u/Weekly_Trouble_4865

I'm a recent Computer Science graduate, and lately I feel confused about almost every major decision in my life.

I don't have a job rn ,I am struggling to get one .I feel so lost specially because people around me of my age have jobs they earn ,I feel so behind learning stuffs . I didnt change my domain in time acc to industry needs .I am working hard but things feels very hard especially in todays job market .

I amtrying very hard to loose weight ,throughout my life I was very insecure of my weight ,I am consistent but I am loosing it very slowly (I lost 4 kgs in 2 months) .I am still not at my dream weight and this has affected my long term body image issue .

I am mentally exhausted ,my parents are financially established by the grace of god ,but i want to something in my life .i want to become financially independent .

All my life I have been a topper student but now I am struggling ,its not like i have never struggled before ,ik the stress i went through to get those grades to make my parents proud .but now I dont want to come out of my house because people ,relatives everyone asks me "job ka kya hua jaldi dekh lo fr ni milta blah blah" . I feel like a failure .the only person that trusts me is my mother.

I don't even have a friend grp ,forget about grp not even a single friend that I can share all this with .I see people around me having there partners and then theres me with my dry ass WhatsApp.

I know life is not a race or a competition but i think it is a competition with time .

Sometimes I feel like I overthink every decision because I want to make the "right" choice, and I'm scared of regretting it later.

At the same time, I know I'm hardworking and I genuinely believe I can build the life I want if I stay consistent.

For people who have gone through a similar phase in their 20s:

- How did you stop overthinking?

- How did you make big career decisions without constantly wondering "what if"?

- Did life become clearer with time?

- Am I overthinking ??

I'd really appreciate hearing your experiences rather than generic motivation.

Thank you.

Title: Should I accept a Service Desk job or continue preparing for Backend Development?

Hi everyone,

I'm a recent CSE graduate and I recently interviewed for a Service Desk role at Tech Mahindra.

Here's the situation:

3 LPA CTC (~around 19–23k in hand, not sure yet)

Noida (Sector 62)

Mostly night shifts (cab provided)

6 months training

My long-term goal is to become a Java Backend Developer.

I've already started preparing Java, DSA, SQL, APIs and Spring Boot, but I don't feel interview-ready for developer roles yet.

The reason I'm confused is that I don't need this job because of financial pressure. My family is supportive. I want a job mainly for financial independence and experience.

However, I also have migraines, and I have PCOS. I'm worried that permanent night shifts may affect my health and also leave me with less energy to prepare for backend roles.

If you were in my position, would you:

Accept the Service Desk job, gain experience, and prepare for backend alongside it?

Skip this opportunity, spend the next few months becoming interview-ready for backend roles, and apply for developer positions instead?

I'd especially appreciate advice from people who have worked in Service Desk and later switched to development, or from those who chose to wait and prepare for developer roles.

Thank you!

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Hi everyone,

I'm a recent CSE graduate and I recently interviewed for a Service Desk role at Tech Mahindra.

Here's the situation:

3 LPA CTC (~around 19–23k in hand, not sure yet)

Noida (Sector 62)

night shifts (cab provided)

6 months training

My long-term goal is to become a Java Backend Developer.

I've already started preparing Java, DSA, SQL, APIs and Spring Boot, but I don't feel interview-ready for developer roles yet.

The reason I'm confused is that I don't need this job because of financial pressure. My family is supportive. I want a job mainly for financial independence and experience.

However, I'm worried that permanent night shifts may affect my health and also leave me with less energy to prepare for backend roles.

If you were in my position, would you:

Accept the Service Desk job, gain experience, and prepare for backend alongside it?

Skip this opportunity, spend the next few months becoming interview-ready for backend roles, and apply for developer positions instead?

I'd especially appreciate advice from people who have worked in Service Desk and later switched to development, or from those who chose to wait and prepare for developer roles.

Thank you!

Need honest career advice from people working in tech.

I'm a 2026 CSE graduate and I'm confused about what to focus on. My goal is to get a good software engineering/backend role and be eligible for companies.

i chose ML as my domain during my btech but there are no opening for freshers so Iwant to switch to backend development.

I don't enjoy frontend/web development much. I'm interested in backend development and AI.

I'm confused between:

• Java + Spring Boot
• Python + FastAPI + AI/ML

If you were in my position (2026 grad with limited time before placements), which path would you choose and why?

My priorities are:

1. Better job opportunities
2. Long-term career growth
3. Strong salary potential
4. Skills that are actually used in industry

Would love advice from engineers, hiring managers, or anyone who has gone through placements recently.

Thanks!