u/Vegetable_Fact9931

I moved into a new apartment 6 months ago. It used to be a motel so the way it works, my very tiny backyard backs into my neighbors front door. I put up privacy fences already, but she sits on the other side right next to the fence and loudly talks on the phone for 8-10 hours a day while chain smoking cigarettes.

I have asked her to use her backyard (where she has a porch!!) But she said she prefers to sit in tje front right next to my fence. I cant sit outside, or even open the windows because of the amount of noise and cigarette smoke.

I have talked to the landlord, but since the neighbor has been there for over 10 years and i have just moved in, they said there is nothing they can do because she isn't technically doing anything wrong.

I wanted to put up windchimes next to where she sits, but they are not permitted in our complex.

What can I do to get her to stop??

I remember playing this song on Tap Tap Revenge, I thought it was tap tap 3, because I remember Magic City and this song being my favourites to play- but i cant find it on the song list. ive googled the lyrics and it keeps coming up as "i wish it would rain" by the temptations but that is NOT it, I was very much rock vibes. This is what I remember:

gentle piano

Sunshine blue skies have all gone away,

Hope is lost for any light again,

Something has started that we cant control

But I fear its too late

Craving a hero from another world to decide our fate

Sending signaaaaaaaals

rock guitar riff

Way back in the day I remember finding it on YouTube (before Spotify was a thing st least as far as I know lol) but now im not finding it anywhere, and I have no clue what its called!

I do good things, I try to be good, but my mind tells me that since it is not effortless for me i am not a good person. Because somewhere in my head, I am not just "that way". So what makes a good person? Is it intent? The way you naturally are? What you actually do?

I have been dating my (26f) boyfriend (28m) for 6 months. Things were good at the start, after about 3 months we started talking about the possibility of moving in together next year when he moves back to our hometown (he lives 1.5 hours away right now).

I got a new job a few months ago, and our work schedules dont line up very well anymore, so we ended up not seeing each other for 2 months. All day every day he sends me messages and tiktoks about how much he loves me, "this is how i see you", "us", and acts like i am a goddess.

While we were apart i found if hard to get him on the phone/video call (which i was confused about because he always was talking about how mucb he missed me), he would say that the only times i couod call, his friends wanted to play video games and theyre barely free so he wanted to play. I got fed up with that and after about 1.5 months he changed his tune and suddenly was talking about how his friends could wait and i matter so much more, which gave me some hope.

When we did finally get to see each other, he stayed at my house for a week while he was off work, and things didn't feel the same. I was a bit jaded over feeling neglected, and he was alllll over me, giving me wayyyy too much attention and I felt like I was being suffocated. He wouldn't let me get up off the couch, he insisted on doing everything for me. I was trying to see it as a gentleman thing, but I am quite independent and it honestly was really hard for me.

The entire time he stayed with me, all he did all day was smoke weed. He cooked dinner a few times but never even did that dishes (the ENTIRE time- like he made dinner on tuesday and left those same dishes soaking on Friday when he left). I didnt do the dishes because I didnt feel it was fair because I was working full time and he was completely off work, and the food he cooked was from my groceries that I bought.

He left to go home while I was at work (arpund 10am he left), and when I got home around 5pm I found the dishes soaking in the sink, the stove was still a mess, and A CANDLE BURNING. I also have cats that love candles. Candle burning, 7 hours alone with cats and unsupervised. Also without asking because I dont light candles, I have a candle warmer.

Ever since then he has continued to send me all the lovey lovers stuff, ive been distancing but he hasnt even asked me whats wrong or how I am. Every day he messages me and tells me he hopes im good and he hopes I had a good day but he never asks.

So im feeling pretty done. But the thing is that I know he is going to lose it when I call him to break up. Hes going to cry, beg, promise to change, everything. He told me that when we first met and I was dating someone else, he was in a months long depression that only lifted when I came back into his life. He is going to fight this, hard, and I am not good at holding my ground.

I will take any advice, please. How do I end this without feeling horribly guilty and folding?