u/Wh1tesuit

I'm going to have surgery soon, on July 7th. My doctor and I have talked about what to do with my ovaries and the general consensus is that we'd keep them, but if she finds anything detrimentally wrong with them, she'd remove them. Additionally, the reason why I'm getting a hysto is because they believe I have endometriosis.

So, I've been mulling over it for weeks until now, and I'm wondering that if they DO find endometriosis in me, should I just tell them to remove both ovaries? I've heard keeping them just kind of helps endometriosis keep growing. But I'm also worried about not having any natural horomones in my body, because to be honest, people make it sound like it's a death sentence if you have no natural horomones and something awful were to happen where you don't have access to T.

What do you guys think? I'm starting to become more comfortable with the idea of getting rid of my ovaries, but I'm scared what that might entail if something were to happen and I don't have access anymore to my horomones. But if I have endo, I feel like maybe I'd be better off getting rid of them? I'm not really sure, and it'd be nice to hear pros and cons or stories from other people who were in a similar situation and what you did.​

(Srry I misspelled the title)

So recently I've been wavering between confidence and insecurity about my body and my intimate life. It's hard to juggle because there are things I want to do, but am unable to due to the fact I haven't had bottom surgery.

For example, I'd like to wear thongs - but I'm scared that if I move my leg a certain way, etc, my junk is gonna just slip out the side or something. Or with lace boxer briefs, I'm worried it'll be see through in areas where I'd want it to be covered, or if I move, sit, walk, etc, in some sort of way, then something may be revealed.

I also want to try new things in the bedroom, but again feel limited because I haven't gotten bottom surgery. Even though some of the things may not even involve genitalia, it still kind of feels like it ruins the moment or adds extra steps I otherwise wouldn't have to deal with if I had gotten surgery. (Example, doing anal - something I'm interested in with my boyfriend, however, I'd have to keep my underwear on but slightly pulled down to be comfortable with doing it)

All to say, I'm just curious about what some of you all did to make yourself feel more comfortable and confident in yourself despite not having some certain things that'd make it easier. Stuff you wore, things you did, how you dealt with certain situations, etc.

P.s. I also want to say strap ons aren't really an option for me, since i know it's a popular recommendation. It ends up giving me more dysphoria and it makes me feel stupid.

Hello!! I've been kind of lurking on here looking at pictures, posts, etc. I've been having a really hard time choosing between phallo and meta for a while. Meta I wasn't very excited over purely for the fact that it was so small, and - with no intent to offend or disrespect - it honestly looks almost the same as my pre op bottom growth. And though I'm happy with the changes, I feel like getting meta won't alleviate bottom dysphoria if it essentially just looks the same as it is now.

Not that it wouldn't help some, but I don't think it'd be as helpful as I hoped. However, my one main thing that really puts me off from phallo is the ED. I don't really like the idea that I have to manually get erect, since it just feels like another thing that makes me harder to read and understand, if that makes any sense. However, I feel like I have more grievances with meta than I do phallo and I'm leaning more towards it anyways.

So, I have a few questions. If I were to do meta then phallo, would that be better than if I went straight for phallo? (Better in the sense of having the most sensation possible, but also if it'd help healing wise. I'm not sure if so many surgeries on my junk would ruin my sensitivity).

And if I got phallo but decided to go back to meta, would that be possible? And again, what would sensitivity be like?

And lastly, how did you get over your issues with phallo? Really my only issue is the manual erection, but other than that, I think phallo results look great and I'm really hoping for it. I just have a hard time convincing myself that it's something I should do since I tend to spiral because of one thing i don't like about it.​

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I'm getting a hysto in july for severe endo pain. I told my mother this, and we also mentioned that it is a bonus as I don't want to be pregnant and i also plan on getting bottom surgery. But mainly it's for pain rn.

However, I haven't told my dad yet. I'm scared he might kick me off because of that small bonus that it's for bottom surgery and he won't care it's mainly to get rid of pain. Is it possible for him to kick me off of the insurance before then? I'm pretty sure I'm a dependent, as I'm his kid, and he lists me as a dependent on taxes I assume.

Just very nervous as this is something I really need and I don't want to be kicked off if I tell him too early as my mom is really pressuring me.

The whole situation has been very stressful...

(Sorry if this isn't the right subreddit!)

The past 2 or 3 weeks I've seen about 3 foxes now. In my whole life, the only time I'd see a fox is if it were dead on the road or in a picture. But these past three I saw live and close.

