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Hello po heres my situation:

I live in mandaluyong city in a townhouse. My dad figured out my relationship and my transgender identity and now he is threatening to take away my gadgets and my benilde schooling after my first semester is done.

I am not sure what goals or what homeless shelter I should pursue.

I have also asked friends if I could stay with them.

I need help po about:
- accessing my bank accounts that my father is keeping from me
- laws that support homeless youth
- realistic goals I must achieve
- which is the best queer friendly homeless shelter I can seek out
- what should i learn about finances more

Thank yoy so much I apologize if this is too much to answer at the time but if you can help guide me pls do so im quite scared

And that’s what my boyfriend proves to me time and time again. We have been dating for more than a year now, and started living together in his house maybe two months ago.

Being cared for was foreign to me before I met him. Now? Papasok na lang ako na may plantsadong uniform. Uuwi na may pagkain. His parents are in the US at kaming dalawa lang ang nasa bahay nila.

I never knew na being domestic is the one thing I’ve always wanted and will always want. Yung meal planning namin weekly before mamalengke. Yung late night drives para mamili ng snacks. I do the laundry and washing of dishes pagkakain.

The way we’re integrated into each other’s lives. Him introducing me to his relatives. Me introducing him to mine. Being included in each other’s social circles.

Sharing a life with someone feeling this good should be illegal. But it isn’t. And I think I’ve met someone I truly want to spend the rest of my life with.

Just wanted to let it out.

Nag CR ako sa 3rd floor dulo ng Pavilion Mall in Greenfield and there's this guy na alam ko na, na hindi sya umiihi. Alam ko na looking for CR Fun sya like blowjob and masturbation kasi nagawa ko na yun before. Now, nung tapos na ako umihi biglang tapos na din sya at nag hugas n lng din ng kamay, then, when he felt me being disinterested sa ganung gawain eh lumabas sya bigla sa parking at nagcecellphone kunwari.

Now, tama ba ung feeling ko na yun na gusto nya na mag CR Fun (e.g. blowjob or masturbation) or inaassume ko lang?

as a male homosexual

siguro for me I'm more fond of my girl friends. tbh i really don't have a number of gay friends nga e. ever since i kinda accepted myself nung grade 7, i had this circle of friends na 9 girls and i. things happened and naging 5 girls and i na lang kami up until now. senior high came and i had this 4 girls and i group na friend group ko pa rin in college. ngayon in college, i have this 7 girls and i friendship na goes strong despite us not being in the same program / schedules.

and sa mga gay friends i have a few na semi-semi lang na i have met shs and college na lang. gay sisters i became friends dahil na rin sa girl friends ko or classmates in college na either mama mama ko o sissy ko lang talaga during lectures. but there's this one og sister brother sibling ko na since we became friends nung gr 7 when we were still starting to accept ourselves but still semi-closetada pa rin dati. sya lang masasabi ko na kumareng bading to the bones ko.

wala hindi ko alam why but siguro

1. gay community is small in highschool and usually either you befriend them or know them in the gay food chain (couz! hahaha)

2. ewan siguro feels ko lang din ugali ng mga bakla alam nyo na yan che tayo tayo lang yan che

3. i just feel comfort or i feel exploratory with girlfriends like yk mas mean girls sorority feels lang mas i feel solid or may pact talaga to even form a group not just individual gfs

idkk kayo ba which and why

I was seeing a guy for a month. I was cautious and careful. He seems clean. Walang issues or red flags. He was expressive and showy sa feelings niya towards me. He would even posts me sa stories niya and he would talk about me sa siblings niya. Talagang walang indication na may saltik pala. One day, while I was scrolling sa tiktok, I came across a live. To make the story short, in that live I learned na he is dating someone else and they live together. I confronted him about it and he said best friends niya lang yon and they were just joking. I let it go kasi nga di naman kami talaga and I was waiting for him to come back to talk about it, since I decided na that time to let go of what we had. To make the story short again, I confronted him and we had a huge fight. He keeps on lying to me but he eventually admitted to the truth while omitting some informations, and apologized. He said he fell in love with the other guy to save face but the truth is he’s been seeing both of us talaga.

