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It’s not even about being scared to come out to her, not really. It’s that I know I can’t give her what she’s hoping for. Not “a girlfriend” specifically but the whole picture she has in her head of my future, the one she’s probably imagined since I was a kid. I love her so much that it hurts knowing I can’t give her this one thing.

I feel guilty, like I’m failing her somehow, even though I know that’s not fair to myself. And I feel disappointed in myself for not knowing how to hold this for not having an answer, for not being able to make it okay for her or for me.

And honestly, being gay is just harder. People say it shouldn’t be, that love is love, but it doesn’t feel that way when you’re the one carrying it. Straight people don’t have to sit at dinner doing math in their head about what they can and can’t say. They don’t have to grieve a version of their parents’ happiness that they’ll never get to give them. I didn’t choose this to be difficult, it just is, and some nights that difference feels so heavy.

I don’t know what I’m asking for by posting this. I just needed to say it somewhere.

It’s not even about being scared to come out to her, not really. It’s that I know I can’t give her what she’s hoping for. Not “a girlfriend” specifically but the whole picture she has in her head of my future, the one she’s probably imagined since I was a kid. I love her so much that it hurts knowing I can’t give her this one thing.

I feel guilty, like I’m failing her somehow, even though I know that’s not fair to myself. And I feel disappointed in myself for not knowing how to hold this for not having an answer, for not being able to make it okay for her or for me.

And honestly, being gay is just harder. People say it shouldn’t be, that love is love, but it doesn’t feel that way when you’re the one carrying it. Straight people don’t have to sit at dinner doing math in their head about what they can and can’t say. They don’t have to grieve a version of their parents’ happiness that they’ll never get to give them. I didn’t choose this to be difficult, it just is, and some nights that difference feels so heavy.

I don’t know what I’m asking for by posting this. I just needed to say it somewhere.

I want to get away from my daily like and try out some lowkey food places like some neighborhood cafes of small restos.

No family dysfunction, no financial pressure, no work pressure or culture pressure. Would you still move out just for its own sake or would you live with your family?

Tough couple of months. Need food recos that makes you happy for a bit.

Adult child here. Parent’s illness is wrecking my mental health. How do you cope without falling apart yourself?”

Watching a parent go through a health scare and honestly just trying to hold it together. How did you get through this?

Only people whose bad situations turned out okay get invited to say “everything happens for a reason.” The countless cases where something bad happened and nothing good ever came of it? Those stories don’t get told.

Only people whose bad situations turned out okay get to say that. The ones where it just stayed bad? Nobody hears those stories.

Curious lang talaga kung ano yung physical preferences ng mga tao dito pagdating sa partners - could be fit/athletic, curvy, petite, tall, dad bod, whatever floats your boat. Walang wrong answer, just genuinely curious how varied ang taste ng mga tao.

At what age did you start living alone and ano yung main reason for you to live on your own knowing na mas mapapagastos ka? Kasi parang ang sarap din minsan na may kasama ka.