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For context, I'm 19 Bi. 2nd year student. May new prof kami sa college, first term nya pa lang pero magaling sya makisama sa students. As someone na officer sa room, common naman na yung kakausapin ka ng mga prof mo abt school related topics.

This prof is around 27+ M. One time nag chat sya sakin, school related naman then after non sabi nya "I owe you one" then nag aaya mag matcha sa tabi ng campus... At first parang okay? mejo bago pero tama ba yun? HAHAHAH

One time nagkausap ulit kami about school stuff after usap sabi nya "I inom nalang natin yan hahaha" "Natikman mo na ba yung matcha sa tabi ng campus?"

sabi ko nalang na hindi ako nag mamatcha...

Reddit peeps let me know ur insights pls🙏🏼

May thoughts rin ako na baka overthinker lang ako but im still keeping my boundaries and limitations

Skincare just isn't working for me. I wanna try those sophisticated means of getting that hairless and flawless skin. I just got a job and nakakapagipon na so I can afford those things. Help a fellow gay out haha.

There was a boy who loved you with such intensity, such fire, that sometimes even he forgot where he ended and you began.

That boy is dead now.

Not because he stopped knowing how to love, but because you taught him that loving someone that deeply can be dangerous.

You broke me.

And no, I can't be friends with you. If you can be friends with all your exes, I can't. How can I be friends with someone who I loved deeply and everything I have?

I don't usually blame people for the pieces I become. But this time, I will make an exception. You broke something in me that I don't think I'll ever put back together. I am cautious now. Always watching. Always waiting for the moment someone decides to leave.

I should have walked away the first time you hurt me.

I should have walked away when I saw the Grindr app on your phone, when someone told me that you had a Grindr profile.

I should have left while I still had the strength to choose myself.

But I stayed because it's you.

And perhaps that is the part I will always have difficulty forgiving—not you, but the version of me who endured it all.

You asked me that night if I was angry. Yes. I was angry.

And beneath the anger was something far more painful.

I was disappointed that the person I loved could become the person I needed protection from.

A part of me will always love you. I won't lie about that. Some loves don't disappear simply because you finally learn to walk away from them.

But you will never hear that love from me again.

And I ask only one thing.

If you ever see me somewhere—eating alone, walking down a street, simply living my life—please let me be.

Don't come over.

Don't ask how I am.

Don't try to reopen a door I spent so much time learning to close.

It isn't because our past meant nothing.

It meant everything.

That's precisely why I cannot go back.

Because every time I look at you, I would also see the person I used to be—the boy who loved without hesitation, who forgave too much, who stayed when he should have left.

And I have too much respect for that boy to betray him again.

So let me walk away.

Let me become someone who loves differently.

And if you ever wonder whether I loved you deeply.

You won't have to wonder.

You already know.

That was the problem.

I loved you enough to stay.

Now I love myself enough to leave.

I live near Cash and Carry Makati, the same place where I lived during my OJT days and my first few months at my first job (circa 2016–2017).

Same area where I met him through Grindr, let’s call him Joe. Matangkad, moreno, malaki titi na maugat, corporate professional too, mukhang gentle yung mukha pero apakabastosss hahaha yie.

We used to be fuck buddies during my OJT days until the first few months at my first job — almost a year din yon. He fucked me at any places I can imagine — sa dorm noon ko kahit bawal, sa bahay nila, I gave him a blowjob sa loob ng pedicab na nakaparada sa tapat ng Blessah Salon and Spa at midnight lool.

Siya rin nag-introduce sa akin sa Gayle’s bakeshop na madaming branch sa Makati haha. In short, we had good memories together. But those didn’t last kasi I had to relocate sa Taguig para mas malapit sa workplace ko, that meant, leaving him behind. Aaminin ko, na-fall ako sa kanya, but again, fubu lang naman kami, and I think, one-sided lang yon haha.

Then last week, while ordering a hazelnut waffle sa food court ng Cash and Carry (and yes —- dito na ulit ako nakatira haha) nakita ko siya, same face but matured and daddy na, buhat-buhat yung daughter niya😭. We looked at each other for few secs until he flashed that familiar smile at me.

He pulled me sa may gilid and we talked for few minutes. And yes, he’s married na to co-worker and they have a child together. Sa area pa rin siya nakatira — tubong Cash and Carry raw siya lol. He’s so happy and shocked to see me raw and I said the same — kumustahan ba ganon.