The first time, I was heading over to my boyfriends house. A fox ran past me on the road there. Then, on my way back, I noticed a fox with her cubs in tall grass staring at me as I went by. Then just today, in my neighborhood of all places, I saw a fox walk past me only about 20ft away. I'm most surprised about today since I have a big neighborhood and though we do have some land around us, I never assumed it to be enough to have something like a fox roaming around.

I read some books on their symbolism but I wanted to get more insight on it from other people as well. I believe this has to be a sign of some sort because I've never seen an animal this much before, let alone a fox, which are usually so well hidden and skiddish.

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In general, I honestly kind of feel like an alien that landed on earth and I've been trying to figure out how to mimic human (mostly male) behavior for my whole life.

Sometimes when I'm with my boyfriend and his friend, I can just feel that his friend sees me differently and doesn't treat me the way he would if I were cis. To be honest though, I don't care much just because i don't see him all that much, but it's just sort of a reminder that I'm so different. But this sort of just segways into how I feel around other trans dudes.

I feel like I'm the only trans guy who has severe bottom dysphoria. I used to have bad top dysphoria too, but I got top surgery. But anyways, it just sort of sucks. I don't want to have sex with my natal parts in the first place but when i hear about other trans dudes who have bottom dysphoria but have sex with their natal junk it just confuses me. Or when trans dudes talk about how they can be completely naked around their partner despite having no bottom surgery.

It confuses me but also I get envious and hopeless, I guess? Sorry I'm not good at pinpointing what I'm feeling LMAO. But it's just like... i wish i could do that too. But I literally can't. I'd be forcing myself to be naked and I'd probably end up crying and getting suicidal over it. And it just frustates me because I wish i had that kind of bodily freedom to be completely naked like other trans guys and my boyfriend have.

I don't care much for the sex aspect other than being a little frustrated, confused, and jealous as well of other trans guys who have people who are able to touch their natal junk but still view them as a guy. I also don't like the advice "just turn off the light and let your boyfriend touch where ever". I'm not trying to be a dick but like... pretty sure there's a major difference that can be felt between a t-dick and a cis dick. Sooo... don't really know if that's gonna work out... Alongside that, I think I'm also just worried that if I did do smth like that with my bf, he'd see me as less of a guy. I'm like 90% sure that's just my insecurity talking but it's not like I'd wanna do anything like that anyways.

All in all, I think I'm just frustrated because I feel like there's no other trans dudes who are in a relationship who are like strictly hands off with their junk or their partner has never seen them completely naked. I could keep going about how all of it makes me feel but I'd just be repeating myself tbh. And to branch off of not feeling like there's other trans guys like me, i feel like there's no one to talk to in general about how I'm feeling.

I've just stopped telling my boyfriend stuff because it's usually just me being butthurt about trans related things and every time I've really went in depth about it i don't get a lot out of him. Also I don't want it sounding like he's bad or smth he's genuinely the best boyfriend ever but whenever I mention trans related things he just goes quiet and he's said before he doesn't know what to say, so what's the point in talking about it? Plus I don't like bringing attention to the fact I'm different from him because I wasn't born a guy like he was. Back on track, though, with the fact I can't talk to him about this kind of stuff, I also literally have no one. None of my friends are trans nor am I really that close to talk about it, but also I've been trying for MONTHS to find a therapist and it's been impossible.

I just wish I knew there was someone else who relates and if they have any advice or whatever. I hate having to just ignore my feelings or shove them down so I forget about it till later and it comes back 10x worse.​​​​

I took an edible a about 3 days ago now? I feel completely fine other than the fact that my sensations are still off. I feel a little numb all over my whole body, or like my sense of touch is a bit dulled. These edibles are from a dispensary, so it's not like they're sketch, and I've taken the same amount before and this hasn't happened.

I'm assuming it's because I took a couple edibles in the weeks prior to this and they all sort of added up and this is why I feel this way?

I'm just curious if this is something I should tell my doctor about or if I'll get in trouble/be reported because I'm under legal age to even be having edibles (21, but I'm also not under 18) and I got it from my friends father who has a medical marijuana card from the dispensary.

Thank you guys for helping! I've made a couple posts on here asking for advice and am pursuing a hysterectomy. My doctor got back to me today and said "I believe they approved it" (something along those lines). While I'm very happy, I'm a little nervous with her "I believe" statement, haha. So I'm just curious, has anyone ever been scheduled for a hysto and insurance approved it, but then backed out later on before the surgery? Are they able to do that?

