u/ThrowRa39373

im an incoming 1st year student and a little lost on what bag i should buy. how much stuff do you need to carry everyday? would a tote bag suffice or do i need a full backpack?

I've never really used headphones before and have stuck with airpods however I will be starting university soon and need a pair of headphones with good noise cancellation + comfort.

I get migraines quite often so looking for something that wont feel like my skull and ears are being pressed

I don't care much about sound quality tbh, I'm not very knowledgable in that area. as long as music sounds decent, I'm ok.

looking for something with a somewhat bulky look? I have a roundish face and have always been insecure about how headphones look on me.

i dont need it to have much coverage, i just dont want anything heavy sitting on top of my skin as it makes my face extremely itchy and red. i have dry skin so preferably something with a dewy finish. im currently debating between fae beauty face card and loreal skin tint. any recommendations?

basically the title. i want a super soft, light pink blush with preferably buildable pigment. i have fair skin but i dont want it to wash me out. the etude cookie blush is perfect according to what im looking for except its a poewer blush and it has a greyish undertone. im more comfortable with liquid blushes and i do think fae beauty might have the shade i want but its too pigmented. any recommendations?

im a 19 yr old indian woman studying medicine in europe. compared to all my classmates here, im poor. we are not on the same financial level at all. they rent their own apartments and go on trips all around while i stay in the university accomodation and barely manage my expenses. my friend group consists of people who know multiple languages already, have had jobs since they were barely teens and have seen so much more than i have. i already feel so inferior when i compare myself to them.

recently, i have started getting close with a classmate who is from norway. he is clearly interested in me too. but i just dont get it. maybe its the internalised white idolisation but i dont understand why he would choose me when im not even white? he could have anyone. he is extremely attractive but beyond everything he is VERY kind and considerate. he takes note of everything i like and dislike. i always feel this looming guilt, that im not even good enough for his attention. im scared of even letting myself get attached because i think he'll realise soon enough that he has better choices. and unconsciously i put myself below him, like we're not even on the same level. like he is above me, just like everyone else. it is exhausting constantly fighting with myself, trying to convince me that im worth more than what i consider myself to be

he started working in a hospital when he was in hs, even though it was not a paying job. his only goal in life is to save people. he knows 6 languages, has travelled extensively, is rich, has a loving non problematic family and yet he sees something in me? im everything hes not. i wasnt even allowed to step out alone till i was 18. i have always been restricted and sheltered at home. i dont know half as much as he does about the world. my family is fractured. still he insists that he wants to learn hindi so he can understand me better.

how do i stop feeling so insecure? how can i let myself open up? i grew up without a mother. i dont have any guidance. i need big sister advice. i feel like im letting everyone down, especially him. i want to feel confident about myself when im in a group of people. i dont want to be the one restricting myself. i want to connect with everyone better.

without products my hair look extremely different each wash day. sometimes theyll be a big poofy mess, sometimes theyll be pin straight at the top and big chunky curls at the bottom and sometimes theyll curl perfectly on their own. recently started applying mousse and gel on my hair and they look like 2c-3a curls.

people who i meet after i started doing this routine, always tell me that i have started 'making' my hair curly with products and ive started receiving a lot of judgment. this never sits right with me. i dont mind how my hair looks without products, except how flat my roots get, but i feel like everyone except my immediate family is giving me major imposter syndrome lol

my hair gets weighed down easily and i prefer a lot of volume rather than perfect coils so my routine for the past year has been-

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shampoo (ive tried a lot of diff shampoos and havent noticed any difference in my hair so i just use whatever is at home- usually probio or loreal). once a week i use the fmc cleansing shampoo

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conditioner- fmc

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a LOT of mousse- curl up

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gel- fmc

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and either air dry or air dry till at least 70% and then diffuser.

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this routine has always worked for me and given me voluminous hair that hold for at least 2 days without refreshing. however since last week its like no matter what i do my curls just dont hold. they lay flat, become extremely frizzy and feel extremely dry. atp they dont even look like curls. i havent changed anything so idk whats going wrong. i tried increasing the amount of gel i use hoping my hair would hold but it isnt working. the gel isnt even forming a proper cast. what do I do?

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i saw the above comment under a post when i first started looking into medschools. im a non eu student and i get how nerve wrecking and intimidating the whole application process can be. choosing a country and then a university is not a light decision. so really, how can you ask a stranger to map out your decisions?

i researched every single country, not just in the eu but every country that had medical programs in english. i made spreadsheets- comparing costs, education quality, future prospects and overall quality of life. it took me at least a week to come to a decision about which university and what countries i want to apply at and what backup plans i could keep.

i also scrolled on social media, hoping someone had already found the 'best university' for me. but thats just not possible. no one knows your situation or your needs. there is no perfect university. you will see negative reviews for literally everywhere because there is always something that at least someone will have a problem with. people come on social media mostly to vent out their frustrations, not to express gratitude and happiness.

seeing the recent posts on this sub, i do get how the people behind these low effort posts feel but at the same time i dont. i dont get how they can take this so lightly. or how they expect to survive later on in life. asking about experiences at a certain place is fine but- where do i study?, ive heard xxx negative stuff about xx uni is it really that bad?, i want to know xx about xx uni pls help- these questions are just not it.

do your research. pls.

p.s. half the things you want to know about a university can be answered 100% accurately if you just email the university. they do reply.

any tried and tested tips for body pigmentation? (knees, elbows, underarms etc)

my first bovfriend and childhood best friend left me after vears of being together shortlv after mv mom died because apparently me being sad all the time made him insecure that i didnt love him anvmore lol. he said he felt like i was using him to get over my depression. that was the loneliest phase of mv life. anvwav i was absolutelv wrecked and a year later this other quy befriends me and starts acting SO fucking sweet all the time. i wasnt ready to be in a rs again but he would worship the ground i walked on and i did kinda get manipulated by him ig and i started considering it BUT THANK GOD I DODGED A BULLET. i was super emotional around my moms birthday and confided in him and showed him a picture of me and my mom... he says wow u look so hot and savs hes turned on...HE WANTED TO MAKE OUT right then and there like ew man fuck off. that was almost a vear ago. recently i met another quy who looked a little like mv ex (i have a tvpe ig). this guy initially acted super shy and sweet and i thought WELL MAYBE HES NORMAL but no he randomly sent me a snap of him on the toilet vesterdav. completelv naked. im still traumatized.