u/Unlikely_Onion_9542

Ich habe mir heute eine DaimTorte aufgetaut. Hab mich mega drauf gefreut. Vorhin, als ich allein in der Küche war, habe ich angefangen mit ner Gabel ganz sauber, mit der langen Seite, Stück für Stück abzutrennen und zu essen. (ich kann keine Sätze mehr formulieren und habe absolute Wordfindungsstörungen. Dass sollte kurz erwähnt sein 🙈)

Naja. Irgendwann kommt mein Freund in die Küche und sticht mit den Spitzen der Gabel einfach so rein und hinterlässt einen bröckeligen, ungleichmäßig Rand 😭

Ich fand das wirklich schlimm und war für einen kurzen Moment sehr traurig. Der Kuchen war für mich zerstört. Ich kann das Gefühl nicht genau beschreiben, aber ich habe es physisch wahrgenommen..

Hat echt gedauert, bis ich da wieder drauf klar kam.. Habe dann wieder alles "gerade gezogen" und konnte den Kuchen wieder genießen.

Manchmal nerven solche Sachen, aber ich bin froh, einigermaßen darum zu wissen, dass es eine Sache ist, um besser damit umgehen zu können..

My triplets are 5 yo girls, never seperated before.

I'd really like to hear your thoughts on this.

One of my daughters desperately wanted to stay with me for one more night, while her two sisters wanted to go to their dad's (they live with him). After we talked it through calmly, all three of them were happy with that arrangement.

Their dad believes the girls should never be separated.

Because I let them spend that one night apart, we even ended up having a meeting with the kindergarten and child protective services (youth welfare).

The meeting focused almost entirely on that one separation and how the girls reacted afterward. The overall conclusion was that the girls shouldn't be separated anymore.

I see it different.

While she was alone with me, I noticed how much she suddenly talked. She sang by herself, chose a book without any arguments, and could do things at her own pace without constantly competing with or compromising with her sisters. She seemed much more relaxed, and I really felt that the one-on-one time did her a lot of good.

It made me wonder whether there might actually be many benefits to multiples occasionally spending individual time with just one parent. After all, each child is their own person and won't always have the same needs as their siblings.

I'm not talking about regular or long-term separations. Just an afternoon or an overnight stay every now and then, if one child wants it or if it naturally works out.

What do you think? Would you always keep triplets together, or do you think occasional one-on-one time with a parent can actually support their individual development?