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Hi all,

I want to buy 3 tickets for August 25. Please reply if you are selling.

Thanks

I need some help understanding if me wanting to move out is an impulsive decision or if it’s something that would actually help me.

I’m 21, grew up in Toronto, and come from a Caribbean family. I’ve never moved before or lived away from home for more than a week.

This isn’t a random thought I’ve been thinking about it for years, but especially over the last year. I just feel trapped and isolated. I feel like a spectator in my own home and like I don’t really have anything that’s just mine without someone eventually overstepping it. I’m not blaming anyone specifically, I just feel like I think differently from everyone else, so it’s hard to relate.

The only thing holding me back is money. I have some saved up and I make enough for my age but I’m risking my financial freedom. Rent is expensive for what I’d want, and I don’t really have friends I’d move in with, so I’d be doing it on my own.

Has anyone else felt like this? Did moving out actually help, or was it not the answer you thought it’d be?

This is my first Reddit post ever, and honestly it’s nerve‑racking even writing this. I don’t think anyone in my life actually understands what goes on in my head, and it drives me insane. The only advice I ever hear is “you gotta work on it,” but I’ve already done the “working on it” part. It just doesn’t feel like it fits who I am.

My “normal” never feels like everyone else’s normal. For years I’ve been trying to blend in, act like someone I’m not, and it’s drained me mentally and physically. It feels like my whole life is on display and people are waiting for me to slip up. And when I do, I get put on blast by my family like i never get the benefit of the doubt, and being told that was an “embarrassment”.

My parents compare people constantly, and I’ve hated it since I was a kid. I love my parents and my sister they’ve shaped me in so many good ways but my voice never feels heard. I’ve told them how much being compared messes with me, but nothing ever changes. After a while it just becomes mentally exhausting to keep bringing it up.

A lot of the big decisions in my life feel like they were made based on what they wanted instead of what I wanted. When I graduated high school in 2022, I wanted a gap year to figure myself out. Instead, I went straight into civil engineering. It’s a great degree, but I hate the work and it doesn’t fulfill me at all. I know people would kill to be in my position, but it doesn’t feel right for me and I’m tired of pretending it does.

I respect that my parents have more life experience, but the world is different now. I feel stuck between wanting to make my own choices and feeling pressured to follow theirs. I don’t know how to break out of that bubble.

There’s so much going on in my head the good, the bad, and everything in between and I don’t feel like I have anyone I can genuinely talk to about it. Not a therapist, just someone who actually gets it. I’ve been burnt out for a long time and I’m just trying to figure myself out