Now I feel like a loser because I was not able to sniff him out when I normally could. I thought highly of him tapos lahat ng yon pala di totoo. Nasusuka ako every time I remember yong mga good things that happened between us. How do I shake away this feeling?

Share ko lang.

I have this super close friend since Grade 8 na charismatic talaga. (Nalulungkot nga ako kasi walang umaamin sa'kin, pero sa kanya kahit babae nagkakagusto hahaha.) pero trust me, in our 9 years of friendship, never kaming nagka-developan.

One thing he would frequently tell me, especially back in college, was kung gaano siya nahihirapang magkaroon ng genuine friends na gay, to the point na karamihan ng naging closest friends niya ended up being straight guys. Actually, may sarili nga silang circle, and kilala rin nila ako. Haha.

Sobrang opposite kami ng problema kung ako paano magkaroon ng straight guy friends; siya naman, paano magkaroon ng genuine na gay friends.

Kilala ko mismo yung ilan sa mga gay friends na nakikipag-friends sa kanya. Sa umpisa, okay naman ung friendship, pero later on umaamin din pala. Tapos kapag hindi niya nareciprocate, parang may guilt pa na para bang kasalanan ng friend ko, eh genuine friendship lang naman talaga ang binibigay niya nako po tapos nagpaparinig pa sa ig na ganito ganyan teh kakafantasy mo yan huhu.

*insert natin ung tiktok trend* ano kaya ang thought process ng mga taong gumagawa nito, lalo na kapag alam nilang gwapo o attractive yung tao?

I've been going to Baler alone for many years now. And Im on my way back home from there. I've loved that place as it is the only place I can go and relax without breaking my bank, as long as I know where to go. I've spoken the dialect too. Akkaw! Are! De naman masyado ai.

How did I even start going there? My friend, who is a wlw, asked us to go there. She dated one in our friend group. They broke up, but she dated 2 more women locally in Baler. She has more wlw relatives actually. Our other friend, another wlw, even dated a girl from there, but didnt last. I had my fair share of dates and hookups from locals there during my paminta days. Local gay men are really something tbh hahahaha. My 2nd time visiting, I was able to watch a Miss Gay there.

I went there during the weekend, and Im surprised how many gay men who are obviously not locals are there too, vacationing. Their vibe are those usually who parties in Elyu, not chilling in Baler. I dont usually see them when I go there.

Interactions with locals are interesting. In the transient I was staying in, the owner's son had a group of friends over. They were of different genders/sexualities. A few straight men and women, plus a gay man, a crossdressing man, and a bisexual woman in a wlw relationship. Also, I only got misgendered once here, but I wore more masculine clothes that time. 2 drunk local men even talked to me, may be thinking I was an afam girl. Surfer dudes NEVER catcalled me. Surfer dudes in Elyu were more aggressive with women, especially afam women when drinking in Flotsam and Jetsam. Not queer related, but the tricycle driver I hire never once tried to get my things while I was swimming and left them in the cottage.

Did I mention they also had a Pride celebration last month? Just search "Pride Month Baler" for the event. Pride flags are also placed in some bars.

It may not have a very loud LGBTQ vibe like Elyu with drag bars like Hara, and awrahan vibe like Flotsam and Jetsam, but I feel safe as a member of the LGBTQ community there.

Wala pa akong experience with anal, just sides dahil sa takot ako hahaha.

Gusto ko ma try both positions kung ano mas magugustuhan ko as someone na exploring. Genuine question, pano mag prep before makeout or may mangyari? hahahah😭😭

May hints naman nako like lilinisin mo yung loob pero how... tska parang masakit na agad lol

I'm sorry for the cuss words, pero damn those people na mga OPORTUNISTA!! Inantay niyo lang talaga na umalis ako to work abroad and these people have the gall to chat to my partner to prey on!

The saddest part is that I considered THESE people as friends and acquaintances then ito yung gagawin nyo sakin?! Nakakainis na nakakagalit! Lalo na yung isa! Alam ko namang matagal mo nang type partner ko eversince nagliligawan pa lang kami, pero I never thought that you can do this to me!! May pa-boto ka pa samin na para kaming loveteam only to find out na ganito. Na you will offer to have sex with him behind my back?!! KAPAL!!

