I am getting so tired of this argument. I know animal activists came up with it to try and save every dog, but it simply isn't true. Yeah, bad owners exist. But they then create bad dogs. To look at a dog that mauled a child and say it isn't bad, only the owners, is insane.
There are a lot of really shitty people in the world. Me being an introvert that only left the house for necessary matters, was fortunate enough that most of these assholes were only seen online. Though, since I have recently encountered a miracle and found love, I have increasingly found myself leaving the comforts of home and experiencing others of my own species in the flesh.
For a while, I was very upset and got very worked up after encountering someone that upset me. I'd take that encounter home with me and dwell on it for days.
One night when I was driving home from my BF's place, a truck came up behind me. One of those trucks with the BLINDING LED headlights. Mind you, it was just us on the road and it was indeed a passing zone. The truck could have passed me at any moment. But nope. Truck tailgated me for 5 minutes. Which doesn't sound like a lot, but after 5 minutes of blinding LEDs reflecting in your eyes...yeah, my eyes and head hurt. I was pissed. The truck finally turned down another road.
I was pretty mad about it that night. I knew it was going to carry it with me for a few days and I just didn't want to. My BF and I had such a good time together and I didn't want our night spoiled by some idiot. I had a thought that I'd wished they'd crashed that stupid truck and smash in those damn headlights. I realized that made me feel a little better but then I thought that then they'd just get new headlights.
So then I imagined that when the truck turned down the road, it crashed into a tree, and the driver died.
And just like that, all my anger over being blinded and given a headache just went away. The fastest I've ever lost my anger. To this day, I feel no anger toward that truck driver. They're dead as far as I'm concerned, no longer tailgating people or blinding them with their obnoxious fucking headlights.
And that's my warped method of letting go of anger. If I feel annoyed by someone or someone does something stupid to me, I just imagine they died after our interaction or they are in the process of dying. It works surprisingly well.