For info, I'm getting the hysto not due to gender dysphoria but for medical reasons. I may have endometriosis and I also shared i was not interested in having children either.

Thank you all!

At first I was mostly getting chin hairs and noticing the classic peach fuzzy perv stache. But then I got my first chest hair! And I figured it'd keep growing in that area, and I have gotten a couple more, but now I'm getting like... clavicle hair?? And a couple shoulder hairs? And unfortunately even a couple.... back hairs

I'm hype about it since I'm assuming this means I'll be a pretty hairy dude (as I always hoped for) but has anyone else had it grow in this sporadically? I saw a video of a dude who grew one side of chest hair and the other was completely bare and I just keep thinking of that while my hairs keep growing in random spots lol

So since this is all coming on rather quickly than I thought (I made a post before asking for advice about my surgery options on this sub about a day ago), I'm now curious about the whole process. My doctor said she'd submit an order today and contact insurance. While I'm waiting, I have some questions.

1. How long is the typical wait time for someone getting a hysto due to endometriosis?

2. What types of surgery is there for hysto? I know there are two kinds, but I forget what the difference is between them.

3. How long is the recovery? I work as a pharmacy tech, which means a lot of running around, stretching, bending, squatting, etc. How long should I request off?

4. What is recovery like? Top surgery was essentially painless for me. It felt like I was sore from doing a hundred pushups the day before. Will it be worse, the same, or better?

5. Was there anything no one talks about that surprised you? Things with recovery, surgery, or after all of it?

6. Is there anything I should bring/have for recovery? Thankfully, I'm more than likely going to be home resting for recovery instead of a hotel like I was for top surgery.

7. Is there anything I shouldn't do during recovery? (Showering, any movement, etc)

If there's anything else you may think of, please mention it! I'm not as well prepared for this as I was my top surgery lol

So I need some advice. I'm a young transman and I've been having severe cramping pain. I've gone to the doctors and they're very confident that I have endometriosis.

The thing is, I'm not sure what surgery I should do. There's two options.

1. Laproscopy with IUD and fallopian tube removal. (This removal is to make sure i won't get pregnant as I'm horrified of the possibility).
2. Full hysterectomy but I keep my ovaries.

I'm not sure what to do exactly. The doctor told me if I do option 1 and I'm still having cramping then we can see what we can do from there (most likely a hysto). If I do option 2, then I don't have the option of an IUD. I'm just not really sure I'd like an IUD in the first place even if I'm under. Plus then I won't have to worry about bleeding/spotting if I get a hysto. But I'm really not too sure, honestly. I don't know if I should go full gun-ho or if I should take it step by step.

I planned on getting a full hysto anyways in the future, especially since I want bottom surgery, so I guess that's something else I'm considering.​ I guess I'm just worried about going full on into something and I need some advice on what might be the best.

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edit: Thank you guys for the help! I think what worried me was just the fact this was coming sooner than expected, as well as the fact I know I'll have some pushback from my family. But I think I'm going to opt for the full hysto. Hopefully I'll be able to get it without any issues and hopefully it'll be soon.

Sorry if this is TMI but the pain is driving me crazy

I've been having very severe cramping since January or December. At first it only happened on my periods. I rarely ever got cramps before, but these were a full blown 8 or 9/10. I can't move or do anything when they occur. All I can think about is the pain. Then, I began getting that same cramping about a week before my periods and during my periods still as well. Maybe in around February. Then, in March, it has escalated to getting these cramps almost every day (tho they are not nearly as painful, though still very disruptive and makes it hard for me to do what I need to). Now, I get them at night often, waking me up so I can't sleep.​​ I used to get severe cramping after orgasming (no penetrative sex), but now I'm starting to cramp just from getting aroused too!

It feels like it just keeps getting progressively worse quicker and quicker. I went to get an ultrasound (not internal) and they said they found no cysts, fibroids, etc. So it's making me wonder if it really is endometriosis, as when I told the gyno these symptoms she said she was 70% it may be endometriosis.

I'm going to meet up with a surgeon soon and tell them these symptoms, but essentially the point of what I'm asking for is, how likely is it that I have endo? I'm worried that if I do agree to a hysterectomy under the assumption I have endo, they might actually find nothing and won't go through with the hysto and my insurance won't cover anything. Is that possible?

(I seriously also do not want comments trying to force me into getting an internal ultrasound. I know everything about it, I know the spiel, but it's a decision I'm having a hard time coming to if needs to be done. My bottom dysphoria is more severe than it was before.)