Open rel kami for the meantime, pero never na pumasok sa isip ko na ganito ka pala. Na you will take advantage of this opportunity to prey on my partner pag wala ako. Respect na lang sana?!

Good thing my partner declined their offer pero sana, tantanan nyo na jowa ko! focus kami sa goals namin while we are miles apart.

Recently, I hooked up with a guy. He’s a bot asking to be hard fucked pero sobrang manly at tropa vibe. Like hindi mo aakalain nagpapakantot sa lalaki. Based sa sexting namin before the meetup, target talaga namin rough play. Nung first encounter namin, it was kinda rough but we never did the deed aka side fun lang. Then, came our second and third encounter last weekend. I went all the way to \[redacted\] para malapit sa kanya at hindi siya mahirapan tumakas sa kanila. Strict ang parents ni koya. Ang dami naming scenarios na pinagusapan gawin pero nung actual na, kusang nag-shift yung dynamic… naging intimate, slower, and mas attentive. Nandoon pa rin yung dominant energy ko pero surprisingly, I was a little gentle. I couldn’t even bring myself to be as rough as I usually am with others. He even told me na mas nagustuhan niya yung "gentle fuck" kaysa sa rough. I enjoyed it too. Para kaming naging mag-asawa sa kama saglit. Nung medyo sumasakit na yung butas niya, he just edged me while we kissed until I came.

After that, I have food delivered and treated him his favorite Mcdo meal as a reward, at nagkwentuhan, which surprised me a little kasi biglang naging open book siya sa akin. At first kasi, nahirapan akong basahin siya at basagin yung walls niya. Not sure if effect yun ng sex namin, like maybe he felt safe enough to share his personal stories and vulnerabilities with me.

Unplanned din yung sumunod na round kasi he was about to leave na when I grabbed him, I just couldn't help it. After kong pakinggan mga kwento niya, mas sumarap siya sa paningin ko. This time, I thought it was time to pleasure him naman since hindi siya nag-cum nung una. I went down on him, ate his ass (he knows I enjoyed eating his ass) and then I sucked him for the first time, and clearly, he really enjoyed it and it felt like he needed it. Mukhang nasanay yata siya na siya palagi ang nag-aasikaso sa tops, kaya he really deserved that treatment. After he released, I let him go since it’s already past midnight.

Kinabukasan, akala ko mag-stop na yung comms namin dahil hookup lang naman dapat. But no, he hit me up again nang walang sexual innuendos. Pure wholesome conversation lang. Mga kalokohan, memes, rants, and such. Ganon amats namin. He even sent me a couple of travel videos of him. Suggested I go try free diving para hindi lang daw ako puro kantot. True enough? Hahaha! That evening, when I felt like nagda-die down na yun convo namin for the day, I told him mag-work na muna ako. Then after a few minutes, he sent me a video of him cuddling with his doggos. Nagulat ako kasi parang it’s too personal to send to someone na nakahookup lang but I thought it was cute and lowkey kinilig ako!

Pero napaisip ako… normal ba ito sa hookup setup? Or are we leveling this up? Ngayon, tahimik siya for a couple of days and I don’t want to bug him. Alam kong busy siya sa life and obligations niya. I do miss him though. If this is just limerence or infatuation after a great sex, I don’t know. Part of me wants to believe na ganoon nga at lilipas din ito. But another part of me thinks, what if I put more effort into this? Where will this lead me?

Ayon napa-share lang kasi first time in a long time na nafeel ko ito as someone who’s used to hookup and NSA setups. Avoidant din ako madalas but I feel like I will get anxiously attached with this person if this continues. 🥲

Any thoughts or advice? Normal ba yung biglang ganitong shift after hookup? For bottoms, do you do this too sa mga Tops? If so, bakit? Do you think it’s because he enjoyed our night together and genuinely wanted to connect with me further aside from hooking up?

Will delete this din agad. Just needed to let this out and I hope someone slides in my DM to talk some sense to me.