I asked him, if his wife knows about his past..about us..about me— he just said ”Oo naman, she has to. She’s my wife.” — Nong narinig ko yon, I felt nothing but happiness for him. Kasi he mentioned noon na, what if one day ma-in-love siya sa babae, tatanggapin ba raw siya ng buo despite his past? And now, here he is, happily married with a child.

And ako? I had my hazelnut waffle with extra cream cheese that day. In all fairness, hindi kuripot si kuya sa hazelnut syrup ah!

tangina it sucks. i spent most of my early 20s with him only to be left alone in the end. live in kami for 3.5 yrs then naging LDR ng mahigit 1 year kasi nag-OFW si gago. ginawa ko naman lahat ng pag-intindi pero wala talaga hahaha tapos biglang nanghingi ng 1 week na space. alam ko na rin kung saan to papunta so wala na ‘to di na ko umaasa hahaha. tangina pano ba maka-move on sa ganito? 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

we’ve been fubu for many months now and siyang siya nalang nagalaw sakin and he was my type; big dick, chub buff, nerdy, and tall, he fucks me good and treats me like a princess, he is as adventurous as me. but fuck why would he block me on every social media without any explanation🥲 my hole remember his dick! ugh kainis

Meron akong na meet sa G app na hookup. Ok naman sia sa fun so we met twice tapos medyo gusto niya more than fun. Sabi ko hindi pa ko sure. I agreed to somewhat try. After a few days, medyo na-off ako sa drama niya. So I checked G app(His acc lang actually). Ayun, he opened his claws na parang kami na. So I said na let's stop na. Now, gusto niya nag fubu na lang kami.

Should I still continue this? Ok naman sia in bed pero baka meron na kasi siyang feelings in a span of 3 weeks? Idk if bringing food rin at times nung we do the deed made him feel mroe than the fun?

I currently have a new manager like just 3 months pa lang. Since he was new it was normal for me to observe him the way he talks and rapport with us. He talks Tsglish most of the time and also I don't know how to explain but he have this gay sway when walking. 😭 Also the pitik with hands and very animated. Just today lang I learned while we were having a meeting and it was brought up suddenly that he will be on leave as we discussed holiday breaks (he said his wife is expecting like due for baby next month) my jaw was on the floor. Thankfully I'm the silent type that won't say anything and very introvert in a way sa office. Imagine if I said something like "sis" or "teaaaaaaa". I really don't know anymore. I was expecting kasi na the way he presents himself and he looks masculine naman but you know that it's common with gays to be fit right? Like the gym gays?

Also, I found out one of my office crush like chinito buff I also thought was bi because he looks so formal and just like soft the way he talks I also thought he is some what adjacent sa community but turns out he have a long time girlfriend also just learned from my office mate.

I asked one of my closest friend if why I might be misreading things and she said that it could be I'm equating smart looking guys and put together guys as gays daw.

Kayo ba guys, do you have similar experiences ba or do you always detect someone if they are gay.

It's also annoying because one of my girl friend said na she can tell right away if a person of gay and knowing na I'm the one part sa community dapat may lukso ng dugo dapat akong nafefeel.

How to turn this gaydar on again?

Xoxo

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Normal ba to?

Hi,

I am 26 na, turning 27 sa sept pero ang limited ng mga naka hook ups ko or parang I'm sexually frustrated? Something like that. Sinubukan ko naman, oo sinubukan ko magpaka poka pero siguro dahil na rin sa anxiety ko (na baka magka sti / std) ako and sa insecurities ko na rin, Hindi ako nage-enjoy kapag may nakaka s\*x ako.

Tho dama ko naman yung excitement sa umpisa pero habang tumatagal, nandidiri ako sa ginagawa ko. Feeling ko ang dumi dumi ko and anyone na mahawakan ko is madudumihan ko rin.

Until I realized na sa ibang aspect pala ng s\*x ako nage-enjoy. This is weird pero please don't judge me huhu. I enjoy watching two people have s\*x in front of me. I've done it thrice already with different couples (m x m) and nasa-satisfy naman ako pero andun parin yung hint ng pandidiri or anxiety na baka may kung anong kumapit sakin na pwede kong mahawa sa iba, lalo na sa mga naka paligid sakin.

So my question is, normal ba tong “fetish" ko? and safe ba ko from std / sti? (Idk feeling ko kasi after nila mag eme, may lilipad na fluid sakin then shit will happen \*si praning\*)

Help ease my thoughts, guys huhu.

