u/Vegetable_Fact9931

Hello! I posted before but didnt put my whole routine so I am posting again (if you saw the last one!)

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My hair is curly/wavy but the curls are mostly underneath and in the shorter pieces like my bangs. The curls get so tangled throughout the day I can't not brush my hair, but then my hair is frizzy. I just feel like it isnt straight enough to brush normally but not curly enough to not brush, but maybe some products will help? I know my routine is not great but ive been struggling with severe depression for a few years and im just getting back into wanting to take care of my hair again. I got a haircut in April to cut off the dead ends, give some layers, and curtain bangs

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Heres the routine, I wash my hair every 3-5 days depending on how greasy it feels. Ive gone a week before but it gets too greasy.

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1. I wash with Function of Beauty shampoo (I know I need to get a different one and suggestions are welcome! But i am on a budget so ive still been using this because it was expensive)

2. I detangle in the shower with FOB conditioner and I let it sit for a really long time while I do all my other shower stuff

3. Rinse in cool water

4. I squeeze out the water with my hands and then usually put it up either in a towel or a microfiber hair towel

5. It is air dried, I dont currently have a hairdryer but I do want to get one soon

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Once its dry the waves kind of clump together in a not pretty way so I have to brush it out, but then it mostly straightens out but gets a bit frizzy. I was putting a couple dots of jojoba oil on my hands and putting it all through my hair but on my last post someone told me it was too heavy so i have stopped with that but ive noticed my hair is frizzier since

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I do have a satin bonnet but it gives me zits on my forehead from the tie :( so I stopped using it

Any and all advice is appreciated :)

The picture that looks like I am bleeding im not, they were vampire bite tattoos for a Halloween costume!

Met a guy on bumble, his profile was pretty cute, we had a lot in common and chatted for a week or two, and he asked me out!

I was pretty excited, and we agreed on a local pub. He got there a bit before me, so he told me he grabbed a seat at the bar and he was the one in the grey sweater. I got there and scanned the bar, and there was only one person in a grey sweater- and I did not recognize him. I looked around and the guy from the bar came up to me and was like "Hey I hope you don't mind I'm a hugger!" And gave me a hug.

The guy looked completely different than his profile- im talking balding, greasy, decent amount more weight, 3 inches shorter than his profile claimed, and to top it off: Jeffrey dahmer style glasses.

I have never wanted to leave somewhere so fast. But i am so awkward and I couldnt bring myself to say anything so I just sat down and had a drink.

The conversation was fine I guess, I was just so taken aback by the completely different appearance. And then he was also acting kinda gross, leaning back in his chair in a lazy kinda way, burping, and talking about how much he wanted to go have a cigarette (and I was like then go?? But he wanted me to go with him and i dont smoke and didnt know he did either! I was planning on leaving while he was out lol).

He kept staring at my boobs so much I put my arm in front, and then he grabbed my arm to "look at my tattoos" and run his hands all up my arm 🤢and I had to snatch it back and I rushed through the dinner saying i wasnt feeling well, got a box and ran home as quick as I could.

Fish n chips with extra tartar sauce given to me by a supportive waitress

Routine:

I wash my hair with Function of Beauty (I bought it a long time ago and I need to use it up before I buy any other shampoo and conditioner) 1-2 times a week

I typically use a leave in conditioner or some jojoba oil in my hair, and dry with a microfiber hair towel (the kind you plop and leave on you head) then air dry. Ive tried using mouse or gel before but it somehow seems to make my curls/waves less defined (and i hate the texture of the hair after)

I have tried only brushing when its wet but it still tends to flatten out, and it isnt curly enough to not brush it when its dry- so I do but then its frizzy.

Underneath gets all these pin curls, but the outer layer is more hit and miss with the texture.

Does anyone have hair like me that can help it look nicer??

*edit: the second picture and third pictures were after id brushed my hair when it was wt but I didnt dry with the towel just plain air dry