Hi, Reddit folks! Share nyo naman yung mga para sa inyo e dapat iwasan kung ayaw masaktan.

Ito sa ken:

1. Mga GGSS - ito ang numero unong red flag sakin. Mga gwapong-gwapo sa sarili. Chances are they only keep you around to boost their ego. Tapos madalas din mga walang substance kausap. Laging puro lang sa kanila ang topic. They don’t see you as a partner. They see you as an underling.
2. Magastos ang lifestyle pero hindi naman mayaman - kailangan pa ba i-elaborate? Mga financially

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1. responsible folk, matik sakin yan sa ulo. Puro utang. Laging max out ang CC. Hindi ka uunlad kasama iyan. Hihilahin ka lang pababa.

I (28) am dating this guy (30). We met on a dating app last March and we decided to date exclusively after 3 dates.

I like him naman nung nagkita kami, we're compatible naman. But right now, I am losing the spark.

I am noticing na everytime na lumalabas kami and may nakita siyang attractive guy, titingin talaga siya ng paulit ulit or nahahalata ko talagang sinusulyapan niya ulit, intentionally.

Normal lang naman diba na mapapatingin ka talaga pag may attractive na guy, I understand that. Pero nagiging habit niya kasi. Madaming beses niya ginagawa and nahahalata ko lagi. I communicated it to him na it makes me feel really insecure. Nagsorry naman siya but paulit ulit lang nangyayari pag magkasama kami.

One time inaya niya akong magbar kasama friends niya. I declined kasi nga di ko sila kilala and nahihiya ako. He insisted kaya sumama ako. Nung nasa bar na kami, ang layo namin sa isat isa. More than 10 kasi kami nun. It was really awkward. Di din ako masyadong marunong mag initiate ng convo kasi medyo maypagka-awkward akong tao. While he's laughing with his friends, nasa dulo ako, nagseselphone. Nahalata niya siguro kaya lumapit siya saakin.

Issue din samin yung di siya nag-uupdate. Nahihirapan daw siya at nakakalimutan niya minsan. 2-3 times a week siya naglalaro ng tennis, di manlang siya marunong magsabi sakin na andun na siya or sino kasama niya. I again communicated it to him, kasi di naman yun too much diba? Ending, lagi lang siyang nagsosorry kasi nakakalimutan niya daw talaga and he'll try his best to update me. Kahit sa if nasa work na siya, nanghuhula pa ako minsan.

Last April, lumipat na ako ng bahay. I was living with 2 other people sa isang apartment and sobrang gulo. Nagsisigawan na kami tatlo minsan dahil sa mga bagay na di naman mapagkasunduan kaya nagdecide na kami to end our contract.

Lumipat ako sa isang condo malapit sa work ko. I want to live alone for my own peace. Gusto ko malinis and CR ko, gusto ko ng malinis na kwarto, if magkakalat ako, wala akong maabalang tao.

I really thought about it kasi sakto lang yung pera ko. Makakasurvive ako, may onting ipon but yung pang date or pagkain ko sa labas yung macocompromise. I also communicated it sa kanya na medyo mababawasan yung paglabas ko dahil sa rent expenses ko.

For the last couple of months, lagi na akong may utang sa credit card ko. Nahihiya kasi akong hindi mag-ambag kaya napapaswipe ako.

Minsan nagsusuggest akong kumain muna sa fast food but ayaw niya kaya dun kami sa medyo pricey. Gets ko naman na ganun kinalakihan niya kaya nag-aadjust ako at some point, pero ngayon, nahihirapan na ako.

He's a good guy. Nakikita ko din yung effort niya saakin but i'm really confused right now.

I am about to message him today about ending it, but a part of me wants us to work. I am not desperate to be in a relationship, I am really selective. I just want us to work kasi I saw the potential, but right now, i'm too confused.

hii m18 here , m27 sya. Actually VJ buddy ko lng sya, and want ko sya karatin and gusto naman nya yon, pag avail ako pupuntahan ko sya sa bulacan and im from tarlac pero hindi pa ngayon malayo pa siguro yon. What would you feel asking this kind of question sakanya? tho im not hundred percent sure na talagang safe sya and onting experince lng naman daw meron sya? first time ko kasi gagawin yun ( im a virgin pa ) and natatakot ako since hindi talaga sya biro. Thankss for response!

update: hindi napo kami tutuloy hehe, okaynaman po saming dalawa at baka lumabas nalang kami ng walang nangyayare samin hehe thankyou all💗

With all due respect to different sogies or gender identities, madalas ick ko rin talaga mga gays na str8 kuno pero lahat ng characteristics ng pagiging gay meron siya like liking someone of the same gender.