Di naman ako kagwapuhan, 7/10 on a good day hehe, pero bakit ang bilis niyo ma-fall? 😭 Ilang beses na nangyari sa'kin 'to. Yung may imi-meet lang ako, tapos after, they're already asking kung pwede ba kaming maging serious. Like... beh, you don't even know my real name? 😭

It’s not even about being scared to come out to her, not really. It’s that I know I can’t give her what she’s hoping for. Not “a girlfriend” specifically but the whole picture she has in her head of my future, the one she’s probably imagined since I was a kid. I love her so much that it hurts knowing I can’t give her this one thing.

I feel guilty, like I’m failing her somehow, even though I know that’s not fair to myself. And I feel disappointed in myself for not knowing how to hold this for not having an answer, for not being able to make it okay for her or for me.

And honestly, being gay is just harder. People say it shouldn’t be, that love is love, but it doesn’t feel that way when you’re the one carrying it. Straight people don’t have to sit at dinner doing math in their head about what they can and can’t say. They don’t have to grieve a version of their parents’ happiness that they’ll never get to give them. I didn’t choose this to be difficult, it just is, and some nights that difference feels so heavy.

I don’t know what I’m asking for by posting this. I just needed to say it somewhere.

i just need this to get out of my feelings. Im the person who download dating app such grindr, bumble , or tinder cuz bored lng ako and i need distraction or entertainment. This is the problem, sinabihan ako nang friend ko na im a red flag and naglelead lng ako and if ma satisfy na yung need ko and di ko na need nang ka chat for distraction of entertainment lumalabas ako na walng pa alam. pero nag sabi ako na" they will just move that how life, everyone will just move on". sinabihan nyo ako na gago daw ako and i need a therapy. Maybe im really is a horrible person and im just making people an entertainment, kasi i recall and think about it and i think im really. this year, 4 person na yung ginanyan ko and not including this one. this one im not yet to reply and he chatted me like 9 hours ago,now i feel i need confess to him but im coward, gusto ko, pero ayaw ko. gets? and im finding the courage to reply but wla akong alam.

i feel like babatohin ako ni karma si huli nito, pero feel ko deserve ko namn.

TL;DR Im horrible person for leading someone and using them kung bored. my friend says i need therapy

May workmate ako na sobrang dumikit at magbigay ng mga signals to do something.

Nung una, pinapatulan ko talaga mga kalandian niya dahil bet ko din naman siya. Yes, naglalandian na kami HAHAHAH.

Ilang beses siya sumisimple ng hipo sakin at hinahayaan ko lang dahil gusto ko din naman. May times din na sumusunod siya pag nag ccr ako pero hindi ko hinahayaan na may mangyari dahil baka may makahuli. Pinaka intimate na nangyari sa amin ay laplapan nonstop nung may outing ang office namin. Muntik niya na ko machupa non pero pinigilan ko dahil matagal ako labasan pag nakakainom ng alak

Thank god wala pang nangyayari na sex, dahil recently ko lang nalaman na may longterm boyfriend pala siya 😭

Last week, sinabi ko sakaniya na tigilan na namin yung ginagawa namin dahil hindi naman pala siya single at kawawa yung boyfriend niya. Tapos ngayong week, parang walang nangyari. Grabe pa rin siya dumikit 😭

Eto nanaman ako, installed Bumble again since using it back in 2023.
Wala din naman ako nabingwit, mga 1st and 2nd dates lang.

I decided to try again kasi gusto ko na talaga magkapartner.
Pero I find myself irritated by how draining the process of swiping for potential matches.

Every profile, nothing excites me anymore.
It's all the same thing on their profile.
A picture of them traveling, a thirst trap, a picture of their hobby and the self proclaimed description of being "loyal".

It is so draining.
Iniisip ko, take away all these superficial stuff like your vanity for example, idk I feel like a vast majority of us (and that includes me) really don't offer as much in a relationship.

Hays. Isang malaking hininga nalang nung sinabi kong goodbye at maraming salamat sa lahat.

28 years old palang ako currently pero ang gusto ko lang naman magkaroon ng makakasama sa pagtanda.

Di ako tumingin, tumikim, or anything sa ibang tao, within those years kasi sa di malamang dahilan, mahal na mahal ko yung boyfriend ko.

