lot. Lots of conversation over text, spicy and not, and we’d call too. Like every night almost. But it’s slowly faded. I try to keep it going by complimenting her, flirting, and being my silly self, but she just says “aww” “yes” “no”
Sometimes it’s more but it’s just not like it used to be.
Am i missing the “That excitement of falling in love and learning about each other?”

TLDR: I know that love is not about texting 24/7 or constant flirting and exciting conversations but about peace and stability and trust.
Real life gets busy and you cannot live in a thrill forever.
It’s just she’s on social media, but hasn’t responded to me reels in a week? The flirting I text doesn’t even get responses. Maybe I’m obsessing over her validation and need to quit being a little kid. I really love her and want this to work out, but right now feel like it’s all on me. But then again it’s only been like 2 weeks 😭 omg

Context: me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 months, both our first relationship. recently life for her had gotten really busy with family responsibilities and work. Much more so than my life right now. I am an extrovert and she’s more introverted. When overwhelmed she needs to be alone. Now up until a few weeks ago we would flirt and text a lot. Lots of conversation over text, spicy and not, and we’d call too. Like every night almost. But it’s slowly faded. I try to keep it going by complimenting her, flirting, and being my silly self, but she just says “aww” “yes” “no”
Sometimes it’s more but it’s just not like it used to be.
Am i missing the “That excitement of falling in love and learning about each other?”

TLDR: I know that love is not about texting 24/7 or constant flirting and exciting conversations but about peace and stability and trust.
Real life gets busy and you cannot live in a thrill forever.
It’s just she’s on social media, but hasn’t responded to me reels in a week? The flirting I text doesn’t even get responses. Maybe I’m obsessing over her validation and need to quit being a little kid

Me (m19) and my girlfriend (f18) have been dating for 8 months after meeting at college. Now I have pretty severe OCD and I only just recently was diagnosed, and learned what I’ve struggled with my entire life. Going to a therapist now. I’ve recently had about a 2 week episode of constantly asking for reassurance if she’s happy in our relationship or loves me still. Every time she would say yes. I’d end up feeling a little better but then after a day or something triggered me I’d ask again. Her texting had been a little dry because she went on vacation and then straight to crazy work week. This went on and eventually she told me I needed to stop, it was starting to affect her. Regardless I sent her a like 600 word essay at 3am when my brain was on fire and I couldn’t sleep. She woke up to that message and said wow this is a lot let me respond later. Eventually I texted her later that night and we talked. She said I had been pushing her away and leaving empty promises about how I’d change but I haven’t. She said “i heard this too many times. from you and my own family too. i’m over it” in regards to saying im sorry and ill change. She’s been struggling with her own things and i added so much pressure and anxiety with these questions. They went deep and I realize I was a little crazy in my moments. I took screenshots of some things she liked on Instagram that my mind had warped into being about me and sent them to her. It was crazy i realize that.

It’s been 24h. She has deactivated her instagram account which has only happened once before when she was overwhelmed with life and needed a break. Read receipts are no longer on either. I sent her a video message last night apologizing and saying I meant what I said and that I realize the best way to show my love for her is to give her the space she needs.

I realize I created my own biggest fear. OCD obviously plays games in my mind. This hurts like a mfr, we’ve been through a lot in the time of these 8 months and I really love her. I mean it. Hope no trolls are gonna make fun of me.

I think I know I just give her space right? Or is it obvious it’s over? Has anyone delt with this before (ocd) wise?

Me (m19) didn’t mean to put 20 in title and my girlfriend (f18) have been dating for 8 months after meeting at college. Now I have pretty severe OCD and I only just recently was diagnosed, and learned what I’ve struggled with my entire life. Going to a therapist now. I’ve recently had about a 2 week episode of constantly asking for reassurance if she’s happy in our relationship or loves me still. Every time she would say yes. I’d end up feeling a little better but then after a day or something triggered me I’d ask again. Her texting had been a little dry because she went on vacation and then straight to crazy work week. This went on and eventually she told me I needed to stop, it was starting to affect her. Regardless I sent her a like 600 word essay at 3am when my brain was on fire and I couldn’t sleep. She woke up to that message and said wow this is a lot let me respond later. Eventually I texted her later that night and we talked. She said I had been pushing her away and leaving empty promises about how I’d change but I haven’t. She said “i heard this too many times. from you and my own family too. i’m over it” in regards to saying im sorry and ill change. She’s been struggling with her own things and i added so much pressure and anxiety with these questions. They went deep and I realize I was a little crazy in my moments. I took screenshots of some things she liked on Instagram that my mind had warped into being about me and sent them to her. It was crazy i realize that.

It’s been 24h. She has deactivated her instagram account which has only happened once before when she was overwhelmed with life and needed a break. Read receipts are no longer on either. I sent her a video message last night apologizing and saying I meant what I said and that I realize the best way to show my love for her is to give her the space she needs.

I realize I created my own biggest fear. OCD obviously plays games in my mind. This hurts like a mfr, we’ve been through a lot in the time of these 8 months and I really love her. I mean it. Hope no trolls are gonna make fun of me.

I think I know I just give her space right? Or is it obvious it’s over? Has anyone delt with this before (ocd) wise?