I know and acknowledge na broad ang spectrum sa gender identities and expression pero this is something na gusto ko lang ivent out haha. Mas nabwibwisit ako kasi mas nairereinforce tuloy yung notion na mali ang maging bading, na nakakadiring maging bading kaya they will identify themselves as str8 nalang.

Alam ko rin na dapat tignan ito sa mas malalalim na lente baka naman kasi lumaki siya sa homophobic environment or iba yung values na ipinilit sa kanya pero gets ba? Hahaha Di ko maexplain ng maayos pero siguro its something personal lang. Maybe its a me problem or maybe not. With that being said, I still support everyone though. What I just said are just random thoughts that think sometimes better na di sinasabi out loud because it might offend people. But I still brought it up in an anonymous manner because I still want to think what are your thoughts about this.

Hello! As the title says, baka meron ditong BSN Student na pwede ako matulungan with my HRT.

I have been doing self administer HRT weekly for almost 2mos na. Kaya ko naman nung una pero this past few weeks kinakabahan ako whenever Im about to stick the needle on my thighs na 🥺🥺

Thank you!

So I (23) met this guy (28) at Bumble. We have been talking na rin for some time and decided to move the convo sa IG to know more about each other. One thing I noticed is nung nasa bumble pa lang kami matagal talaga interval ng replies nya usually hrs sya magreply and ganun pa rin sya sa IG. I gave him the benefit of the doubt kasi nga business guy sya unlike sakin na used sa 8-5. Hanggang sa katagalan, di talaga nagbago routine nya, hrs pa rin sya magreply minsan umaabot ng 14hrs wala manlang abiso na mabubusy sya all I know is I was there always left hanging, waiting for him. Ineextend ko lagi patience ko, kasi nga ayokong sakin lang iikot mundo nya and I really value individuality sa relationship. Eventually umabot na sa point na 4 messages per day na lang sya. I hate na alam ko na yung patutunguhan so I confronted him if gusto nya pa ba ituloy to or what kasi I don't feel the interest from him anymore. He replied quickly and said interested pa rin sya and feel nya na hindi na kami same sentiments on my end and said his goodbyes and cuts contact agad agad.

This is the first time I fully opened my heart to someone and ganto yung naging ending. I genuinely want to know him more and hoping na magprosper. Nakakadala and idk how will I ever trust someone again after this. It has been months and I still think about him.

Sorry rant lang, di pwedeng malaman ng friends ko kasi ako yung manhater samin hahahaha

Baka may alam kayong murang hsv 1 and 2 (herpes) blood test? Yung hindi na need ng request mula sa doctor. And also around metro manila na madali magset ng appointment at madali makuha yung result.

Tried somewhere in pasig kaso move ng move ang appointment tapos biglang hindi daw muna nila kaya magtest kasi nagresign ang phlebotomist nila?? So weird talaga kairita. Hahahaha

I just wanna share with you guys my encounter with an adult gay guy lol let's call him "Elio".

So we met, had a crush on him, inamin ko sa kanya that I have feelings, he doesn't believe me despite how I treat him, got rejected, may pinatulan siyang iba, lost my feelings for him but still cared for him like a "friend". Yan lang yung summary of what happened between us, sometimes we'd flirt but that's just it, alam ko naman kasing di niya ako gusto and he made it very clear in the first place nung sinabi niyang di pa siya ready magjowa but still dated a guy after that lmao.

Recently, medyo nagstart ulit kami magkausap, but I really didn't mind at all. Sobrang wala na lang nun sakin because knowing him, I know how playful he can be. Then I met this other guy, let's call him Nobita. He treats me better at nakakapanibago. He's far from how I was treated by Elio. He's very gentle, doesn't point out my insecurities, and most importantly he makes sure that I know kung ano ang lugar ko sa buhay niya.

