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New to this sub but have found the info in her to be so interesting.

My LO is 10 weeks old. She used to be a much better sleeper but is waking frequently now through the night, although not for food. I want to get a bedtime routine in place for when she's old enough to sleep train. But I'm a bit confused how to do it.

My baby has always been refluxy/sicky, so we hold her upright for 30 minutes after each feed. If she doesn't fall asleep on the bottle, she will almost certainly fall asleep when being held upright. So I'm not sure how to break the association between bottle and sleep. And it seems impossible to do anything else like read a book after the bottle, as she'll most likely already be asleep.

The other thing I'm wondering is how to determine the bedtime. LO's last feed tends to be around 8.30-9pm (I haven't really been tracking sleep but it will normally be pretty much right after she's fed). I try to be responsive with feeds but can't see how I can do this and set a proper bedtime too. I'm struggling to work out what time to aim to feed her, so we can fit in a whole routine (most likely change, bottle, book, bed).

Could anyone give me a steer in the right direction please?

Hoping for any suggestions that might help! LO is 10 weeks old. From around 6 weeks she started extending her first nightime stretch between feeds to 6 hours from 4! She would sleep beautifully and only wake again when hungry (EFF).

But for the last maybe 2 weeks, she is constantly waking through the night. Her first stretch between feeds has extended to about 7 hours usually. Then her second stretch will be 4-5 hours. But she will wake an hour or 2 into her first stretch, and then perhaps 3 or 4 more times until her next feed. Then her second stretch is just awful. She will keep waking, sometimes only 20 minutes since the last wake. Sometimes I wake to check on her and she's just lying there wide awake. When I say she wakes up, I mean this is when she cries out. She may well have been awake longer but I've been asleep so can't be sure.

I don't pick her up when I settle her. I will give her the dummy (she goes to sleep without it) or rub her tummy or both. Most of the time she quickly goes back to sleep.

She's not hungry. She doesn't need a nappy change. I don't know what to do! I know she's too young for any kind of sleep training, but wondering if this is just something else she'll hopefully grow out of, or if there is anything I can do to help us both sleep better? I'm running on empty and she is already overtired by the time I get her up in the morning.

My baby girl will be 10 weeks on Sunday. This evening when we were playing on her mat, she rolled onto one of her sides several times! Obviously I'm a super proud mama, but then I thought does that mean we have to move her out of the moses basket and pram bassinet, or is this not considered trying to roll yet? Or is it ok until she shows signs of rolling all the way onto her tummy?

Edited to add, she was in her back and used her legs to move on to her side.

My baby is 9 weeks old (FTM). Her bedtime seems to be around 8.30pm at the mo. She falls straight to sleep after some of her feeds and will only wake when she's hungry again (usually 3 hours). Sometimes she won't nap at all between feeds, and sometimes something in between. However if she shows sleepy cues but is fighting a nap I will try to get her down. Sometimes if we're out she'll sleep the whole time, and sometimes barely if at all. Her sleep is a bit worse now than 2-3 weeks ago so she now wakes more frequently.

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I'm constantly seeing things that babies this age should have a later bedtime. Her wake windows should be between x and y, and I should be capping her naps.

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Do I really need to worry about these things? And if not now, is there a point where I should? If she wants to sleep I don't think I have much chance of getting her to do anything but!

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Hoping for some guidance from this sub as i don't know where to start. I'm very self-conscious of my skin, and even more so now that I've just had a baby and haven't been prioritising self-care. I'm 38(f) but look older for my age due to wrinkles. I used to smoke so I know that factors into it, and probably haven't been as careful with the sun in the past either. I'm aware that I look significantly older than most women in most rooms I'm in, and it's starting to really get me down. I'm not in a position to commit financially to botox unfortunately.

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I'm considering going down the tretinoin route but want to know what strength to start at, and what to use alongside it. And recommendations on specific products would be helpful too.

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I'm not breastfeeding so this isn't an issue. I've also subscribed to dermatica in the past so have used tretinoin before, but it was a few years back and I can't remember what strength I was prescribed.

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TIA

Sorry in advance for the waffle but my baby brain is struggling to condense information!

