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Please be nice, i'm just trying to understand something here. And sorry for any mistakes.

So recently I've came across a TikTok about supporting Morocco and Egypt since they were the only African countries left in the WC. Then someone (jokingly I suppose) comments that "We also have France representing us". Which to what the creator of the tiktok responds "Supporting colonizers African traitors who refused to represent their African identity is NEVER the solution (idc if they're born or have citizenship)".

Ngl I was taken aback by the creator's statement. A vast majority of French players were born and raised there. Why would they choose to represent any other country than France? That said, I know there are cases where players choose to play for their country of origin even though they have never lived there. But as far as to call them traitors?? Seriously??

Also, what's the difference between this kind of statement and the racist rhetoric we see in France (or in the western world in general)? Because I feel like both of those claims are saying the same thing: the black players are not French so they shouldn't be playing for France.

At the end of the day, everyone can support whoever they want, it's none of my business. But saying they are traitors for not playing for their country of origin is a bit insane to me.

What do you guys think?

can anyone tell what the price range is for the general onsale please 😭 since the beginning of the week i've been trying to go on ticketmaster but they keep telling me that my browser activity has been suspended. idk what to do anymore

hey guys! for those of you who went to a beabadoobee concert in europe, do you guys remember what was the price range?

does this song also remind you guys of old paramore songs or is it just me? im so excited to hear the song w hayley williams omg

it's been a week since the album came out and im curious to know what are you guys' top 5 so far!

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here is mine:

1. u + me = <3 (i want to inject this song into my veins)

2. the cure

3. expectations

4. maggots for brains

5. my way/cigarette smoke (can't decide sorry)

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right now, im more into the "girl so in love" side of the album bc the sad songs hit pretty deep and im not trying to get even sadder 😭😭

Sorry for the long read and for any mistakes.

Recently I've finally came to terms with my sexuality after years of trying to deny it (I still got some internal work to do but we getting there). I'm rather young (19 yo) and still dependent on my parents so I'm not coming out to them because I'm terrified of how they are going to react.

I've moved cities for uni so they can't and won't know that I'm dating women. But maybe someday I'll want to settle down with a woman. And now what? Because I tell myself that I can't possibly hide forever and that I have to live my life. I cannot live my whole life trying to please my parents all the time. But on the other hand, I don't think I could handle my parents cutting me off because of my attraction to women. I'd be devastated and just the thought of it makes me sad. And I want to almost repress my feelings again so there is no possibility of them cutting me off.

My parents claim to be open minded and honestly I would say they are a little more open minded than the majority of african parents. But in regard of queerness I don't really know. I feel like they could accept other people being gay but not their children.

So to my fellow queer african women, how are you guys living with it? Have you guys told your parents? If yes, were they accepting of it? Is it hard to not talk to your parents anymore? I really need some advice bc my emotions are all over the place.

Also where are you guys finding other queer african women? Because where l live there are some queer groups but they seem very white centered and I don't know if I'm comfortable with that...

Cette question s'adresse surtout aux femmes africaines queer issues de milieux religieux.

Récemment j'ai enfin accepté le fait que je sois aussi attirée par des femmes après des années à essayer de refouler cette attirance (bon il y a encore des moments où je me demande si je suis vraiment attirée par les femmes mais là n'est pas le sujet). Je suis assez jeune (19 ans) et encore dépendante d'eux donc je ne compte pas faire mon coming out pcq je ne sais pas du tout comment ils vont réagir.

Comme je vis dans une autre ville pour mes études sup, ils ne pourront pas savoir que je me relationne avec des femmes. Mais peut-être qu'il viendra un jour où je voudrai me caser avec une femme. Et du coup je vais faire comment? Parce que je me dis que je ne peux pas me cacher pour toujours et que je dois vivre ma vie. Je peux pas vivre ma vie en essayant de plaire à mes parents tout le temps. Mais d'un autre côté, je me dis que si jamais mes parents venaient à couper les ponts avec moi à cause de mon attirance pour les femmes, je serai dévastée. Juste penser à ça me déprime déjà. Et limite j'ai envie d'encore refouler mes sentiments pour qu'il n'y ait pas cette possibilité de "perdre" mes parents.

Du coup pour mes femmes africaines queer, comment vous vivez cela? Est-ce que vous l'avez dit à vos parents? Si oui, comment ça s'est passé? Est-ce que c'est difficile pour vous de ne plus parler à vos parents? J'ai vraiment besoin de conseils pcq mes émotions sont vrm all over the place.

Aussi, si vous avez des livres/films/séries à me conseiller par rapport à cette problématique, n'hésitez pas. Je sais qu'il y a le livre "La petite dernière" de Fatima Daas qui parle un peu de ça (et que je compte lire) mais je prends volontiers d'autres recos :)

Déso si c'était long et merci d'avance pour vos conseils!

i love this song sm yall, i can't stop listening to it