They respect NO boundaries
I am a French woman with an ex best friend who has BPD. I'm glad to be on the computer now to write a conversation i just her after 10 months of no contact, i wanted to put screenshots but it's in French so i guessed it's better that i directly translate it here.
For context, i met her 13 years, for 12 years we used to be really close and talking everyday to each other, i really thought we had a real connexion. 7 years ago she met a man and stayed with him for 7 years and they planned to get married last year. But last year he has broken up with her because he couldn't dealt with her emotions, only few weeks after that she met a woman and started dating her, now she believes she is the love of her life and that she found home. Let's called her Nataly.
Since she met that woman, she stopped talking to me, she discarded 13 years of friendship, it really hurted me because it all feels like she never saw me as a friend but maybe more like a potential romantic partner and since she has found another woman, i'm just a useless tool to her... i have sent her some texts since she met her and sent her funny reels as we always used to do, she always seen the messages but never answered. She still follows me on instagram and still watches my stories.
Now forward to today, she suddenly sent me a reel on insga which broke 10 months of no contact, this is how it went :
Me : that cat looks so sassy hahaha
Her : yeah, little demon, he's cute though !
Me : totally 😁
Her : by the way, i have sooooo much stuff to tell you since the last time we spoke, a lot of crazy things happened
Me : 👀
Her : First i moved out and now live in Normandy, my ex tried to contact me again on messenger but i blocked him so it's all good, Nataly and me are having ups and downs but it's alright, right now we're a bit angry at each other but i am sure it won't last !
Me : i think we should keep our distance
Her : wtf, why ?? Why would you say that, what's going on ??
Me : i thought you contacted me because you were my friend and that you missed me a bit like i missed you, in your text i was waiting a bit for an explanation to why you stopped contacting me and now it feels that the only reason you're contacting me is because you can't talk to your girlfriend !
Her : i am in disbelief right now, you want to push me away just because you thought you weren't my friend !? If i wasn't your friend i would have never shared vulnerability with you, which i am still doing right now, the way you sees me hurt me very much !
Me : i want you to know that if i am wrong i'm sorry, but i need a bit of distance right now because even though you explained to me it's not true, i still feel a bit hurt, also we haven't been texting for 10 months so i guess one more evening is alright, i'll text you tomorrow, take care ❤️
Her : i can't believe how selfish you f*cking are, i am telling you that i am struggling with my partner and your first thought is to pull away, DISGUSTING BEHAVIOUR, i should have never contacted you ever again, i was hurted but you devastated me even more, i would always be here for you and yet you leave me alone when i need you, you never were a good friend, i regret having texted you today, the demon wasn't the cat in the reel, it wad you all along !
Me : don't contact me ever again.
I am completely devastated...i needed to post it, it hurts very much..