Parehas kaming professional, so walang issue sa pera. Magkaedad lang rin kami. Yung vision namin yumaman ng sabay at tumandang relaxed.

Pero somehow nasira parin kami. May mga di pagkakaunawaan. Di pagkakaintindihan. Binigyan ko siya ng second chance pero mukhang mali ako doon.

Second chance. Second chance. Kala ko magic word eh. Di naman pala. Binigyan ko ng effort base sa alam ko.

Aaminin ko, di ako magaling na paulit ulit ipakita ang pagmamahal ko. Di ko na rereinforced na mahal ko ang taong yon. Kasi sabi nga niya, sana daw mas madalas ako mag pakita ng paglalambing sa text.

Sa tingin ko doon ako nagkulang. Pero sa ibang bagay, di ko alam. Alam ko lang, mahal ko ang taong yon. Alam ko lang, susubukan ko in all of my knowledge na tulungan siya kung may tanong siya. Susubukan ko puntahan pa siya doon kasi may pera naman ako pang punta doon sa probinsya na yon.

Hays. Hays nanaman. Siguro pagod lang ako ngayong araw. Siguro nakakalungkot lang na yung kala kong forever, gone forever na.

Buti nalang nandiyan mga kapatid ko para dramahan ko. Alam naman nilang bading ako kahit lalaking lalaki silang lahat. Sinabihan nalang nila ako na ganyan talaga. Mahirap magtiwala sa cracked na tiwala.

Maybe I'm tired too? Gusto ko lang magmahal. Not to the point na mababaliw ako sa pagmamahal. Pero gusto ko lang ishare sa mahal ko yung mga nangyayari sakin, sa mga pusa ko, sa trabaho, alam mo yung ganon?

Gusto ko umiyak pero mukhang ayaw pa ulit ng utak ko. Mukhang mas prefer niya sumuka nalang at matulog.

Buti nalang wfh me. Kundi binaha na nga ako, baha pa ang mga mata ko.

Sorry sa napakahabang useless na rant. Thank you sa mga nagbasa. I hope makahanap tayo ng pagmamahal na tatanggapin tayo.

Kind of proud myself
Hi! I'm m22 and bi:> just want to share my progress about watching too much prn/stories/vm/manga/manhwa/yaoi you name it huhu(single and a virgin so don't judge me pls😔🖐*). I even shared it with my straight friends sa te/ge. I mean they asked me to, and napilit since aksidenteng nakita nila yung nasa gallery ko pero mga straight videos yun ah and hindi ko pinagsesend mga gay vids ofc* 😭 So I got addicted and I fucking love sharing my p*rn collection cuz it’s like I’m helping out a friend and I want to share it cuz like it’s good and hot HAHAHA but i stopped doing it and dinelete ko yung convo namin there. That's how bad it was😭😭 I just know na if magpasend ulit sila baka mag send ulit ako huhu but I’m kinda glad they’re not asking for it na anymore prolly because they’re in a relationship na

Dati everyday ako nagpapalabas tapos minsan 2x a day pa 7x a week but this year nabawasan parang average of 21x per month(i know madami pa rin but atleast hindi na 30+ per month HAHAHA and usually I'm using videos nalang to get off HAHAHA and hindi na yung iba) and madalang ko nalang nagagamit toys ko since maingay siya huhu only lube mostly ang gamit or oil(not recommended ang babyoil mga once a month ko lang ginagamit yan siya)

but last month mas lalo nag improve and nabawasan since 15x lang ako nilabasan(yes, trinack ko HAHAHA) then this month naman, less than 10 palang hahhaha and nanonood nalang ulit if magpapalabas. Hindi tulad dati na nanonood lagi whenever I get the time.

I still scroll sa paminsan-minsan then gamit ko lang ay te/ge if manonood ako since I have my own collection there then dodownload nalang huhu See? Ang
convenient and easy for me to access kaya inuuninstall ko yung app pagkatapos to avoid watching it and doing it again and para di rin matempt buksan hahahahaha

I think okay na ako sa ganito since maayos naman na yung time management ko like nag wowork out and read manhwa(fantasy and action mga ganun) or manga or watch tv shows nalang din ako para di matempt manood huhuhu (try niyo check yung FROM and Widow’s Bay^^ ang ganda ng show HAHAHA promise!!)

Would you date someone with acne?

I'm currently curious about this and I get the hint that most people really value looks over values in our country today. And honestly idk whether to feel sad or feel not to be judgemental as we all have a our preferences