I started "soft launching" him kahit na di pa naman kami official. Wala lang, I just appreciate him so much. Then suddenly, bigla akong chinat nitong si Elio telling me na he's gonna be in a relationship with somebody else and that he's just updating me kasi friend niya pa rin daw ako and I was like ???? the hell I care bro? Haha he then said sayang naman daw kasi yung pagpapapansin niya sakin nung nakaraan eh may kausap na raw pala akong iba. It felt off kasi what the fuck was that for? After rejecting me so many times and making me feel na wala akong stable na lugar sa buhay niya? After treating me like shit and just calling me when it's convenient to him? Tapos biglang ipapamukha niya sakin na parang niloko ko siya? Such a weirdo.

I pointed it out sa kanya na what was he expecting after niya akong ireject? And what's with the need to tell me about his love life? Man, some gays really thirst for validation from the feeling of being chased. He just proved to me na it's really not worth it dating him. I know i'm not conventionally attractive but hell no would I let a mediocre gay dude treat me like shit.

So guys, if you're an adult gay guy have some self-awareness and avoid being a bitch. Being this mean in your 20s is embarassing af.

Just venting this. I am 25M. Bago pa ako mag-try ng gay dating dito sa Reddit, medyo mababa na talaga self confidence ko, but despite that marami-rami namang nagkakagusto sa akin. Every school year mayroon girl na umaamin sa'kin, hanggang kabilang section and they sometime scream kapag nakikita nila ako at crush ako ng tropa nila. And there was someone who confessed to me abt her 11-year administration. And there's a gay that actually nearly 10 years.

Yung mga ganoong situation ang nagpapalakas ng loob ko minsan kahit bansot at tahimik akong lalaki haha. Dati kasi I'm not really interested in dating, at sobrang messed up ng utak ko if gay ba ako or Bi.

Noong college ko lang natanggap ang sarili ko and decided to be friends with LGBTQIA+ people but hindi pa ako totally out especially sa family kong conservative. Dati kasi puro lalaki lang din tropa ko. Halata namang may pagka-malambot ako kaya thankful ako that my straight male friends were very caring about me.

So ayun nga, kahit na mababa self confidence ko, naccheer up ako minsan kapag may nagkakagusto sa akin. Kahit noong college mayroon ding personal na umamin. So baka okay naman ako 'di ba? Then I tried gay dating. I even tried to hook up here pero cuddle/momol lang. Yun lang kasi trip ko haha. Na-shock lang ako when someone actually blocked me after sending my photos, and even blocked me on Reddit after. Para bang ganoon siya ka-pangit na pangit sa'kin para ura-urada gawin 'yon. Masakit pala kapag ikaw na mismo nakaranas ng rejection. Hindi ko kasi 'yon naranasan because whenever I like someone, lagi akong gusto rin pabalik. Either boy or girl. Yung mga umaamin sa'kin hinahandle ko nang maayos, and nagtthank you ako. Sa mga nakaka-exchange pictures ko naman, nagsasabi ako ng pass and he's not just my type ganun but hoping na makahanap siya ng match etc. Pero itong naba-block ako, parang shet nag-iiwan siya ng questions sa utak ko. Gets naman na hindi lang nila ako type, that's it. But to experience it once or twice nasaktan ako haha!

Pero ayun nga, maybe that's online dating. Baka hindi lang sa gay dating ganun. Yung mga blinock ako ay talaga namang mas pogi sa akin at maganda katawan. Sino ba naman akong tinatawag lang na cutie? Maybe I'm not their type, at sabi nga ng ibang bading, iba iba talaga market sa community. Haha. Sanayan lang talaga. Ayaw lang nila magpaka-plastik at magdrama pa to say pass or what. Masasanay rin ako and move on nalang haha

Na-share ko lang 'to kasi I started gay dating in 2022 pa, and now lang ako nakaranas na na-block ako huhu not once but thrice na ata tapos galing dito sa Reddit, baka lalo na akong pumangit talaga jk hahaha