FTM to an 8 week old. We're going through the peak fussiness and witching hour fun at the mo. But if/when we come out the other side I want to introduce a proper bedtime routine. Nothing too elaborate, but bath bottle, story or something along those lines. We may also decide to do some form of sleep training down the line but that is tbc.

The bit I'm struggling with though is the logistics of "bed". Obviously baby isn’t allowed to sleep on her own until 6 months. So should "bed" be downstairs with us until we're ready to go up? I really want to make bed and nightime quiet and dark, so not sure how that would work around us talking, having the TV on etc, and would be nervous to wake or disturb her when moving her. 

The other option is I go to bed when she does. As much as I need these early nights right now, I won't do forever and it would be nice to sit down of an evening and chill properly. I'm not planning on a permanent 8pm bedtime at my age! If I put TV or something on in bed that sort of defeats the object of taking her upstairs and we may as well just have her in the living room.

My partner goes to bed early on work days so I could technically put her to bed in our room with him on those nights so she's not alone. But he finds it easier to switch off at night. And I think she should be with the awake parent when possible. It would also leave the issue of consistency when he's not working and going to bed early.

I may be overthinking this but I can't work out how this should work to allow a good routine and minimal disruption for baby, but also some adult evening time for us to chill and spend time as a couple.

How has everyone else worked this?

My baby is 6 weeks old, formula fed. We've been using Dr Browns natural flow size 1 for about 2 or 3 weeks now. We have experimented with a couple of bottle types and teat flow, and this seems to be the best we can find at the mo. The last few days she has started making herself gag on the bottles and it's becoming quite stressful for both of us.

She starts the feed perfectly normally and we will pace feed, burp in the middle etc. Towards the end of the feed, she will start pushing the bottle away with her tongue but then will almost instantly decide she wants more. But she will launch herself onto the teat at an angle that will make her gag. So she instantly spits it out, starts to cry frantically again for more, and so the cycle continues.

I'm not pushing the bottle into her mouth. I'm offering it to her as normal, at the usual angle. She is sat in her usual feeding position. It is her who is taking the bottle at these angles that make her gag. Even if I try to re-direct the bottle, she will manoeuvre it again to make herself gag.

I'm at a bit of a loss as to why this is happening all of a sudden. It's making feeds take so much longer, and they are becoming quite unenjoyable, I'm sure for her as well as me.

Does anyone have any ideas what could be going on here?

Wondering what everyone's experience is with their happy spitters, and if my girl falls into that category.

She's 5 weeks old now and has been a sicky baby since birth. I sometimes wonder if she has an issue with reflux as she will vomit rather than just spit up. It's not tons, although it looks like more than it really is. Sometimes it's enough to fill my palm on a muslin. I can hear her stomach ejecting it when it happens. She's always competely fine afterwards, but might be a bit fussy beforehand when she's uncomfortable.

It doesn't happen all the time either. It tends to happen for a few feeds over a day or 2, and then stop again for a while. At first I though maybe we were overfeeding her, but it will happen when she has snack feeds as well as big ones, so i don't think it's that.

We have a doctors appoitnment coming up so will ask them about it, but curious as to others experiences. She is formula fed and we pace feed and burp frequently. We alsk give her probiotic drops and infacol.

Is this just one of those things she'll grow out of?

My baby is 3 weeks old and formula fed. We use the Tommee Tippee anti colic bottles and changed teats from size 0 to size 1 about a week and a half ago, as it was taking her about 45 mins for a feed. We've found she can feed much quicker on the 1's, so we really have to pace feed to slow her down.

The last few days she's finishing feeds even quicker. She is sucking on the teat a lot more ferociously, making slurping noises which we try to stop by adjusting her latch on the bottle. But she's still finishing feeds really quickly, and getting sick more or having little coughing splutters where she seems to be getting too much milk too quickly. I assume this is where her sucking reflex is getting stronger.

Does anyone have any suggestions of bottles/teats that would be worth trying? Or do we just need to persevere with either size until she adjusts? The 0 Tommee Tippee is too slow, causing her feeds to take too long. But the 1's seem to be too fast. We've tried the 0 Mam anti-colic bottles a few times and found these worse for sick/coughing.